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totally lost w clothes... help!

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elderflowerandpomelo · 11/05/2023 10:38

I have got myself into a total mess w clothes. I've never been clothesy, and have always tended towards a 'uniform' of sorts, but things have got out of hand, and I now have almost nothing that fits/isn't in rags. The jeans I have on now have two huge inner thigh cycling holes, for eg, but are still my 'best' jeans.

Shopping for clothes makes me sad, not happy. I don't tend to like what I see in the mirror, or to like what I see on hangers. We have a big household income, but I've never earned a lot myself, and prices frighten me.

Anyway, I MUST get myself together, and I just don't know where to start. I feel so discouraged now, and looking for things makes me even more discouraged. I was going to go into town today and go shopping, but I can't face it - I can't even go into shops, looking as I do now...

Imagine you were starting from scratch w me: what would you do, where would you go, what would you look for? (I seriously AM starting from scratch, btw - I'm down to a single bra, as well as my disastrous jeans; I wear the kids' socks etc. etc.)

I'm 49, 5.9. about 10.5 stone, but I have a small frame and small boobs, so am a bit soft and bulgy in places. Blue eyes, grey-blonde hair. Comfort always comes first, and washability. I WFH, so no need for work clothes, but my going out clothes crisis is just as severe as my everyday clothes crisis. Own no handbags, never habitually wear jewellery. No make up.

heeeeelppppp...
or, where do I find help???

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Doggymummar · 11/05/2023 10:44

If I was starting from scratch which I did following weightloss I had my colours done by colour me beautiful then I went to bravissimo to get properly bra fitted, bought firming pants to minimise the loose skin bough great hosiery from Heist and then tackled the outside. John Lewis and other department stores personal shoppers are great for pushing you outside your comfort zone and once you find what suits your shape and colouring you won't make so many mistakes

Sunnydays0101 · 11/05/2023 11:49

I would book an appointment for a personal shopper.

Or if you need clothes today, go and buy a pair or two of jeans or chinos as well as a few tops that will go with both - maybe a shirt and a light-weight jumper. To start you off buy outfits, rather than random bits. To get you started with shoes, maybe buy a pair of white trainers.

What shops have you easy access to?

TheNachtzehrer · 11/05/2023 11:53

I would potentially look at one of the "virtual shopper" services like Lookiero to build up a wardrobe slowly, plus an intro appointment with a John Lewis personal shopper who can help you tackle the underwear and top to toe aspect to begin with. They'll be happy to help and you can email them in advance with the brief.

Kickingupmerrybehaviour · 11/05/2023 12:01

I would find someone similar to your body shape and age on Instagram and buy what they buy or dupes. Some of them are stylists and may be able to do a consult.
here’s a few that you might like

https://instagram.com/shopyourwardrobe?igshid=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ==

https://instagram.com/stylebyclairelopez?igshid=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ==

https://instagram.com/instyle_helen?igshid=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ==

Instagram

https://instagram.com/stylebyclairelopez?igshid=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ==

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