Self acceptance: What have you had to learn to accept about yourself and how have you managed to do it (fashion and beauty wise)?

[Downsizeddumpling]

I have had to accept that I have a stomach that is never going to be flat and that I need to accept (working on this ever day) or disguise (not really working on this although open to tips and tricks).

Things I need to accept but haven’t got there yet -

terrible generically dark eye bags and low hollows which mean I look tired even when well rested.

flat / square bum and hips with very little soft curve, just blunt rectangle shape.

that despite having some traditionally feminine features (bigger boobs, long hair, big lips) I am quite masculine looking. You couldn’t mistake me for a man but there is something distinctly masculine about my build. Maybe it’s the recycle aspect again.

I am very much not photogenic. I am not totally unattractive as such and scrub up ok but even the BEST photo of me is awful. I have small eyes and quite a strong face, it just doesn’t photograph well

I am working on all of this, some days it feels like I’m ok with it, others I feel lost like a frumpy, old man in a wig

I'm fat and middle aged, and that isn't going to reverse.

But I have good hair (thank you hair dye!), my boobs stick out further than my gut (just) and I have long legs. And I'm seriously neither on the pull not the job market, so I only need to please myself.

Mostly I wear over dyed black jeans and coloured tops, or wrap dresses fit nights out. And a pendant necklace that draws attention to my cleavage.

That I’m fat, and despite most of the world thinking that being fat is the worst thing a person could be, I’m actually ok with that. I was thin until about 7 years ago when I had therapy for bulimia. My fat body is a sign I have recovered.

My grey hair - I’m allergic to dye these days but now I have shiny silvers and I love them!

The other thing is chronic illnesses mean my body and mind don’t always do what I’d like them to. But, I’m lucky compared with some people so I take the wins.