Struggling with confidence

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I feel like I need to change my style but I'm struggling with confidence. I'm in a rut with my hair and clothes. I know it sounds ridiculous but I feel self conscious if I wear a dress for work or if I curl my hair. I feel so ugly and grumpy and I know little changes like that will make me feel better and hopefully look a bit better but I struggle with what people think about me. For example, I've had my hair cut shoulder length/ long bob and I could do the wavy hair style but don't think it suits me. I really want to leave the house with my hair curled but feel like people will see how rubbish I am at curling it etc. Not sure why I'm posting other than wondering if anyone else feels like this.

Ah OP don’t be so harsh on yourself, you are your own worst critic. The way I would look at things is to make small changes if that is what you want to do and do it with the mindset of comparing what little changes you make to six month ago. For example, “I am wearing purple eyeshadow and red lipstick which I wouldn’t have done six months ago” and I am comfortable with it if you get what I mean. Gradually do things that make you feel good about yourself and feel good about the steps you make to achieving what you want even if you make mistakes. Most of all be kind to yourself!

I can be a bit like that. The best advice I can give is fake it until it becomes real
Went to a photoshoot group thing a couple of years ago and had never been before, and was so nervous! Afterwards one of the guys said to me "so how many times have you been here before?"
When I said none, first time he was "I thought you were a veteran, you walked in like you knew the place"

Perfect advice already from two posters. Small changes- excellent advice.

I’m like this! I’ve recently started yoga… after a few months when I realised it wasn’t just one of my passing fads, I bought some proper yoga pants, a tshirt and a really nice mat…

first up introduced the pants… washed a few times… then the tshirt… then the mat.

new dress? Never wear it on a Monday… or with fresh hair…

my rules are bizarre, but work for me… can’t bear people commenting if it’s too dramatic, so am very gradual :)

@nzeire this is funny, I’m similar.

wouldn’t wear a whole ‘new’ outfit in one go.
prefer to look like I haven’t tried too hard. That’s weird isn’t it!!

Thanks all. Yes it's the fear of people noticing or commenting