What do other people think you suit best?

[Sallygoround631]

A few weeks ago in a bit of fun I tried on most of my summer clothes for DH because I'd never asked his opinion before. He usually just always compliments anything i wear so I asked him what he thought of each outfit..

Interesting results, lol!
I came away somewhat surprised.

His thoughts:
My midi dresses apparently have so much fabric at the lower half they drown me, especially having a pattern from head to toe. The dresses which suited were less voluminous and probably what we'd call a bit more 'chic'.

Out of absolutely everything I wear, leggings suit me best, both Sweaty Betty and M&S Goodmove . Wide or loose Tshirts make me 'disappear' and the gym tops/vests that are fitted are perfect. Cardi or nice hoodie over these is fine.

Oversized drowns me in a bad way. He also loved my casual linen slim trousers which I always thought made my arse look like a sack of compost. Again paired with slimmer fit tops.

Skinny jeans good (too bad dude), boyfriend and mom jeans swallow and flatten my backside.

Birkenstocks he loved, which was unexpected!

Without him knowing, everything I have ever purchased from White Company Hush and was a no no!

My hiking gear is my best friend. Little jackets/fitted fleece, hiking tights, mm.

Conclusion: He is a lovely thing, and never puts anything I do down, so taking the time to ask him stuff was really interesting for me, and slightly uncomfortable for him but we had a good laugh. I had NO idea someone else might think I suited those things, and thought I looked better in clothes that covered my shape. I am 5'4 and 8 stone, always been on the small side but I have high hips and slightly flabby things from inactivity through covid and am very weird about showing that area even though my waist is small. I repeated this with my sister and friend and they - unexpectedly - came to the same conclusions, with the exception of loving me in a solid colour maxi dress, possibly because they love the trend.

Anyone else ever done this and been really surprised how others perceive them? I can't say it's changed anything much but I do feel a tad more forgiving of myself in clothes I always wanted to wear but thought didn't suit me.

I have never asked anyone friends, family, people on the Internet or partner what they think of my outfits, I wear what I like and can honestly say I have never been interested in anyone else's opinion good or bad.

My children (who are adults) frequently roll their eyes at some of my choices but I ignore them and carry on wearing my bright pink floral Pucci trousers because I love them, even though they are capable of causing temporary nausea and visual disturbances to anyone who looks at them for more than five seconds.

Man likes woman in tight clothing. What a surprise!

I know exactly which items my dh prefers: anything short, tight, shiny and slightly slutty looking. Quelle surprise!

If he had his way I'd be walking around in leather mini skirts with a boob tube and 3inch heels every day. Hence why I don't tend to ask his fashion advice.

I have this attitude too. If I took on board people's opinions over the years I would end up not being myself. Also, I think a lot of people default to 'safe' and age appropriate and that way misery lies!

Just thought it was interesting and fun, sorry.

the women did prefer me in leggings too, so, there goes another lighthearted thread, sent off to bed with a slapped wrist and no bedtime cookie!

This is funny.

I usually ask DP what he thinks of things I've bought, or I try on new clothes for him when I get back from the shops. He's brutally honest and reads A LOT into my clothes For DP, it's not just a case of 'that looks nice' or 'you look a bit chubby in that'. Nope. He usually starts his judgement with 'you look like....' and then gives this whole elaborate story which is conjured up in his head.

He says my default look in anything is European exchange student because I have funky hair, I'm always carrying a massive backpack, my resting face is 'confused', and my clothes are slightly too quirky to be 'normal British' but not quirky enough to be 'mad British'.

A couple of weeks ago I bought dungarees. Apparently, I no longer look like one of the European exchange students traipsing around an obscure British village. Nope, in my dungarees, I look like their European teacher who leads them from the front, carrying a little flag with the name of their Danish school on it.

I also bought some Sweaty Betty leggings. When I paired them with an oversized jumper, the verdict was that I looked like a previously very successful career woman (maybe a lawyer or a stockbroker) who'd given up work when she married a billionaire and now spends her days flicking between pilates classes, coffee shops and boutiques. This image does not remotely reflect our life.

Yesterday, I took the dog out in some really scruffy clothes after gardening. I asked DP if I looked homeless (we have a scruffy mutt on the end of a roamer lead which kind of adds to the vagrant vibe). He looked up and said "No, but you look like you're going to spend the evening drinking lambrini outside the Spar daring your 14-year old mates to ask random boys for their phone number". This absolutely was my teenage life so I was pretty happy with it TBH.

OMG!

Thank you for this! I'm dying! 😂

I don’t ask other people what I look best in. I don’t ask other people their opinion on my
clothes in general.
I’m shocked that your husband sat for such a long time while you tried on all your clothes! Mine would have walked off to put his head in the oven at just the suggestion to be honest and I wouldn’t have blamed him 😂
I just wear what I like really.

Sometimes DH gives me funny compliments like "that's very lady like" which I always think sounds hilarious.

I'm his dream world I'd wear body con dresses and stockings all the time, but instead he is stuck with harem pants and crop tops lol because that's practical for my day to day life.

@Comvit Omg my dh does this too!

I generally only ask for opinions from people who share my taste, so probably not that helpful. But you have reminded me of a time many years ago when I had my mum with me when I was shopping for underwear. She very determinedly tried to steer me towards the “nice, fresh, utterly simple” white cotton. I was forced to explain that if sexy underwear isn’t appropriate for a 27 year old, there’s no point in the whole concept.

