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Living with bingo wings

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dcjfr · 19/06/2022 21:10

I am 65 years old, overweight and have bingo wings. Is it acceptable to wear sleeveless dresses?

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SpeedofaSloth · 19/06/2022 21:12

Yes.

Swearwolf · 19/06/2022 21:20

Yes, do it.

Swearwolf · 19/06/2022 21:57

That wasn't a proper reply, sorry, I didn't mean to be flippant. The general mn school of thought seems to encourage everyone to own how they look and wear what they want to wear, but in practice it's not that easy and you can't just force yourself to forget your insecurities.

I have bigger arms than I'd like too. But it's been really hot lately, and I figure they are still the same size inside sleeves that they are outside of them. I promise nobody will be looking at them - you just notice them because it's something you don't like about yourself. Other people don't give us the same scrutiny we give ourselves. Wear something lovely even if it shows the bits you don't like, and feel confident about your great outfit!

Palavah · 19/06/2022 21:59

Wear what you like.

Ridiculous body fascism to think people should be uncomfortable just because they aren't young, able-bodied, and 'perfect' sized,!

otterlybonkers · 19/06/2022 22:10

i have asked similar questions about showing certain bodyparts in the past and most posters curtly told me to just do it, that nobody is looking and no one cares.
But WE care, and I understand.
I think there is truth in this though, to a large degree, no one does care, and I strongly doubt it is something anyone else would notice or think about. We are used to seeing people in summer, of all shapes and sizes, going about their business, and we are generally too caught up in our own little world's to notice someone's upper arms. I know I don't!

I like to people watch, from cafe's train station benches, Booths restaurant window, haha, i love seeing what people wear, their haircuts and so on. But I never, ever judge people - the more variation and individuality the better! I have never focused on a specific body part and have admired people of all sizes and ages.

Anyone who would judge or look at a jiggly arm negatively isn't worth worrying about, they will be vanishingly rare (no matter what crap they talk on the internet) or otherwise a bit unhappy.

Please free yourself from the fear of liberation in the heat. Enjoy your body and what your arms can do. I used to hate my body when young, and now i am nearly 50 I am making up for it by loving the shit out of it whatever it does. It's mine, and I owe no one toned extremities Grin

lljkk · 19/06/2022 22:38

I don't like to see people in uncomfortable clothes. I cannot understand why they do that. That includes too many layers, over dressing for high temps.

Don't care what you wear OP, but you'll look good in items that are comfy.

Luredbyapomegranate · 19/06/2022 23:04

Sure, no one is going to be paying much attention, and there are plenty of bingo wings around.

ArtVandalay · 19/06/2022 23:08

I saw Vanessa Feltz do an IG post on exactly this issue the other day.

She has whopping bingo wings and was wearing a sleeveless dress. Good for her.

NeverDropYourMooncup · 20/06/2022 00:20

I remember going to Brighton Pride about six years ago when it was incredibly hot. I covered up with denim shorts over tights and a long sleeved top because I was having a horrific psoriasis flare and was about 92% plaques other than my face - I'd got an undercut the week before because my scalp felt on fire and the assorted gunk I had to apply to it felt disgusting on my hair.

I did feel like I stood out amongst the group I was with, as they were all either in costume/face paint or chino shorts and polo shirts.

At least six separate women came up to me with faces of concern and quietly said I didn't need to be embarrassed by my size, I was beautiful and 'please don't feel scared to wear what you want' over the Saturday.

Every single one was trying to be kind to a random woman in the crowd - but it made me think about how covering up can draw more attention than just wearing whatever the hell you like.

dcjfr · 20/06/2022 09:44

Thank you so much for all your positive support, I really appreciate. Maybe I'll start off by buying a sleeveless garment and wearing it at home for a bit.

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