Child’s Funeral

[Badgalkiki]

Hi, sorry to ask this and wasn’t sure where to put it…

What should you wear to a toddlers funeral? My sister mentioned that you shouldn’t wear black and cannot find any guidelines online anywhere. I want to be smart and respectful.

I agree. I have been to a child’s funeral and the vast majority of people were in black.

I’d assume black unless told otherwise.

For some reason, I have white stuck in my mind as an appropriate colour for a child's funeral. I have no idea why, although I suppose, with a Roman Catholic background, I'm associating it with a child's innocence?

Any funeral in standard 'British' culture is black unless specified otherwise.

Black marks respect and mourning.

I lost a child to MMC and the hospital organized a funeral for us, I wore black.

In some cultures children are dressed in white a funeral, as a mark of the innocence of children. Not familiar with this being extended to adults though

We were asked to wear yellow or pink, a few came in black/navy. It was an incredibly sad day punctuated with memories of such love, wonder and laughter.

When a friend’s DD died, the family asked everyone to wear pink as that was their little girl’s favourite colour.

When my DD died I don't think I would even have noticed what people were wearing. I was just overwhelmed with grief and pleased that people were there to support us. It was a while ago now but i seem to recall the men didn't wear black ties but wore bright childlike patterned ties. I wore a black dress with a red cardigan. I wouldn't over think it. Your presence is the most important thing.

The last few funerals I've been to, nobody wore all black. Dark/muted colours with a black coat maybe.

I agree with everyone else.
In the UK, black is the default colour for any funeral, UNLESS you have had specific requests from the family to do otherwise.

Never heard of it being different for a child.

Sorry to restart this but we’ve been told “Smart but not sombre”… help!

Black or navy but with some colour . A bright scarf? A dress with colour but with a dark jacket?

Smart clothes, bright colours.

Difficult in winter when everyone has a black coat.

Purple is a traditional colour of mourning

Bodies are usually wrapped in a purple shroud within the coffin.

Poor little soul.

May I ask what MMC is?

Navy or grey with a scarf to pop on for a bit of colour if you notice everyone else is wearing brights

I went to a toddlers funeral and wore black trousers, purple top and black cardigan, I was pregnant at the time so smarter clothes didn’t fit, there was no dress code. Close family and friends wore black, others wore muted colours, a very sad occasion

This is perfect.

It stands for Missed Miscarriage.

It where the baby stops growing and passes away prior to 24 weeks (when it becomes known as stillbirth) but your body does not go into 'labor' naturally so you think your still pregnant until its discovered theres no heartbeat at an ultrasound.

Usually people need medical induction to open the cervix and start contraction to release the placenta or surgery although some people may eventually miscarry naturally with time or 'reabsorb' depending on how far along.

I'd always wear black to funerals unless the family asks otherwise.
I'm sorry for your loss.