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Hairdresser that doesn't talk

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Toocooltoboogie · 07/01/2023 20:51

Just wanted some views on this.
I've recently started going to a new hairdresser - I've been three times. He is very talented and I absolutely love my hair but he hardly says a word unless i initiate it then its just short answers and nothing reciprocated. The first time I went I was a bit nervous so chatted continuous but felt after I'd left, although he was friendly, I asked all the questions and no effort was made in return so he just talked about himself for 2 hours. I went yesterday and apart from a few pleasantries he made no effort at conversation what so ever and neither does his assistant. I felt really awkward as he only has one customer at a time so there's no background chatter. Does anyone else stick with a hairdresser they don't gel with if they love their hair?? Its the best its been for years. BTW he's the most expensive hairdresser I've ever had and the reviews his salon gets seem to suggest he's chatty and friendly. Not sure what to make of it!

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Cuwins · 07/01/2023 20:52

Wow I would love this. Hate going to the hairdressers partly because of the small talk!

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Toocooltoboogie · 07/01/2023 20:55

Cuwins I used to feel the same way but I just feel a bit awkward. I think some effort should be made to put the client at ease.

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MiddleOfTheNightAgain · 07/01/2023 20:57

If your hair looks great, try to embrace it and switch off. Don’t try to make convo with him, don’t take responsibility for it. I guess if you feel too uncomfortable you won’t go back.

FannyFifer · 07/01/2023 20:57

This would be my total dream, I bloody hate all the inane chat, I don't care about them, they don't care about me, just cut my hair.

minticecreamisjustok · 07/01/2023 20:58

Having a good hairstylist that makes you look and feel great is worth putting up with the dull conversation. So difficult to find a hairstylist that does exactly what you want. Read instead.

Goodread1 · 07/01/2023 20:59

Hi Op
Along as makes you feel good about yourself and your hair of course,

What does it really matter if he isn't the most chatty of hairdressers around, really,

Don't take it personally, just read a mag or two,
Check your mobile ,

See these kind of hairdressers appointments as a pamper session exclusively for yourself,
If you like time out for yourself

No need to feel awkward now being around him,

It does feel like bit like🇮🇳 indian head massage ,having your hair washed at hairdressers.

Welshy26 · 07/01/2023 21:00

OMG...dream hairdresser!

Antst · 07/01/2023 21:01

The important question for me would be "how is he with hair"? if he's great, then I'd accept that he's not a chatterer.

Maybe he needs to focus to do a good job. If he were giving you a cookie-cutter haircut without thinking about it much, then the result probably wouldn't be great. I think anyone would need to focus to do a great job.

If you like that atmosphere of a chatty hairdresser, maybe get a blow dry once in a while from someone else?

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Toocooltoboogie · 07/01/2023 21:02

MiddleOfTheNightAgain That's what I did yesterday. I thought he could make the effort....resulted in near silence for 2 hours and me feeling awkward 😆
I do love my hair so I'll give it another go and see if I can embrace the quiet.

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HaroldBeThyName · 07/01/2023 21:02

Sounds like bliss!

tinybyxor · 07/01/2023 21:03

I like a small amount of conversation - preferably about hair and then music/silence so I can read.

CuriousMama · 07/01/2023 21:04

Just take a book.

Seems odd though he talks to other clients?

Goodread1 · 07/01/2023 21:04

Even read a newspaper, lie back and enjoy, thinking of what have to eat later or Daydream about stuff

Sounds really good hairdresser to have,
Is he good looking too? 🤔😁 L.o.l

evemillbank · 07/01/2023 21:04

I never talk to mine. I bring a book. They know it's my relaxation time and I'm sure they are glad not to make small talk

GiltEdges · 07/01/2023 21:05

Take a book.

SuperHandss · 07/01/2023 21:05

The dream. I would take a book and let him crack on.

Fuckstix · 07/01/2023 21:05

He sounds great!!

Don't take it personally. I've a friend who had to leave hairdressing as she's a very reserved person and found the chit chat so difficult and draining. I think she worked for a big name salon who pushed them to make conversation. Fair play to him for just getting on with the job.

If he's quite a shy person then i wonder whether he found your (unintentional) nervous chatter and questioning rather hard to respond to and get a natural conversation going.

Just take a book or do some reading on your phone.

Flowersinthebasement · 07/01/2023 21:07

I have the initial chat about what I want and what they suggest etc. Then I take out my hearing aids and the silence is fkn golden. No one can be offended, it's bloody great!

saraclara · 07/01/2023 21:08

I've been with my present hairdresser for 15 years, precisely because she DOESN'T chat! Even better, she now has her own salon at her house, so I don't have to overhear the inane chatter of her old salon colleagues at the next chair!

Justcallmebebes · 07/01/2023 21:08

Sounds great. I went for a facial and massage recently and just wanted to zone out but the therapist kept nattering on and on and on. Just inane chit chat and didn't pick up that I was just wanting silence and to chill. Won't go back

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Toocooltoboogie · 07/01/2023 21:09

CuriousMama I think that's what's bothering me. Lots of reviews mention how chatty and friendly he is. He was chatty on my first appointment and it was interesting but I put in all the effort. Maybe that's how it works in this salon. He'll chat if your in the mood to. I'm a bit shy so probably taking it too personally.

I'm going to stick with it as it's only 2 hours every 8 weeks.

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LexMitior · 07/01/2023 21:09

Sounds perfect!

Antst · 07/01/2023 21:11

@Toocooltoboogie, that sounds like it! If he's expensive, then he'll know to be tuned in to the customer's cues. If you're not talking to him, he may think you don't want to talk.

You could try making a comment and seeing how he reacts. If you have a hard time with small talk, maybe just say something like, "I love XXX about my hair since you started doing it." If he shuts down though, I would not worry. He's probably grateful for the rest and the opportunity to do a good job.

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Toocooltoboogie · 07/01/2023 21:12

Goodread1 He is very good looking and has that edgy look that's hard to pull off. Yep I think I'll stick with him 😁

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Iwritethissittinginthekitchensink · 07/01/2023 21:20

Can I have his number?! I’ve just stopped rebooking with my hairdresser because she chats so much and my hair is getting increasingly bad!