How to help my daughter feel good about herself?

[Meili04]

My DD is 9 almost 10 she's 147cm and has size 5 feet. She's started puberty and her shape is forming , she says she feels like a freak all the other girls are dainty.

Some horrible girls call her the BFG , calling her big bum and a boy asked to touch her bum. She says she feels like the hulk. I've spoken to school and she's moving to a nicer one because of the behaviour of the other children. My DD feels so ashamed over her body she's started just wearing baggy clothes.

She's beautiful and I want to help her feel like that. I can't relate as I went through puberty very late 13/14 and I felt ready. Do Mners have any wise words? I've told her the other children will catch up it's difficult because she's one of the first.

Aww bless her tell her it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks she is who she is and should in brace it and tell people to mind there own business some mother and daughter time and just make her feel special ❤️

What does your daughter enjoy? Is she into nature, or arts or sports? I'd put lots of emphasis on spending time doing things she loves, and things she can do (and her body lets her do). It's such a tough time. But doing things in and with her wonderful body might help? Away from those nasty kids? A new / developed hobby or skill may help her confidence and if it can be done with people with different types of bodies (old/young/big/small etc) then all the better.

If she is sporty then an individual sport like tennis might be fun and build confidence? Half term holiday coaching classes are a good fun way to get started and meet other kids.

Also being taller in tennis is a great thing!

Or something less sporty like archery? Pottery? Art class? Stagecoach drama?

Anything to build some confidence.

My DD14 has ADHD and ASD so confidence building has been a big focus for me too, she has really struggled with changes to her body and puberty.

Just one tip....period pants. Modibodi or similar really helps them not have to struggle with the sanitary stuff at school when they are starting their periods younger.