Really pissed off with my tits.

[lecreusetpeppermill]

I'm late 40's, no kids, had a miscarriage in my 30's and that was that.
Am slim size 6-8 and apparently healthy.

I know i have nothing to really moan about, but tonight I stood in the mirror and surveyed my tits and feel deflated. Theyre small-ish, 32 A, but hang down my torso like two underfed ferrets. This isn't the patriarchy, it's just me, wondering why it happened.
I have aways been soft bodied, not toned, no matter how active. But this is bothering me all of a sudden even though i know it is pointless.
If i press the skin upwards they sit at a nice angle, so it is obviously loose skin. They dangle down like little sacks of rice or something. It's obviously tough shit.

Just tell me, if you have experienced this, how do you feel and go forward? My DH loves every bit of me and everyone chants on about how attractive i am, so this makes me feel egotistical and stupid. I KNOW it could be worse, and i KONW this is just natural, but they are bothering me, and I would appreciate some encouragement. Sorry :(

If it really bothered me I’d consider surgery, an uplift over implants.
More likely to invest in a good bra to be honest, I’m very squeamish so surgery would be an unlikely avenue for me- I’d have to be extremely unhappy. I mean, how often are you completely nude… There’s more to you than your boobs!

I think mine would be best described as hanging like two very overfed ferrets OP.
Years of happy 32/34 B. Could wear what I liked and it looked OK.
Now late forties and I'm a bloody F cup and show the wear and tear of several babies and gravity.
Almost everything looks matronly on me.
So I sympathise as our feelings are similar even if the details are different.
I've had a couple of surgeries recently so I couldn't face an "unnecessary " one on top of that. But I've been tempted to research it.
Plus I have suspicions that my decision wouldn't be entirely fuelled by how I feel, but also driven by my perception of how I look to other people.
My principles mean non judgement and positivity toward absolutely every woman in my life - apart from myself.

Oh OP - it's one of the many blows to the ego that come from ageing. There are many more to come, I'm afraid. But the good news is that with each one despair gives way to resignation and then ... call it acceptance, call it blindness - as with everything one can't change, one gets used to it and forgets about it. One feels nice in certain outfits again etc. In a year or two you won't notice your breasts.

Not what you want to hear, I know. Me neither. But it's true what they say about the alternative to ageing ...

Small breasts are very stylish. You can wear anything. Your tits will never enter the room before you do. And yes, it is a blow to the ego. Next up, chin hairs? I’m morphing in to my husband these days!

I'm exactly like you same size same issues. The sudden deflation is hormonal. Just started HRT and they're plumping up a lot, visibly larger and firmer. Hopefully it will last.

Want to swap? I'm a H/HH cup and sick to death of finding my nipples in strange places. They roam anywhere from under my chin to my belly button depending on gravity, tuck themselves under my armpits so I roll over on them in bed and ruin any outfit I wear because I look like I smuggling two large bald head men under my clothing 😳

Getting old and feeling the effects of gravity are still better than the only other alternative on offer though. No solution but I'm not ashamed to say I'm absolutely, totally, utterly green with envy because yours sound perfect to me 😉

Sorry to be that person but at a size 6 to 8 you are not a 32. Get measured properly, buy some new bras and rejoice at having them look wonderful in their right size bra!

Definitely get a good bra. But also, rejoice in the fact that you can wear the 90% of women's clothes that are designed to look good on a flattish chest.

I would swap my prow-of-a-ship look for the flattened ferrets, if that were possible

You want people to encourage you about your tits?

eh ok, they are fab, your husband loves them, eveyone tells you you are really attractive, tits and all. It’s all good.

Thanks!

I feel ashamed to be glum about something aesthetic, and it isn't like me at all. I have no real 'need' of different breasts, wouldn't entertain any man who cared, and they do look a bit bigger than an A - possibly B/c with smaller band.

But it's when I am naked that it looks awful, theyre fine in a bra. They're just so incredibly soft.

It's not ugly, just....droopy. I don't hold by media standards of breasts either and don't care for hoiked up perky ones, I think it's that i have a short torso as it is so they look obvious. God I know this is stupid, aaagh!

Bad day, sweetheart?

OP, do you exercise?

