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Terrified to dye my hair

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Ceriane · 08/08/2023 15:30

As a teenager around the age of 14 I experimented with hair dyes, and again at 17, never did the allergy test and never had a reaction and never worried about it. In my early 20’s I regularly got my hair highlighted, sometimes friends did it for me or sometimes at a salon, then at 22 I was platinum blonde, honey blonde, bright red and then I settled on a plum colour for a while when I was 23, then I dyed it light brown, dark brown and then black. By the time I was 24 my natural colour had grown back so I just left my hair as it’s natural colour. When I was 29 I put a brown box dye on it, as I started to notice one or two greys and I wanted to make it shinier.When I was 30 I dyed my hair golden brown, I always did the allergy test (I never bothered when I was younger) never had a problem and never worried about it. Throughout my 30’s I used Naturtint and rotated the colours. I dyed my hair every 3 months (if I remembered) and never had a problem. We went into lockdown when I was 37 and I stopped dying my hair as no need. When we came out of lockdown I was 39 and I dyed my hair on holiday. By October you could see quite a few greys (had never been a problem before) so I dyed it again. In January 2022 I dyed it using Naturtint once a month and never had a problem. I booked in to have it highlighted but had become increasingly worried about being allergic to things (even though I had never been allergic to a hair dye, and had the allergy test). I had developed an anxiety disorder. Because of my anxiety, I didn’t get it done, I think other things in my life were starting to get to me at this stage. Not long after that I had Covid-19 – and I finally dyed my hair again using a box dye in June. Later that day I felt a slight burning sensation on my scalp and my hands were swollen and irritated where I had handled the dye. This worried me as I had never had a reaction before. It wasn’t severe, but I worry that it indicates that I could potentially develop a severe reaction. It seemed really ironic that I would actually develop an allergy after worrying about allergies when I hadn’t been allergic to it before. I then turned 40, I am now at the age where I need to dye my hair as I am starting to get a lot more greys. I’m scared to use hair dye, so I tried using coffee and food colouring. It lasted about a day, so didn’t really work. Not long after that, after going through a really stressful time in my life I began to suffer from anxiety and panic attacks that got worse and worse and became severely debilitating. My anxiety was mainly about a fear about having an allergic reaction and going into anaphylaxis. So, I became anxious around food, drinks, products, you name it I had become scared of it. I also had health anxiety and panic attacks in general and I became almost agoraphobic. I sought help for anxiety towards the end of last year as it had got completely out of hand. I’d had some kind of breakdown due to a lot of things I was going through. Please no judgement. This year I have been having help for anxiety, which has really helped with everything else however, I have been terrified to dye my hair so haven’t dyed it for a full year. I’m self-conscious about the greys, and it’s getting me down. I have always looked young for my age, but now I have grey hairs and am scared to or can’t use hair dye, it’s a real sense of loss of identity. I know that sounds really over the top but I’m not happy about being in my 40’s really as I’m nowhere near where I want to be in life, it’s not just about the hair dye. I can't just let myself go grey. I tried this Henna powder stuff – didn’t like it and had bad reviews and couldn’t bring myself to use it, threw it out as I didn’t want the powder getting everywhere, it was triggering my fear of allergies. Then I tried a patch test for just a normal box dye. 24 hours later, no redness, itching or swelling, however I was aware of an achy/burny feeling in the arm I put it on but wasn’t sure if I was imagining it. Not sure if I have a slight burning sensation or not. I think, if in doubt, don’t. My next step will be to try one that does not contain PPD but there just doesn't seem to be one that exists. I think I may need to speak to an immunologist, maybe they can test to see if I am allergic to any ingredients in hair dye, before I proceed further. Does anyone know any safe PPD free hair dyes. I just don't know what to do, my family/friends just think I'm being silly, and that I should just get over it and dye my hair, but they don't seem to understand how life-threatening a hair dye allergy can be. I just don't know what to do and I can't just walk around with grey hair. It's making me feel unattractive.

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SlowlyLosing · 08/08/2023 21:40

I'm sorry you are having such a hard time. Your hair obviously matters to you, if you're not content to be grey then it will need to be dyed.

Have you ever been to a salon for a dye? They have different products, you can explain your concerns, they'll do an allergy test and crucially they can avoid applying to your scalp if needed. Can your greys be blended in with foiled highlights/colours ? The dye wouldn't touch your skin other than during the wash.

If you want to stick to at home what about more temporary dyes? You could go very gentle and use something like the aveda colour conditioner every wash? It won't cover greys but will blend them a bit.

It also sounds like you could do with some support around your allergy concerns, are you getting support? You can self refer for counselling on the NHS.

Ceriane · 09/08/2023 09:47

Thank you. I think I will go to a salon and see what they can suggest and obviously they will do a patch test of anything they are going to use, and good to know you can have things done without it touching your scalp. I may think about something like balayage as I have heard that doesn’t touch your scalp and I did have an allergy test for that and wasn’t allergic. I think it is the home hair dyes with the PPD in them that I have potentially become allergic to.

I have recently had therapy on the NHS for anxiety, and it’s helped with everything else, but this hair dye thing is just a massive problem as I think I genuinely do have an allergy to something in certain hair dyes and I am worried that means it would be dangerous to dye my hair at all now.

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