Really interesting, OP!

My DH tends to like outfits that show off my waist. He doesn’t get the oversized trend and thinks it makes everyone look shapeless and bigger than they are.

He tends to be a fan of bright block colours, but not so much patterns.

Most of all I think he prefers it when I wear casual clothes, and thinks I dress up too much. And he also thinks I have too many clothes full stop but in fairness he may be right there 😄

I’d love to know what he really thinks of all the clothes in my wardrobe in more detail, but I don’t think he’d ever dare tell me.

I tend not to ask my DH's opinion on what I wear. He'll nearly always say I look nice anyway.

If he comments on something negatively, I listen because he's usually right.

There was one time years ago (late 80s, IIRC) when I came out of a changing room wearing what I thought was a gorgeous little black mini dress with ruffles round the neck and cuffs. He took one look at me and announced that I looked like a fairy on her way to a funeral. I didn't buy it.

I wouldn't ask my dh's opinion. He doesn't know anything about Womens clothes. He'd be wrong.

I've noticed I get positive comments when I'm wearing black - specifically an oversize black V neck jumper, or dresses that are black. or with a black background.
DH usually says I look nice, if he hesitates very slightly before saying it, then I know it's not so great. He's clearer about his opinion if I haven't already bought the item in question!

My husband never comments, besides, is that another new item? with a disapproving tone. I dress to please myself, and wouldn't be taking style advice from him.

Such odd responses here, at least one saw the humour in it.

To presume I am failing at feminism because i can have a laugh with my OH about my wardrobe is a bit tragic. Perhaps we need to curb our spontaneity and set firmer boundaries!

It may come as a crushing surprise to some, but he loves me in anything, even though I suppose I am masturbating the patriarchy by being interested in his thoughts.

Don't worry op, my husband and I talk about clothes all the time. We are brutal with each other sometimes.

His taste can be a bit um.... individual though so I don't always listen to him, but he does like my tweed coat and Vivienne Westwood trousers so there's that. And he says I don't look great in black, which is correct

I am as feminist as fuck and wear whatever I want without being "influenced" by other people, but I am still interested in DHs and DCs opinions on my outfits (The topic is style and beauty so normally posters are interested in clothes etc?)

My DH still talks fondly about a particular outfit I wore when we met - a white lace up corset top and flouncy long white skirt, with para boots (oh how I loved the 90s ). I still have lots of my 90s stuff and wear it but I think if I wore that particular outfit now I would look as though I was on my way to a Tudor re-enactment thing.

These days I know there are some of my clothes he prefers to others (he hates with a passion is not a fan of dungarees for example but you'd have to prise them out of my cold dead hands ) but I know when he does compliment an outfit, he genuinely likes it a lot so it makes me feel happy, but I wouldn't wear it just because DH liked it, if that makes sense? And the same in reverse, I prefer some of his clothes more than others but he wouldn't be influenced by my opinions but interested in them. He does buy me brilliant stuff which is quite "niche" so he knows what I like, which is important to me.

Interestingly my BF and I have the same taste in clothes and unknowingly wear matching outfits on the same day!

In general, I think people look best when they are wearing something they really like, as it makes us feel confident and happy. I think it's important people find their own style that they like without being influenced by "current" fashions - the current trend for flouncy frilly smock like things makes me look like a knobhead so I don't wear them. However some people love them and they suit them, so they should wear them all the time not just in 2022!

When I wear oversized things my DH asks if I'm moonlighting as a nun!

Once when pregnant (this was 11 years ago) I wore a sash under the bust with a dress, DH asked why I was pretending to be an Easter Egg.

Blue Chambray shirts and he thinks I look like my mother.

Strangely he loves an a-line toast dress which he says is a lovely fit on the shoulders which I think is vaguely nun like.

DH absolutely loves clothes. His mum worked in fashion, so he spent his childhood hanging around the back offices of department stores, fashion week, ateliers and showrooms and she always had them dressed in the latest gear. He was always that kid with the trendiest trainers.

Anyway, we chat a lot about both of our wardrobes. He's got a really good eye and I can send him into the chaos of H&M in sale season and he'll come out with something really nice. Anyway what he thinks suits me best.

• Anything high waisted - jeans, trousers, skirts, leggings. He loves me in Mom jeans and a t-shirt/tied up shirt


• Bright colors - especially jewel tones and sort of 80s-type neon pastels


• Slouchy blazers


• Those 90s/Sezanne style dresses IYSWIM


• He loved my Joan Holloway/Megan Draper 60s phase when I was pregnant. Sadly the A-line dresses do not suit me non-preggo.

Things he doesn't rate

• Sequins, beading, bling - he's not a fan thanks to a sequined dress I had that shed all over his flat


• Dainty cardigans - doesn't get it


• Black on black on black - says I look like I'm going to a funeral

He's a uber preppy type, which really suits him. But I think he looks best in more fitted stuff, it took an age to get him our of baggy shorts after the early '00s.

Very interesting. Mine prefers more fitted , plain clothes, and he is right. He hates mom jeans and again he’s right. He also disapproves of cheap clothes and flimsy fabrics, which is good. But he prefers me in dark colours which dont work at all in our house because we have animals.
The item guaranteed to get compliments is a navy blue tshirt dress, which is fine until the beagle comes anywhere near.
@elp30 he sounds so much fun.

Lord I've never thought to ask anybody really haha.

I'll ask me mates

I’m laughing with proper tears here, thank you for that!