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Is getting a second wedding dress a waste?

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rhaenyra01 · 20/09/2023 23:45

I’m getting married next week, I have my wedding dress which I love, and ordered from a bridal shop over 12 months ago. At the time I was pregnant and worried about wearing anything figure-hugging postpartum, so my dress is a long sleeved, A line gown. I originally wanted a square neck, sleeveless, more of a sheath shape dress.
I do love my wedding dress and think it’s very classic and romantic, but I keep thinking about wearing another dress for the evening.

I have lost weight postpartum, which is making me think I could have had the sort of dress I had always wanted originally). I’ve seen a really lovely bridal dress on asos which is basically ideal, for about £120. Is it silly of me to wear another dress in the evening? I just don’t want to look back at my dress and think “I wish I’d got something else”, but I’d probably only end up wearing it for about four hours or so.

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CrappyBarbara · 20/09/2023 23:51

If you can afford it and it’s important to you £120 is more than reasonable for a wedding dress. Congrats on the weight loss!

FluffActually · 20/09/2023 23:55

in my culture 5 dresses is considered very understated for the bride!

Aquamarine1029 · 20/09/2023 23:56

It's your wedding day. Wear whatever you want.

UsingChangeofName · 20/09/2023 23:58

I wore my dress through until I got home.

I mean, most brides pay out a lot of money for "the dress" (usually a lot, relative you your usual budget in life) . It seems daft to me to then not wear it for the whole day.

If you write down what the day is costing you already, and remember this is just one day, one party, and give your head a little wobble, would you, at any other time seriously think it makes sense to add another £120 will make your day better ?

AtrociousCircumstance · 20/09/2023 23:59

Of course, get the second dress! And have an amazing day :-)

Morewineplease10 · 21/09/2023 00:01

I was going to say it's a waste, but 120 isn't much, especially if you might wear it again.

Littlepaleale · 23/09/2023 04:19

I don’t regret a single penny we spent on our wedding (17 years ago) and wish I’d spent more! We were pretty frugal but splurged where it was important to us. If you love it, go for it!

Loopytiles · 23/09/2023 04:42

Try on the asos dress

autienotnaughty · 23/09/2023 07:36

My friend did this her second dress was stunning and much more her.

Ohthatsabitshit · 23/09/2023 07:38

It’s traditional to change out if your wedding dress and leave in another dress.

Bernadinetta · 23/09/2023 07:41

For my SIL who got married over the summer I think it was the first dress that was the waste- although beautiful, it was huge and thick and heavy and it was a roasting day. She basically had it on for the getting ready photos and walking down the aisle and then was dripping with sweat so changed into her loose slinky slip style reception dress (and trainers!) much much earlier than planned! So definitely yes, have something comfy that you feel great in rests on reserve!

MsFrost · 23/09/2023 17:06

UsingChangeofName · 20/09/2023 23:58

I wore my dress through until I got home.

I mean, most brides pay out a lot of money for "the dress" (usually a lot, relative you your usual budget in life) . It seems daft to me to then not wear it for the whole day.

If you write down what the day is costing you already, and remember this is just one day, one party, and give your head a little wobble, would you, at any other time seriously think it makes sense to add another £120 will make your day better ?

I guess it's all about your individual attitude to money/ weddings and your financial situation.

In the context of a wedding which is probably costing £1000's, £120 for an evening dress is a drop in the ocean.

I changed into another dress in the evening at my wedding - mostly for comfort and so I could dance - it cost around £100 I think so nothing compared to my daytime bridal dress.

I have no regrets and I got a lot more joy out of the £100 that I spent on that dress than anything else I would have done with it.

Olika · 23/09/2023 17:44

I would as otherwise you keep regretting it

MerryChristmasToYou · 23/09/2023 18:29

Usually a bride has a wedding dress and a going away outfit. It's your big day, and you'll only get married once. Get it.

Lizzieregina · 23/09/2023 18:33

Definitely go try it on. £120 isn’t that much to pay.

LDNista · 23/09/2023 18:33

My sister did this. She was getting married in an Orthodox Church in a conservative country, so wore a full bridal gown with high neck and long lace sleeves. It was beautiful, but she chose a sleeveless, slinky, satin dress for the evening do and looked absolutely knock out. Less hot and stuffy than spending the whole night all trussed up, too!

napsarelifewithtwo · 23/09/2023 18:38

I had two dresses. A bigger dress for the day and a maxi thin dress for the evening so I could dance more freely and not get as hot! 100% get the second dress. Especially at that price. You won't regret it.

Indiaorigin · 23/09/2023 18:39

Depends on your finances. Will you be able to reuse or sell either or both.

Two ways of looking at the it’s a one off special day - it’s one day when you get to feel incredibly special or it’s one day is it a more money to spend for 24hours and then occasionally looking at your photos.

notapizzaeater · 23/09/2023 18:56

One of my friends has just done this, she had a huge frothy princess thing for the day and a sleek sexy number for the night to dance in

LadyBird1973 · 25/09/2023 08:47

I'd buy it. If you don't then you'll always be wishing you had. You may not live it irl, and prefer your wedding dress, but at least you'll know.

MoaningMolly · 25/09/2023 18:06

If it would make you happy, do it!

professionalnomad · 28/09/2023 18:19

It's your wedding and a really reasonable cost - DO IT!

SequinnedSilly · 28/09/2023 19:25

Can we see the asos dress?

Greengrassohla · 28/09/2023 19:33

If I were you I wouldn’t show us the ASOS dress. The only purpose of that would be if you weren’t sure about it yourself. Some twats bound to dislike it - and for me that might spoil it, if they articulated their dislike in a memorable way 😀

I would buy the dress

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