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Cheating on my hair dresser! Should I cancel the new appointment?

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Yohohaha · 19/01/2023 19:33

I've had highlights for years and more recently balyage. I spent a long time searching for a hairdresser that does my colour well and my hairdresser is lovely, and her balyage is flawless. I'm always happy. Cutting is another matter, I often go elsewhere for a cut as it's usually a few months in-between the colour and she doesn't seem to be offended by this. I just tell her my friend cuts it for me.

However, I moved house 3 years ago and I have to leave home an hour before the appointment to get there, park, and walk to the salon. By the time I've had my hair done and got home nearly the whole day is gone. I have a toddler and child free days are so precious to me that I just don't want to lose any more of my free time than I have to.

I live in a small town that doesn't have many hairdressers but a recommended one is only a 15 minute walk/3 minute drive away. After months of deliberation I booked an appointment with another hairdresser. But my anxiety over her not being as good at balyage, and not doing what I want is massive! And once I've had it done I can't face going back to my old hairdresser!

I know there's going to be hairdressers just as good as mine out there. But after years of dodgy highlights/balyage, am I making a massive mistake leaving my hairdresser behind?

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trulyunruly01 · 19/01/2023 19:40

If I decided to go back to hairdresser no 1, I would say I'd been in holiday and the sea water played havoc, or made my balayage go green, or some such so I had to get it done.
I'm in a pickle at the mo over whether to change pilates instructors. I feel so disloyal after all these years but there's a new studio opened up, it's a few quid cheaper and I need a new challenge 😵‍💫

Yohohaha · 19/01/2023 19:47

@trulyunruly01 I'm terrible at lying! The new salon is a little cheaper as well, plus but the time I've saved on petrol and parking it's probably going to save me £40-50.

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Yohohaha · 19/01/2023 19:48

I was thinking of sending her a thank you for doing my hair for the last few years and just be honest, and then maybe that gives me a way back in without being too awkward

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bakermummy21 · 19/01/2023 20:00

Maybe someone bought you a gift voucher for the new salon ?

RecoIIectionsMayVary · 19/01/2023 20:03

Leave a lovely review for original hairdresser saying how much you loved her and that you are devastated that you have moved away. This will help her with her business.

If new hairdressers is hopeless, you can go back and tell her that it was so awful you have to travel all that way to see her.

BevMarsh · 19/01/2023 20:04

The friend who cuts your hair between appointments has started a colouring course and wanted a model.
After a couple of gins you agreed.

declutteringmymind · 19/01/2023 20:06

Just tell her the truth. You just couldn't get a whole day to get your hair done so you went locally as you were short of time. It happens.

PacificallyRequested · 19/01/2023 20:07

The hairdresser is running a business. I can guarantee she won't give two hoots if she never sees you again. She'll book someone else into your appointment slot, still get paid and her life will go on.

Gunpowder · 19/01/2023 20:08

I’d do what RecollectionsMayVary suggests. Life is too short to keep travelling all that way, especially if you have a toddler. Don’t feel guilty. Your hairdresser will understand.

MarshaMelrose · 19/01/2023 20:09

Yohohaha · 19/01/2023 19:48

I was thinking of sending her a thank you for doing my hair for the last few years and just be honest, and then maybe that gives me a way back in without being too awkward

Nooooooo. What are you thinking?!! Never be honest with your hairdresser. If you've found one that does a good job, I'd never risk losing them permanently until I'd assured myself of a new one.
If the new one makes a mess, say you offered to be a model for your niece who is training to be a hairdresser. Or something like that. Lie. Lie. LIE!!

Thesonglastslonger · 19/01/2023 20:11

Take a photo of it how it is now so you can show future hairdressers what you like.

Kewp this appointment, hopefully it’ll be great. If it isn’t, go back to ofher hairdrrsser and say sheepishly “I thiught I’d try somewhere cheaper than you and nearer my new house but they aren’t as good as you so I’ve come crawling back.” She’ll be flattered.

Montague22 · 19/01/2023 21:31

I would definitely stick with her. Listen to a podcast or music on the journey so it’s more enjoyable. Take a coffee in the car. You are saving 90 minutes.

PrimeBottleIcePopFlavour · 11/08/2023 01:10

Never understood this whole loyalty to a hairdresser! I go from one to the next as I find I always get the best service on the first appointment as they don't know you and then it all goes downhill.
What happened in the end?

Yohohaha · 11/08/2023 07:04

I went to the new one, it was ok, went back again and decided I wasn't happy as highlights were a bit stripy so went to someone else. Didn't go back to my old hairdresser. This latest one did a good job so fingers crossed it continues!

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painochocolate · 11/08/2023 07:55

RecoIIectionsMayVary · 19/01/2023 20:03

Leave a lovely review for original hairdresser saying how much you loved her and that you are devastated that you have moved away. This will help her with her business.

If new hairdressers is hopeless, you can go back and tell her that it was so awful you have to travel all that way to see her.

This

Nannyfannybanny · 11/08/2023 08:04

Have had problems with cuts/colour, using my last hairdresser about 4 years,then she forgot me a few months ago,I was not impressed,I changed. DD said at least she told me the truth! I don't see it that way. We were friendly, but she's not a friend,it's a business. You don't forget a business arrangement. Last one would be washing her own hair, always late(salon) now back to a different salon, quite near,a great job, discovered she lives very near me!

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