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Red for a wedding?

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PollyIndia · 27/06/2023 17:23

I've got a wedding in a few weeks. Boyfriend's friends, so I don't know many people. I've got this crimson ruched Norma Kamali dress I want to wear with a cream blazer and sparkly shoes and earrings. Too much? I know bright red can be iffy for a wedding...

Red for a wedding?
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GoldDuster · 27/06/2023 19:44

PollyIndia · 27/06/2023 17:58

Tbf, my boyfriend is the celebrant in a tiger print cape, so it's not a totally traditional wedding...
Currently 50/50... I'll see if there are any more opinions! I don't think the dress is comparable to that black extreme cutout one, ha

Traditionally a tiger print cape would be considered "iffy" attire for a wedding, it doesn't sound like you need to spend too much time working out if a red dress is going to offend.

Theblacksheepandme · 27/06/2023 19:48

I think it's a lovely dress and suitable for a wedding.

AnneShirleysNewDress · 27/06/2023 19:52

Dress is gorgeous. Definitely wear it.

JeminaSunshine · 27/06/2023 20:00

I don't like red and think that's more of an out out outfit but maybe the blazer will make it look less look at me

UncleRadley · 27/06/2023 20:10

It's lovely and will look so classy with a blazer. Absolutely fine for a wedding. Nobody really pays much attention unless you're in a white lace gown!

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PollyIndia · 27/06/2023 20:19

This is the blazer I was looking at…

Red for a wedding?
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PollyIndia · 27/06/2023 20:24

I’m small so will be quite oversized on me, so my thought was it would balance out the red. I mainly wanted to wear it as it was an impulse buy I’ve only worn once and I’m trying to feel less regretful about the purchase!

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eatdrinkandbemerry · 27/06/2023 20:31

You can't get your baps out in a church but if the ceremony is not in a church then that would be fine in my opinion 🤷‍♀️

FeelingwearyFeeelingsmall · 27/06/2023 20:36

I'd never heard that about red meaning you slept with the groom!

I'm going to a family wedding next month and was planning on wearing a ballet length fifties style red dress over big net petticoats. I hope nobody thinks that means I slept with my nephew

i will check the dress with the bride just in case - but as she is wearing a paisley dress cut to show off her tattoos with custom painted Dr Ms I don't think she will be too concerned about tradition.

Whendoesmydietstart · 27/06/2023 20:39

I love the dress, but I also think its an "I snagged the groom". Like you said though, it's none traditional so you should be fine.

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PollyIndia · 27/06/2023 21:11

FeelingwearyFeeelingsmall · 27/06/2023 20:36

I'd never heard that about red meaning you slept with the groom!

I'm going to a family wedding next month and was planning on wearing a ballet length fifties style red dress over big net petticoats. I hope nobody thinks that means I slept with my nephew

i will check the dress with the bride just in case - but as she is wearing a paisley dress cut to show off her tattoos with custom painted Dr Ms I don't think she will be too concerned about tradition.

I wanted to like this post but this isn’t Instagram so I can’t. But your outfit sounds great.
to the poster who said about getting your baps out, I mean this dress really doesn’t show cleavage, so that’s not an issue. Also ‘baps’…

I really don’t think anyone will be thinking I am trying to shag the groom!!

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NatashaDancing · 27/06/2023 21:17

The "baps" comment is just awful. And not even accurate.

Noseylittlemoo · 27/06/2023 21:20

@Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g you missed off your list that if it's in a church you must have your shoulders/arms/legs/ cleavage fully covered.

So a long sleeve polo neck beige sack should be OK.....
But what do I know? The last 2 weddings I've been to I've worn a short, sleeveless bright pink playsuit, and a bright pink strapless knee length dress!

Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 27/06/2023 23:04

This should do it.

Red for a wedding?
alloutofcareunits · 27/06/2023 23:14

ThatFraggle · 27/06/2023 18:05

I know a lot of people don't ascribe meaning to outfit colours in wedding guests, but a lot still do, and red means 'I slept with the groom.'

Bright red is also a bit 'look at me' when it is one day for the bride to be the center of attention.

I've never heard this, I wore red to my brother's wedding 2 years ago! I've definitely never slept with him 😂

Kayemm · 27/06/2023 23:19

Topictwenty · 27/06/2023 18:10

I just don’t get the colour thing at weddings. If anyone actually thinks red means you’ve slept with the groom, they should give themselves a long hard talking too, it’s complete and utter nonsense

I never knew about the colours thing!

The only time I wore red to a wedding I had actually slept with the groom. I was the bride though!

Theblacksheepandme · 27/06/2023 23:28

Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 27/06/2023 23:04

This should do it.

What facinator and pashmina would match that?

ThatFraggle · 27/06/2023 23:33

Kayemm · 27/06/2023 23:19

I never knew about the colours thing!

The only time I wore red to a wedding I had actually slept with the groom. I was the bride though!

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Black: you disapprove of the wedding and are treating it as a funeral.

White: trying to upstage the bride.

Red: you want attention and/or you slept with the groom. Wearing red out of spite/want him to change his mind.

Blossomtoes · 27/06/2023 23:44

ThatFraggle · 27/06/2023 18:05

I know a lot of people don't ascribe meaning to outfit colours in wedding guests, but a lot still do, and red means 'I slept with the groom.'

Bright red is also a bit 'look at me' when it is one day for the bride to be the center of attention.

Shit. I wore red for my stepson’s wedding. I wondered what all the whispering and sniggering was about.

It will be fine with a blazer over it @PollyIndia.

Theblacksheepandme · 28/06/2023 08:06

I was at a wedding last year and the Mother of the groom wore a red dress and she looked fabulous.

Theblacksheepandme · 28/06/2023 08:12

Crikey OP, if red means you've slept with the groom. What the hell does leopard print mean?

thedevilinablackdress · 28/06/2023 08:15

This stuff drives me insane! It seems the only "allowed" option is a nice dress, not too short, not too long. Dress up , but not too much - don't draw attention to yourself! (The Toast dress posted by PP would be out on not dressy enough grounds. I do like it tho...) Pastel colours, but don't match the bridesmaids. Gaaah.
I remember my DM and friends going to weddings in the 80s in something nice they already owned and felt good in. No big drama. Maybe a new blouse to go with that lovely silk skirt suit.
I'm only so annoyed because I've found myself caught up in the nonsense myself.
(Wear the dress OP)

Topictwenty · 28/06/2023 10:10

ThatFraggle · 27/06/2023 23:33

Black: you disapprove of the wedding and are treating it as a funeral.

White: trying to upstage the bride.

Red: you want attention and/or you slept with the groom. Wearing red out of spite/want him to change his mind.

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But what a load of nonsense. No one chooses the colour of their clothes to send a message to everyone around them. Anyone who believes in this is batshit

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PollyIndia · 28/06/2023 13:31

Theblacksheepandme · 28/06/2023 08:12

Crikey OP, if red means you've slept with the groom. What the hell does leopard print mean?

Slept with the bride AND groom?

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Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 28/06/2023 13:55

Of course, linking to that Toast dress has ensured that I am seeing endless ads for overpriced mud-coloured sacks from Toast now. Ho hum.