But make it goth

[Christmasnero]

As a teenager i dressed a bit goth, I don’t mean band tshirtsband baggy jeans, more like big cuffs, collars, shirt black dresses, tailored but feminine, or slouchy hoody’s with big hair or lots of makeup to make it look more feminine. I liked to have a little twist to all my outfits that made them look and feel different to off the rack, and i was typically head to toe in black.
as Ive got older I now don’t have time to think that much about my clothes or look around shops and vintage shops as much, and I feel silly in the more ‘costume’ or ‘goth’ outfits, since I’m in my 30s and when I do wear things I like and catch myself in the mirror I look scruffy or like I’m trying to relive my teenage years

I need something more together for my age, more of a hint to the goth, but not full blown. At the moment I’m not passionate about any clothes so I end up just buying whatever I need from a supermarket. Like any old tshirt, any old pair of jeans and I never feel pretty or sexy anymore.
how do I find my own sense of fashion again but fit it to my age?

the other issue is my body now. I could make a masculine/harsh outfit look feminine by putting on a cute skirt when I was 21, but now in my 30s my thighs are massive and it’s just not flattering so I just don’t know how to balance the outfit anymore

the only outfit I have in my entire wardrobe that I like id a pair of high waisted trousers, a black lace cami, and a blazer, but if I don’t want to wear heels the outfit doesn’t work anymore.

Have a Google for Dark Academia fashion - it might be the sort of thing you're looking for.

If you’re on Instagram check out Adele Mildred and Gabrielle Djanogly. They design hats and work with Dita Von Teese. They both have great style (luxury goth is how they describe it). I also love Susie Cave for glam goth looks.

I was more emo/lolita style myself rather than goth but understand the sentiment of wanting to incorporate those elements into a more "normal" day to day dressing.

> First step is to stop buying random clothes that you don't care for and be more intentional with what you buy. Otherwise it'll be an endless cycle of not liking your clothes, buying more random clothes, still not liking your clothes.
> Use google/pinterest/Instagram to get ideas of outfits you like and buy a few key pieces to start with (you can build on these later).
>Try to find items that would work with a few different things - for example, a black lace dress can be worn with a blazer/leather jacket/over a shirt/under a jumper.

In my case lolita fashion has lots of bows and ruffles, so a small element of that could be a shirt that has ruffle sleeves or a neck bow and I can wear that with smart trousers, jeans or a plain skirt. By the way you can still wear cute skirts regardless of age or size, you just need to find one that you feel comfortable in!

The black lace dress here looks like it might be an option:

www.instagram.com/p/CljZHoeLHYB/?igshid=YmMyMTA2M2Y=

As others have said don't buy random but also have a think about your lifestyle are you always in jeans for a reason if so how can you upgrade them to suit your style?
So could you wear high waisted flares with a top with exaggerated sleeves or a band t shirt!

Also accessories are key this women is good at adding accessories to an outfit to change the look she's more rock but might give you some ideas instagram.com/kristyrocksupreme?igshid=YmMyMTA2M2Y=

So - yes, definitely stop just buying clothes randomly (unless the alternative is being naked!)

If your lifestyle is more 'jeans' these days - embrace it! Buy black jeans/jeggings. Wear big chunky black boots. Buy black t shirts and wear silver jewellry and blingy belts.

Dress them up with a more 'romantic' gothic style blouse (or slutty goth - I did think oooo lace shirt) and heeled boots.

For a more svelte, grown-up goth look you want Ann Deeulemeester.

With some Wendy Nichol inspiration on clothes, accessories and jewellery.

Great thread OP, I find it so much easier to incorporate gothic touches to a work wardrobe because its automatically a bit more formal. I am a lot more conscious of looking over dressed these days. My casual wear is a bit more grunge.

There used to be an amazing blog called sophistique noir, I don't think it exists anymore but some of here stuff is still on pintrest. There is a real art to taking high street clothes and putting them together rather than just going straight to EMP etc.

A good way to start is look at your most comfortable outfit at the moment and add something new to that. So if its jeans and a tshirt maybe find a cute top with a collar or some lace touches, its the perfect time of year for this as a lot of 'Christmas party' wear can be dressed down with jeans etc for a gothic look.

What's your job/lifestyle?

Will the outfit you like work with platform DMs? I'm guessing it will, because I think they go with everything 😂

Never too old for some New Rocks

I really regret getting rid of mine around 2010, I felt I had matured too much to wear them O_o

I don't know what the quality is like but Joe Browns often have a nod to the dark side this time of year. They have some really nice looking boots at the moment www.joebrowns.co.uk/womens-clothing/womens-shoes-boots-sandals.

I love long knitted dresses as they're pretty but with tights, big boots and the the jewellery I can make it goth but what I feel is almost opulent goth.
KVD beauty has some gorgeous lip colours that can really work, and I love a wee flick of eye liner.
I think I'm a low key goth but I love it. On the topic of new rocks, my DH wants me to get some and I thought I might be past them at 31 but this thread has inspired me to get some 🥰

High waisted jeans can work with trainers?

hellbunny.com/5459-weston-denim-trousers.html

I'd have gone with black trainers obvs

I wear similar jeans with tight fit cardigan or jumper

Ooh good thread @Christmasnero I like grown up mild goth and the post ideas here are just what I was looking for lately!

have a feeling there will be more affordable items available in this style in the new year with the release of Wednesday. Chic goth is already getting publicity

I buy most of my clothes from Hell Bunny and Disturbia. I have Docs or New Rocks on my feet in winter and dark Birks or Cons on in summer. I mix this in with the odd item from supermarkets and places like New Look. Been known to dabble in All Saints if there's a v good sale on. I've always worn lots of silver jewellery. I don't do the make-up anymore though; far too much effort and my older skin doesn't like it!

I do have a few of the faux collars and cuffs as I can’t get away with the layering anymore. Would previously mix a black dress with a large collared shirt underneath. Now it’s just the collar under the dress.

All Saints do grown up goth