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When did you become comfortable in your style and not being worried about trends etc?

33 replies

Britpopbaby · 09/09/2023 20:21

Inspired by the myriad of skinny jeans threads. When did you develop an attitude of wearing what you want whether it’s necessarily in trend or not. This isn’t necessarily saying you don’t follow some trends but more about the confidence not to be a slave to fashion.

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MotherofGorgons · 09/09/2023 20:23

Always? I know what's going on but I wear what suits me. I think.

lljkk · 09/09/2023 20:23

About 5yo... some of us were always uncool.

Eileen101 · 09/09/2023 20:24

Always. I wear what I like and I'm comfortable in. I have never followed what's 'in'.

Wanttobekind · 09/09/2023 20:27

also in the 5 yo club. My mother never dressed me in anything I wanted to wear and at 12 I settled firmly into being a grumpy middle aged woman and my calendar age has been catching up with my mental age ever since.

shrunkenhead · 09/09/2023 20:31

I'd say as soon as I hit my 40s I suddenly cared less what others might think of my style and generally found my own. Mostly dresses and boots but that's v much me and I'm v comfortable with my style. I'm a dippy hippy at heart and feel able to fully embrace it.

persisted · 09/09/2023 20:31

As a teenager I didn't have the money, access, or frankly the figure to follow fashion so I didn't.
These days I have money and the wonders of the internet but am still fatter than I should be, and mostly don't care, so stick with what I like.

DontLeanOnTheKeyboard · 09/09/2023 20:31

IDGAS about trends, I’m sick of my older woman body - my brain hasn’t changed, just the men that might find me hot. I see fit blokes. They don’t even see me, let alone write off

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Britpopbaby · 09/09/2023 20:33

I think for me it’s since my body changed and I had access to more clothes and able to dress in the clothes that I have always wanted to wear but didn’t have the body confidence/ opportunity to wear. I’d say about three years!

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HundredMilesAnHour · 09/09/2023 20:43

At age 20. I lived in Paris for a year as a student and that really influenced me. I wear what I like and don't really care about fashion as such. I like to look stylish rather than fashionable other several rather conservative friends seem to think I'm "flamboyant" (I'm not, I just like what I consider to be "interesting pieces")

Growlybear83 · 09/09/2023 20:50

I've never been remotely interested in what clothes might be fashionable. I've always worn exactly what I like and what I think suits me. I really can't understand why anyone would care whether skinny jeans were trendy at the moment or not.

SabbatWheel · 09/09/2023 20:52

I am waaay past worrying about being trendy or even very dressed up, ever. Tidy for work, polo and jods for the yard, skinnies and top for going out. My wardrobe is very simple 😀

TheChosenTwo · 09/09/2023 20:55

I’ve never ever been into fashion or trends! I have no idea what’s ‘in’ and I just wear what I like, don’t give a second thought as to whether some magazine or other would deem what I wear as crimes against fashion.
I’m 38, my dds frequently ask me if I really needed another navy dress - yes, I bloody well do!!

dontgobaconmyheart · 09/09/2023 20:56

I'm interested in trends and often incorporate them (or a version of them) if I genuinely like how they look or look on me but I can't say I feel overly invested in what the very coolest people are wearing as something to draw down from. I'm not one of them (and don't want to be!) and more crucially Idon't have a comparable lifestyle in any way shape or form to a celebrity/influencer/taste maker.

The clothes I buy need to fit in with what I do day to day, I want to feel myself in them, have a bit of fun with them sometimes and just generally be comfortable as a priority. I've always felt the same about that but in my 30's I started doing a capsule wardrobe and that really required a lot of thought about what I like to wear and get use from so as a consequence of that, at this point (mid thirties) I buy less trend led clothing than ever and am happier in what I'm wearing than ever.

I also feel far less invested in how 'flattering' an item is in the typical sense as basis for whether I buy or wear something. I buy it because I like it and am no longer purposefully wanting to highlight my waist/bust etc.

meanderingbrook · 09/09/2023 20:58

I started one of the skinny jeans threads because it amused me. How much they were slated and sneered about on here specifically up until very recently.

I've still been wearing them on and off, like other styles too. Only wear what suits me.

I do and don't care what others thing. I certainly observe it. But it doesn't rule me. But anyone being sneery towards others can get my back up a bit. It'd be strange, I think, if I felt nothing.

It also amuses me that there have been more threads on the back of the thread I started.😁

Skinny jeans, so controversial! Who'd think it?

meanderingbrook · 09/09/2023 21:00

And now there is virtue signally about 'not caring'! Me thinks some protest too much!😂

meanderingbrook · 09/09/2023 21:00

Signalling!

MidnightOnceMore · 09/09/2023 21:00

Age 14. I realised I wanted to wear different thing to most I knew and I was fine with it.

StarDolphins · 09/09/2023 21:01

i’d say from 20 I followed my own style - before that I copied everyone else. Apart from docs/converse, my clothes are nice & unusual & I dress for myself.

i will never forget my Mum getting me some very expensive cobalt blue shoes that laced up the side. I cried, I tried to sneak my normal ones out & was devastated & every kid took the piss. I would love them now!

wellandtruly · 09/09/2023 21:05

From about 19/20.

meanderingbrook · 09/09/2023 21:07

I think the sneering particularly annoys me because it is a bit elitist. Anyone who can't afford the newest thing or comes from an area where no one buys the newest thing. So the skinny jeans being back really did amuse me.

Pocketfullofdogtreats · 09/09/2023 21:10

It would be post-menopause for me, so aged about 55. Charity shop finds are my thing. When I was quite ill with Covid I lost a lot of weight and ironically looked good even though was ill, and also had a hair dye disaster that I just had to live with so decided to brazen it out and pretend it was deliberate, with the upshot that I started wearing more 'daring' clothes choices (for me) such as a short kimono over shorts, and have now settled into a style and have clothes that I love wearing and feel good in. Ditto jewellery - I have some interesting old brooches.

PumpkinSpicedTea · 09/09/2023 21:37

This past year since I discovered Vinted. I find browsing there so much better for me as I'm looking at lots of different styles rather than going into a shop or website where its full of things on trend for this season! I'm 37 😊

Mrs86 · 09/09/2023 21:50

Always..

mdinbc · 09/09/2023 21:51

Never! I'm early 60's for reference.

I think anyone reading these forums follows trends to some degree. Are we all wearing wide leg jeans, loose dresses, chunky sandals? These are all trend-driven, as is most fashion.

Unless you dress the same as when you were a teenager, then you follow trends.
I'm not saying we all jump on every bandwagon; I skipped skinny jeans and flouncy floral dresses because I never felt comfortable in them. But it's fun to follow fashion, take the trends that suit you and leave some that don't. I would hate to be someone that followed trends blindly; it can read as sheepish and conformist.

PrinceHaz · 09/09/2023 22:09

I’m 53 and recently got my colours done. It’s been transformational.
I ve always liked the idea of clothes shopping but felt a kind of inertia because of fears of not finding things for my shape, height, age, to compensate for my cankles and so on. I used to spend ages in shops trying to find what might suit me.
Now, I know the colours that suit me best, I feel as if I’ve gained control of the experience. I’ve stopped worrying about being too old for clothes and just hunt down my colours in styles that suit me.