Last minute wedding HELP please!!

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We are getting married in the next few weeks due to OH being diagnosed with serious illness. We have been together 29 years but now everything needs to be done quickly (although hoping he’ll make a full recovery and we’ll have another 29 years!) Very small registry office do, but I feel I should give some thought to clothes, nails, hair etc. Don’t want to stress him out and as he’s feeling poorly I think he’ll just stick to normal clothes with trainers etc - super casual. Thinking me in a dress would be strange if he’s so casual but I’m not sure what to do, and would really value some input as everything is so stressful esp at this time of year! Thanks 😊

What's your usual style like?

There are some lovely high street wedding dresses OP, I looked at Monsoon, Chi Chi and Phase Eight when I got married.

Don't give another thought to anything being strange, you should each wear what makes you comfortable and happy, and if that's a full wedding dress with cathedral train for you and a tracksuit for him then so be it. Your day, your rules x

John Lewis can be great at sorting out a whole look/outfit when time is of the essence, if there's one near you..... Hope you enjoy your celebration Op.

Maybe have someone come to you for hair/nails to save time?

I hope that there is a positive outcome for your OH and congratulations on your upcoming wedding.

Remember that he is marrying "you" so just be yourself and do whatever feels comfortable and I'm sure he will think you look amazing whatever you end up deciding. I hope you both have a lovely day.

Congratulations on your engagement!💕

You could consider renting a dress? There are lots of websites now that offer four-day rentals and the like, so much cheaper than buying.

Skinny jeans, top, boots type outfit x

Thanks, all a bit out my comfort zone!!

What would you like to wear if you could? Does he have a view of what he'd like you to be in? Has he aways wanted a white wedding or does he just want a plain simple ceremony with no fussy clothes?

I know you don't want to stress him, but you could have a brief chat?

If you're confronting a life limiting illness, maybe have a look at The Wishing Well charity or the Gift Of A Wedding charity - they are very experienced in short notice weddings and might be best placed for advice?

OP we got married on the QT to avoid the situation you're in now, so I do feel for you.
Really go with your gut here - is the effort to decide on and sort hair, nails, dress etc worth it? Take a little time to sit quietly and listen to your own feelings about each. You might decide you do care about one thing but not about the other.
Don't make yourself look too different anyway as your OH will be reassured if the bride that appears is somewhat recognisable as the woman he loves!
We got married in cycling clothes as we and our witnesses had cycled there!

Could you wear skinny jeans but get a really nice floaty top.

It's the winter so a lovely cosy dress and boots might work? Maybe a velvet one for a bit of luxury.

Firstly I wish your Husband all the very best and a full recovery.
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Give an idea of your shape/height... maybe post a pic if feeling brave and edit your face out so you're annon
If sticking with a fairly casual look. What about some flowy wide leg trousers and a silk blouse, faux fur jacket in off white just to give a nod to the wedding vibe 😊 (I've just bought one from new look for about £27 and it's lovely)
What's your budget?

Think he’d be happy with just normal casual, but even if I stick to that I feel stuck, just everyday stuff? Or should I try to do something more special!!

I love the idea of just cycling clothes, yes I think he’d prefer total normality, probably why we’ve not got married before!

Do you ever wear dresses for an evening out?

I think a dress would be nice, doesn't need to be a wedding dress but look online for something pretty. You can pair it with boots as well, why not?

How about keep your skinnies and pair with some lovely suede boots, maybe chunky heels and knee high? Could wear that with a nice shirt/blouse with a smart blazer?

Or how about boots with a winter midi, so a darker print. They can look super casual with flat ankle boots or more dressy with heeled boots.

My husband married me in jeans, trainers and a hoodie. I never wanted the big white wedding but did want to look a bit nicer than usual, so wore a black satin skater style dress I already owned, sparkly tights and black boots. Basically the kind of thing that I'd wear for a slightly-fancier-than-normal night out. My usual clothes are boots/trainers, leggings or jeans and a tshirt or hoodie. What would you wear to a really nice restaurant or a big night out/gig/anything that you might put a bit more effort into than your day to day clothes?

We got married in cycling clothes as we and our witnesses had cycled there!

Awww ... love that! Untraditional yet still somehow romantic and sweet.

I always liked the idea of having a wedding where the dress code is, "wear your absolute favourite item of clothing" - whether it be pyjamas, ballgown, jeans, power suit, your late father's old jumper, etc. Everyone would be mismatched but there would be a story behind each outfit.

Anyway, OP, if you're not keen on a dress, I second the "nice blouse" approach. They're comfortable, and you can wear your usual jeans & footwear yet still feel like you've made an effort.