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What footwear with this dress?

26 replies

MissingMoominMamma · 31/03/2023 00:35

Hi, I want to wear this dress for a funeral. What shoes do you think would be appropriate with it?

I’m bigger than the model and it doesn’t look as flouncy on me.

Id normally wear chunky boots with a dress at this time of year, but I’m not sure. I’m reading the eulogy, or I wouldn’t care.

TIA .

What footwear with this dress?
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NatashaDancing · 31/03/2023 05:44

Any flat black pump or loafer.

Personally I wouldn't wear it to a funeral, especially if I were giving the eulogy. It's a cocktail/party/ going out dress.

Are you wearing tights? Black opaque?

Ncfgjdo · 31/03/2023 05:56

A thicker denier black tights and black heeled pointed court shoes x

BitOutOfPractice · 31/03/2023 05:59

first of all I’m sorry for your loss but I wouldn’t wear that to a funeral. It’s too short and party-ish. Sorry. Do you have an alternative?

NatashaDancing · 31/03/2023 06:02

Ncfgjdo · 31/03/2023 05:56

A thicker denier black tights and black heeled pointed court shoes x

Yes to thicker denier tights, no to heeled court. It's a party dress but flat or low shoes will tone it down a bit.

GooseberryCinnamonYogurt · 31/03/2023 06:09

It's not really suitable for a funeral imho.
But if you insist on wearing it then a low chunky heel shoe would suit.

GooseberryCinnamonYogurt · 31/03/2023 06:10

And thick tights!

EmmaGrundyForPM · 31/03/2023 06:14

Sorry but I don't think that's appropriate for a funeral, whatever shoes you wear with it. I'd find something else.

willowstar · 31/03/2023 07:30

I think it is absolutely fine for a funeral. Black tights and black shoes if you are going for the all black look. Only you know what kind of funeral it is/the person who has died and the vibe. I can't see anything wrong with chunky boots if you already have them and would wear them anyway, but if not I would wear it with heals.

BridaBrida · 31/03/2023 07:49

The dress is completely fine to wear to a funeral, I dread to think what sort of parties some people go to. I’d wear tights (super thick tights are very dated though) and either a black pointed court shoe or block healed sling back.

ElizabethBest · 31/03/2023 07:51

I wouldn’t wear that to a funeral - it’s a party dress.

benten54 · 31/03/2023 08:04

Sorry OP I wouldn't wear that. It's a bit short and flappery. It's the fussiness. Focus more on being understated.
My funeral go tos have been muted neutrals without much embellishment. Little need for head to toe black these days. Plain black trouser, white top and a beige jacket or the other way round with a black jacket.

NatashaDancing · 31/03/2023 08:35

benten54 · 31/03/2023 08:04

Sorry OP I wouldn't wear that. It's a bit short and flappery. It's the fussiness. Focus more on being understated.
My funeral go tos have been muted neutrals without much embellishment. Little need for head to toe black these days. Plain black trouser, white top and a beige jacket or the other way round with a black jacket.

I agree here's little need for funeral clothes to be all black. Obviously funerals like the Queen's are different but none of the mourners I saw at the Queen's funeral was wearing a dress like that. As you say it's too short, flappery and fussy.

Stravaig · 31/03/2023 08:37

I agree it's too short for a funeral. You could wear it over a pair of (black) trousers though. Then shoes/boots become less of an issue.

gettingoldisshit · 31/03/2023 08:39

I would wear it with black tights and boots or ballet pumps.

Xrays · 31/03/2023 08:47

It’s a bit partyish and short for a funeral but if you’re going to go for it balance it out with opaque black tights and flat shoes - smart loafers or ballerina type pumps.

BadForBusiness · 31/03/2023 08:55

Black opaques and loafers should be fine if you're a bit shorter than the model. Loafers are readily available at a wide range of price points, current without being "Look at me I'm fashionable", and probably useful for other occasions.

Justyouwaitandseeagain · 31/03/2023 08:57

i am shocked by the answers so far. If you are reading the eulogy then you are obviously one of the closest to the person whose funeral it is and therefore have every right to were what you want and feel is appropriate. If you are comfortable in chunky boots then go for it! I'm so sorry for your loss.

MuddledMindy · 31/03/2023 08:59

It's absolute fine for a funeral. I would wear it with thick black tights and Mary Jane type shoes with a small heel or platform style smart brogues

redspottedmug · 31/03/2023 09:01

Goodness, it's fine!
I assume as you're reading the eulogy you were very close to the deceased (sorry for your loss Flowers). In which case you are best placed to know what they would've been happy to see you in.
Just be yourself, and wear what you're comfortable in. Chunky boots and black opaque tights sounds fine.
I wore my favourite dress to a very close relative's funeral, because it felt like the right thing to do.

underthehawthorntree · 31/03/2023 09:01

It's perfect for a funeral. It's lovely.

I would wear any black shoe or boot to be honest. I think a flat chunky boot would be fine as long as they are clean and tidy looking. I would wear a smart coat too to finish off the outfit.

BadForBusiness · 31/03/2023 09:02

Justyouwaitandseeagain · 31/03/2023 08:57

i am shocked by the answers so far. If you are reading the eulogy then you are obviously one of the closest to the person whose funeral it is and therefore have every right to were what you want and feel is appropriate. If you are comfortable in chunky boots then go for it! I'm so sorry for your loss.

If she was confident that chunky boots were fine then she wouldn't be here asking us for advice. I agree that she does seem confident that the dress looks appropriate on her so unless it was blatantly clubbing wear, which it's not, I'd trust her judgement on that.

PoppyCocky · 31/03/2023 09:04

Sorry for your loss.
It's a bit of a 'flirty' dress and quite short for a funeral. If you have to wear it I would wear the thickest darkest tights I could find like 200 dernier and black patent or leather closed toe heels.

Willowtre1 · 31/03/2023 09:05

Flat shoe, thick black tights, jacket on top - otherwise choose something else as I agree it looks like a party dress

scrivette · 31/03/2023 09:11

Lovely dress and I would wear it to a funeral, maybe with a jacket whilst delivering the eulogy. Black tights and ballet pumps/loafers would look nice.

maddy68 · 31/03/2023 09:14

I think it's fine for a funeral I would wear thick black tights and shoe boots