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Where do your teens and pre-teens buy clothes?

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rcat74 · 30/04/2023 09:46

I have two extremely fussy DD’s. They both prefer to dress in an ‘edgy’ way which I don’t like but have to accept. The younger one initially loves what she buys and after one wear completely rejects it. We have got to the stage where we are saying she has to wear it or won’t get anything else. The reason I have kept buying is otherwise she would have nothing to wear!

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MrsElijahMikaelson1 · 30/04/2023 11:55

Urban outfitters
vinted
zara
shein

WhereTheWaldThingsAre · 30/04/2023 12:04

My elder Dd is a bit more “edgy”. She mainly buys from charity shops, but she will spot things anywhere. I’d say River Island has been quite successful, and Zara, with the bits from Primark, Mango, Urban Outfitters, Uniqlo.
She likes more vintage style stuff, denim jackets , leather, the odd bit of tweed even, DM boots, hats.

liveforsummer · 30/04/2023 12:05

I'd say new look and primark are your best bets if she's not wearing stuff much. No point paying out for quality clothes in this instance

GellerYeller · 30/04/2023 12:46

‘Edgy’ Teen:
Band shirts-vintage, HMV, online.
Hoodies- Plain from Primark or her favourite bands
Vans/DMs-Schuh.
Likes a charity shop haul
Bonkers S and M style Jewellery and belts with chains-Etsy
Buys Converse second hand, customises them before wearing

’Not so edgy’ teen:
Would clear a branch of Urban Outfitters in under an hour if she could afford it.
Coats- Hollister
Also uses Vinted, Depop, Bershka
Likes a Converse platform/whichever is the latest trainer fad. Heels come from New Look

They both get basics/denim in H and M, Primark, Zara and the occasional parcel from ASOS.

If I select any item of clothing for them from any of the above outlets it is automatically deemed to be crap and dismissed outright.

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rcat74 · 30/04/2023 14:30

Yes I have given up suggesting things too! Thank you, I think I just have to accept that I hate teen fashion but they all dress the same!

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Bumdealoftheweek · 30/04/2023 14:40

My 15 yr old DD is not in the slightest bit edgy but she is very fussy. She likes a lot of Urban Outfitters stuff, H and M, Superdry, Pull and Bear and vinted. We live fairly rurally so most things are bought online.

moomoogalicious · 30/04/2023 14:42

Depop, vinted, primark, shein, urban outfitters

IDontWantToBeAPie · 30/04/2023 15:02

rcat74 · 30/04/2023 09:46

I have two extremely fussy DD’s. They both prefer to dress in an ‘edgy’ way which I don’t like but have to accept. The younger one initially loves what she buys and after one wear completely rejects it. We have got to the stage where we are saying she has to wear it or won’t get anything else. The reason I have kept buying is otherwise she would have nothing to wear!

This sounds to me like a self esteem issue not a clothing issue. I felt similar a lot as a teen. Loved my clothes then wore them and saw myself in photos etc and felt fat or ugly and so never wore them again.

HorribleNecktie · 30/04/2023 15:08

DD is 10 and we are really struggling to get her clothes that she likes as well! She’s not a girly girl, lives in T shirts and leggings, mostly, but is looking for more fashionable, Wednesday Addams inspired things. We’ve found Vinted the most useful source.

Wonford · 30/04/2023 16:08

I have a friend who still buys clothes for her two older teen dds - she's just bought them matching pink North Face puffas. The girls are happy tonwear them - they are 17 and 20. I can't get my head round this ar all, mine would be horrified, both with a pink coat and having the same as her sister

hartof · 30/04/2023 16:13

Pull and bear is the favourite of my 15 year old. Also levi, vans, primark.

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rcat74 · 01/05/2023 22:56

I know what you mean but if you knew her you would know it’s not this. It can sometimes be as simple as it feels uncomfortable to her. Thank you everyone for your suggestions. It’s been interesting finding new shops to show them.

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EconomyClassRockstar · 01/05/2023 23:00

All the "edgy" kids I know love vintage stores (which is just a fancy way of saying charity shops) and going through their Grandparents' closets!

Spiderysenses · 01/05/2023 23:06

Charity shops mainly, TKMaxx, H&M, Zara. She likes Urban Outfitters but we don't have the cash for that.

EconomyClassRockstar · 01/05/2023 23:27

Re going into a grandparents closet, One of my best friends just lost her 100 year old EXTREMELY glamorous Grandmother. They invited her daughter and best friends to go into her closet and pick out a Prom dress. It was one of the cutest things I've ever seen as they were SO excited and no worries that anyone else would be wearing the same thing.

GiraAndGina · 02/05/2023 07:04

rcat74 · 01/05/2023 22:56

I know what you mean but if you knew her you would know it’s not this. It can sometimes be as simple as it feels uncomfortable to her. Thank you everyone for your suggestions. It’s been interesting finding new shops to show them.

How old is the dd who doesn't like how things feel after wearing them a couple of times? My dd used to do this but has now grown out of it as she is knows a bit more what she likes and doesn't. I think that age 10-13 is very tricky in this regard as they have grown out of the younger styles, or not caring what they wear, but aren't mature enough to know what they do like yet and care a bit more. It's high season for insecurities in girls, it's a normal part of their development.

Regarding you not liking teen clothes, I thought that that's what it's all about? Young people wearing what they like no matter how garish we feel it is, it's a rite of passage, surely? Long gone are the days where we could clothe them with tasteful, good quality clothes. It's definitely been an adjustment for me to realise they don't like the clothes I like 😂.

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rcat74 · 07/05/2023 21:00

GiraAndGina · 02/05/2023 07:04

How old is the dd who doesn't like how things feel after wearing them a couple of times? My dd used to do this but has now grown out of it as she is knows a bit more what she likes and doesn't. I think that age 10-13 is very tricky in this regard as they have grown out of the younger styles, or not caring what they wear, but aren't mature enough to know what they do like yet and care a bit more. It's high season for insecurities in girls, it's a normal part of their development.

Regarding you not liking teen clothes, I thought that that's what it's all about? Young people wearing what they like no matter how garish we feel it is, it's a rite of passage, surely? Long gone are the days where we could clothe them with tasteful, good quality clothes. It's definitely been an adjustment for me to realise they don't like the clothes I like 😂.

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@GiraAndGina she is 9. Today she told me she won’t wear her new converse as they are too hard. Yes you are right that is probably the point and I need to get used to it too! Comforting to know it is not just me though!

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missmoon · 07/05/2023 23:19

H&M and Zara for us. Sometimes New Look.

vestanesta · 08/05/2023 06:51

I own two of these who are very different. One loves primark and H&M. And wearing shorts which are basically pants with a massive hoodie of her dads. She loves vintage and charity shops too.

The other wears leggings and T-shirts. In black. From H&M. In black. Sometimes with a bit of jewellery. In black.

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