Help 19 year old ds with style

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Ds is 19, autistic and has no sense of fashion. He looks really young for his age, people assume he is about 14.

This is a problem as he is at uni and starting to try and break into the music industry. He is doing well, but he turns up looking a mess in his comfy joggers and t shirt. Occasionally he will wear a pair of primark jeans and a polo shirt.

He hates chinos so will not wear those. Will tolerate jeans. What sort of brands/styles are in both for casual and a bit smarter?

Plain black long sleeve tshirt - or plain navy, burgundy etc. Go with everything and they somehow just look a bit smarter than tshirts - Next have some in at the moment and they are nice and soft. Can roll the sleeves up to preference.

I’m 22 and my brother is 19. In my area anyways branded clothes are definitely not as big as they used to be, So definitely would not bother spending loads if as you said he doesn’t care about clothes. Most boys his age go to uniform is a pair of straight leg blue jeans, a pull over hoodie, and a checked shirt unbuttoned on top. Also can’t go wrong with a plain white T-shirt, jeans and a checked or cord shirt over the top. Look at ASOS or Bershka men. Cargos are big at the minute if he’d wear them.

I’d just get loads of basics to start out; blue jeans, black jeans (ones that are baggier or with a straight leg are in atm but whatever style he prefers!), white T-shirt’s, hoodies in plain colours, couple of shirts to wear over the top.

Has he asked you to help him? Maybe he's happy and comfortable in what he is wearing? I certainly wouldn't have wanted my mum to buy me clothes to help me to 'fit in'.

It’s not about helping him to fit in. He’s been given professional feedback about his image.

Just saw that you were looking for more professional outfits, I’d stick to basics there too. Black jeans and a black T-shirt that fits well.

And if I didn’t buy him clothes he would have absolutely nothing to wear. He lost his black jeans recently after a gig which he needed for another show (all black is pit wear) and it was like pulling teeth getting him to go out and buy another pair.

Re. The Hawaiian shirt with joggers - my autistic daughter also struggles to understand what goes together when putting together an outfit, and refuses to wear anything on the waist that isn’t soft and elasticated.

I don’t think he needs to ignore his sensory issues but there might be a compromise somewhere. Maybe something like combat trousers with a drawstring waist might work? They’re all over the teen girl departments at the moment so hopefully are available for teen boys too. They’re not exactly smart, but a step up from joggers and could be worn with a t shirt and plaid shirt?