Please help a frumpy mummy

[Outoftowner22]

Oh wise ones...I'm due to go to a concert in a London park soon.
The weather is likely to be warm. It'll be a very mixed crowd, so whilst I'm not trying to keep up with the trendy youngsters, I really don't want to feel like a middle-aged frump. I'm mid 40's, size 16, 5'5", and very pear shaped...I have a large bum and thighs and small boobs. I live in jeans and either T-shirts or relaxed blouses. I absolutely detest how shorts make me feel. And I don't know if I can confidently pull off a dress/skirt and trainers. Where do I even begin?!?

I would wear your jeans so you are comfortable and maybe treat yourself to a new top, something like this which has a bit of a summer festival vibe - it can get colder at night so I wouldn’t wear a dress unless it’s an especially posh concert.

www.hush-uk.com/estelle-top-ikat-multi/005346-3910.html

I agree, I'd wear jeans and a top to a concert in a park.

I've just bought these from M&S, they're lovely to wear and look good with a blouse or loose sleeveless top tucked in.

www.marksandspencer.com/tencel-rich-high-waisted-wide-leg-jeans/p/clp60562356

Absolutely no to jeans in a summertime park concert in London, you will absolutely roast

i think maxi dresses and trainers look good on everyone, plus so comfy. Id order a load and see if you like anything

I'd wear a midi or maxi dress in a wrap style with the classic white trainer. It's my summer go to!! Not too hot, can add a cute denim jacket too if it's going to be into the evening

Yeah - I was gonna say, keep an eye on the weather but jeans would be too warm and uncomfortable for me! If you’re more comfortable in trousers you could get some patterned/wide leg/summery trousers and wear with a top. Or a maxi/midi skirt/dress.

What about wide leg crop trousers or a wide leg jump suit? I was in New Look as was very impressed with the trousers, flat front, elasticated waist back and pockets!

Pics...

Aw thanks everybody! I guess I just have to get to the shops and actually try things on and see what works!!
it’s funny whenever I wear patterned trousers I feel like I’m wearing pjs…too many years of wearing black suits in the corporate world!!

Frock & leggings with trainers. Frock as smart as you want or floaty & casual. Jumpsuit a no no unless you have a very strong pelvic floor!

Dress leggings DMs

Is it day or evening?
Seated or sitting on the ground?

My go to is a maxi dress, and a pair of leggings to pull on underneath if it gets cold in the evening, plus a lightweight merino or cashmere cropped cardigan.

I was at a concert in a London park last night and although it was a warm day, I was very comfortable in jeans, T shirt and thin jumper for later.

Why do you refer to yourself as a ‘frumpy mummy’? Why not just a woman?

A super cool midi/maxi dress with some Vejas or Vans Old Skools, a spray tan plus some big, big sunnies and you’ll feel and look cool AF.

Why is she not allowed to use the words she wants to?

No to a jumpsuit if there’ll be portaloos. I’d want something quick to get in/out of.

I love the look of that hush top.

If OP just described herself as "a woman", we'd have no idea of her issue or how to help her! She is telling us she doesn't want to feel/look frumpy or mumsy

I have exactly the same body shape and I feel your pain re pear shaped. This is what I find works for me. It’s also worth watching Trinny Facebook videos as she - whilst generally very skinny all over which I am not - - is a bit pear shaped and many of her outfits are designed to flatter the pear shape.

• platform trainers - elongate your legs and balance everything out a bit . They are my absolute go to just now.
• maxi dress or skirt is super flattering and really comfortable too. You could wear leggings underneath it if it’s a bit chilly . Got for something that has no pleats, no gathered st the waist, and if you look at trinnys video on belts you’ll get some good tips on wearing a belt with it
• id go for something like silver trainers and belt with a long dress also a nice cross body bag. Big earrings to balance out body too. And loads of bangles
• Go for something with a bit of sparkle if you can or some leopard
• also a wee denim jacket over the top. I used to wear long jackets to cover my bum but have discovered that shorter jackets sometimes more flattering. I bought one with puffed sleeves from mint velvet last year and the puff sleeves really balance out the smaller upper body
• sparkly or neon hair clip if you can .

have an amazing time