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Funeral clothes as daughter

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LennyBalls · 21/07/2023 08:51

Good morning, my father passed away a couple of weeks ago. please can you tell me if this is appropriate to wear to a funeral as the daughter of the deceased. I am quite overweight and don't have a lot of choice in the styles I can wear.
Black pleated trousers and a long sleeved black top that has lace at the top of it?
I worry it is not formal enough. Will
Have smart shoes and a smart leather jacket too?

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ApolloandDaphne · 21/07/2023 08:53

I wore a navy floral dress to my DFs funeral and my DM wore similar. We agreed he would not have wanted us all shrouded in black. However you know your DF and your family better so only you can know if they will expect you to look very formal. Black trousers and top sounds perfect to me.

DPotter · 21/07/2023 08:56

Sorry about your Dad.

Funerals these days are a lot less formal than previously, so wear something you feel comfortable in. You don't have to be swathed in black unless you want to.

orangeleavesinautumn · 21/07/2023 08:59

wear anything you want, it is up to you, the only concern I would have is is your mother still around and is she happy with your choice?

Maddy70 · 21/07/2023 09:00

I'm so sorry. Yes that outfit is fine

TaigaSno · 21/07/2023 09:01

The outfit sounds fine. So sorry for your loss.

LennyBalls · 21/07/2023 09:23

Thank you for all the replies. No my mother has also passed.

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DelphiniumBlue · 22/07/2023 23:34

That outfit sounds fine, but tbh, you are the one who has been bereaved, and so you can set the tone. Wear what you want.
Just for comparison purposes, I wore a beige pencil skirt and a black jumper to my father's funeral as those were the only smart clothes I had.
At MiL's funeral all the women wore dark, smart clothes with a flash of her favourite colour, red. At an aunts funeral, one of her adult daughters was in a black dress, the other wore a bright coloured summer dress that her Mum had liked. Unrelieved black is no longer a funeral requirement, sombre muted and smart-ish is fairly common unless there is a specific reason to chose something else, eg the deceased's preference.
Sorry for your loss.

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