I have small breasts, have had several DC, am in my 40s. I find weights plus HIIT helps my pectoral muscles which in turn helps my breasts stay firm.

It's not a magical solution but it might help you feel better, if the general area was toned?

Ah, no, not much sadly due to work, I am skinny-fat! any tips would be great, as would not be interested in surgery or anything drastic. What would you recommend to start?

I'm not necessarily saying it's a total remedy but I definitely had saggier (but still small) boobs post-breastfeeding.

I always ran & definitely feel that helped - now a lot of other women will say running made their boobs saggy so...

But weights & HIIT using equipment eg ski erg, assault bike, slam balls definitely build upper body muscle & that helps (I believe) my breasts be firmer.

Of course ideally you'd be happy 'just as you are' but I absolutely get having parts of your body you feel less happy with.

Please stop with the ferrets, worse things can happen. For instance, a mismatch between bladder capacity and sphincter control.

Well that put it succinctly! My ferrets looked nice in a well fitting and comfy bra today - have finally tossed the stretched saggy one from Primark after 5 years Maybe this has caused my problem!
But you are quite correct. However this is S&B where we can have a wobble even when we know deep down it's pointless.

I want these exercises that will tone my pecs, might have a google, I could do with toning up anyway.

Well the only thing that will change them is surgery so I guess it depends how bothered you are?

You could look into attending an information event at a reputable cosmetic surgery provider/ hospital.
Just to give you something to consider?

I think many of us are pretty dismayed by the look of our breasts, without a bra either too small and underfed or too big and overfed. Personally I think small boobs are much more elegant as we age. You don't end up with a Hattie Jacques matron bosom. But I say that as someone with far too big breasts and mostly we all want something we don't have.

Clearly not as bad as yours.,,😂

See I'm the opposite, look awful in clothes but fine without them, full bosomed and not droopy even though in my 60s and breastfed three kids (mind you probably midriff bulge is acting as underwired bra) ........ Trouble is nobody sees me without clothes but me😭😂 let's face it us women are never happy with what we see in the mirror, I work in a hospital and have seen all shapes and sizes (including many with one or no breasts), we just need to try to be grateful that we are healthy🙏💐

I wouldn't hold out much hope for pectoral exercises helping saggy boobs. My pecs are very developed because of my workout routine, but my boobs were completely deflated (not even that saggy), and my pecs were zero help. They just made a bulge above my breasts, with a dip then deflated sock boobs below. I ended up getting breast implants because it really bothered me. I had got into great shape after divorce and was so happy with feeling good about my body generally in my late 40s, but my boobs just got to me. I had no lack of confidence overall, but I missed my boobs and felt like fixing this would be something symbolic, just for me. I asked the doctor to fill them out to roughly the same size they used to be. I love my boobs now. I used to be very judgemental about women who had boob jobs etc, but you live and learn. I doubt if I'd have done it if I was in a long term relationship though. Although the surgery is a very low-risk procedure, it's not easy. Nowadays, if you're slim, implants are usually placed under the pectoral muscles, giving a more natural look and it means they don't get in the way of mammograms. However, recovery from submuscular implants can be painful for many women and seriously restricts your ability to work out for 6 weeks minimum. And it's £5k and upwards. You have to really want to do it.

Friendly lately in here, eh?
I dont want surgery, just wanted to see if anyone felt similar and whatever. I feel better today tbh, they don't strike me as half that bad. Getting oder is weird!

@Mrpunchisagit If my tits were as large as the chip on your shoulder I might swing one around your neck to help you in wind it in a bit.

A really good bra - get a fitting, and swimming is amazing for tone - although swimming also shrinks what there is, but hey ho.

Thanks to everyone who took time to reply.
I don't think I could be arsed enough for surgery, but I was having a really crap day. I've been lucky so far with regards to my body and ageing, so will see how it goes in the future..

I'm glad youre happy with the work, divorced. Funny you say that about preferring not to have been in a LTR at the time. It would feel pretty odd telling DH something like that, not that he'd be able to stop me

@Mossstitch Yeh, the healthy thing is vital for perspective, isn't it? I can't bring myself to hate my body for this reason, and it's been quite good to me so far!