Another ‘is this too white for a wedding’ thread

[Monkeymonkeymoo]

I know this has been done to death, and the answer is ‘if you’re not sure then it probably is’, but I’ve found a dress than I love and it goes with a cardigan/shoes that I already have.
It’s definitely not bridal but it does have a white background:
https://www.thereformation.com/products/bucatini-linen-dress/1310201LCU.html?dwvar_1310201LCU_color=LCU&quantity=1
I’d wear it with this cardigan: https://www.sezane.com/eu/product/barry-cardigan/blue#size-XXS
And shoes similar to this:
https://www.marksandspencer.com/ae/ankle-strap-wedge-espadrilles/p/000000060593855011.html?ef_id=ZG3cHgAABdh0fBQI%3A20230524094304%3As&extid=ps_ggl_4PS_AE_EN_Shopping_Smart_Women&gclid=CjwKCAjw67ajBhAVEiwA2g_jEBkuoVqyNg1NYASxZ3JKcmV0zVOyBWEx83P5K7LbzLX6bDFY8lyP5RoCIRMQAvD_BwE&gclsrc=aw.ds
Although if it’s hot I might take the cardigan off after the church bit (does that change things!?!)

Or should I play it safe and go for this instead:
https://www.sezane.com/eu/product/yuliana-dress/primrose#size-34 (same shoes no cardigan)

Or I’m open to other ideas!

I love the first dress, it is more structured and suitable for a wedding.

The whole conversation about white and weddings is getting a bit silly now. As long as it's not something that could be mistaken for a bridal gown, it's a bit a self obsessed bridezilla.

The cardigan is a bit too slouchy and casual for church, could you wear a wrap if you don't want to buy a jacket?

It didn't do much for the model either.

Neither and definitely not espadrilles

It’s not too white. They’re both lovely dresses. I actually prefer your second choice. Have a lovely time.

Love it OP. Cardigan gorgeous colour too. I don’t think too casual anything goes these days at most weddings unless there is a dress code (eg morning suits etc).

I would do cream espadrilles though with a tie.

I think I wouldn’t wear it myself (despite it being absolutely stunning) as if you stand near the bride her ivory dress will look dirty/off-white. But I suppose if you are not going to be in the photos etc it will be fine.

I like it - it's a bit different to normal wedding guest shapes. Don't like the Sezanne dress at all. As long as you've got the cardigan on and pulled shut for the photos it shouldn't be too bright.

I agree that lighter shoes would be better, and I'd prefer a more formal, less chunky cardigan.

And if you're only the mate's wife you won't be in many photos anyway.

<Not to self: position bouncers at entrance to wedding venue, with instructions to exclude any guest arriving in a … cardigan.>

Absolutely fine but I'd also see if there are any jackets within reason (ebay/ depop?). Espadrilles are nice but blue or tan over black

Agree with most others, first dress is lovely and not remotely bridal. Second one looks like something a woman from a particularly strict religious sect might wear to church. As others have pointed out, OP is not likely to be in many photos, so having a bit of white on the dress is surely not an issue.

Thanks everyone- the espadrilles I have are actually more obviously navy than the M&S ones (I bought them last year so the M&S ones were the closest I could find a link to). I do agree that they might not be formal enough though, I’ve got some tan leather heeled sandals that might work better.

I definitely won’t be in many formal photos. And I can keep the cardigan/blazer on in any group pictures.

I know the dress probably isn’t everyone’s taste (I don’t think many things are) but I’m open to other suggestions, especially from people who think it’s not formal enough or is too frumpy.
I’ve bought it to try on so it might look terrible anyway!
I’m mid thirties, 5’6 and a size 8-10 (small waist/boobs, bigger and bum, would ideally be able to wear a bra) if that helps influence what you’d suggest.
I’m perfectly happy to just blend in! It’s not my wedding so I don’t need to look amazing, just appropriate!

The dress is beautiful and the cardigan is a great match.
You're not in the wedding party so I think you have even fewer restrictions on what is 'appropriate' - go for it.

I’m think the dress is lovely but I’d dress it up a bit more than with a cardigan and espadrilles. So if it’s warm you could take a wrap for later or a blazer if not. No fascinator/hat though.

The first dress is STUNNING - I would wear that to a wedding. Please don't get the second dress.

The dress is lovely, the cardigan I think is too casual and popping out for lunch kinda vibe. Especially with the espadrilles. I’d do the dress but a more formal jacket and shoes

This. It's so drab compared to the first

Would this gold dress be considered wrong for a wedding guest please. Its not plain.

KarenMillen Crystal Applique Deep V Woven Maxi Dress | Debenhams

That would be a dress diberately worn to upstage the bride, @Jenasaurus … Is she your frenemy?

It’s hardly something one would wear to church, is it?

Fine if you’re only invited to a very high octane evening reception.

@Jenasaurus lovely modern bridal look - bride not a guest, or was that tongue in cheek response to a PP white/cream comment

Sorry Pp, I really don’t like the Debenhams dress (for a wedding or anything really).

https://www.hush-uk.com/ariyanna-cropped-blazer-midnight-navy/008493-1659.html

This linen mix cropped navy jacket would work well with dress 1 and your nude heels plus could be worn more casually with jeans later, per the model

Lovely outfit! Perfect for a wedding guest. Try it with those sandals in a light colour, the sandal style matches but a white / cream / beige shoe would look better than black

Love the dress but the cardigan makes it too causal for me. I know that's not what you were asking tho, 😂