Thank you to strangers who compliment you.

[FiloPasty]

You know when you try something on and then walk out of the changing room.

Then a random stranger tells you that you look great or that the colour suits you etc

It’s just so nice and gives you the push you needed to buy it!

Everyone should try and give compliments more I think

Absolutely. I do it a lot because I love to receive it when it happens.

I never say "beautiful dress" - always something about the person, so "you look amazing in that dress" for example. Even if you just covet the dress...!

I love these radom compliments from other women. They're worth a thousand from men. And yes, I do the same.

I do it when I pluck up the courage!

I do it a lot too. It costs nothing, but just makes the world a happier place.
Everytime I wear my now-not-at-all in fashion M&S Roma fit jeans, I remember the lady who came over to me in a coffee queue to tell me how much they suited me and to ask where they were from.

It’s so nice isn’t it, I remember walking into a new job years ago in a red coat and as soon as I walked through the door I got a “daaaarling, you look fabulous in that coat!” it gave me the boost I needed as I was feeling so nervous.
They really stay with you I think.
I’m going to try and do it more.

'I love these radom compliments from other women. They're worth a thousand from men'

Totally agree. I absolutely love getting compliments from other women. I need to get in the habit of giving compliments more often

Yes I love it

It’s also nice to give the compliments too, especially when people look like they’re not expecting it

If I see someone wearing something nice I compliment them. Yesterday, I told the lady at the checkout that I liked her earrings. They were quite bright and dangly but they really suited her.

It costs nothing to be nice.

and can I add that when someone compliments you that you say 'thank you' rather than go on about how cheap it was, it's an old rag, you're fat, blah blah blah.

I love complimenting people and I love getting compliments - you are all fab

@Lottapianos

'I love these radom compliments from other women. They're worth a thousand from men'

Totally agree. I absolutely love getting compliments from other women. I need to get in the habit of giving compliments more often

This! It is so amazing getting compliments from random women and is uplifting to give them.

'and can I add that when someone compliments you that you say 'thank you' rather than go on about how cheap it was, it's an old rag, you're fat, blah blah blah.'

Yes! This! As part of a wider strategy to stop putting yourself down and apologising for yourself

@ginslinger yes! My husband said to me years ago “why do women say it cost me x and I got it from y?” Just take the compliment

Oh I am always doing that in changing rooms and shops. I saw a wonderful white haired older lady with her friend trying on an amazing leopard print fake fur coat in M&S last year. I told her she looked fabulous in it. Her friend cheered and shouted ‘I told you so’ and they marched off arm in arm to buy it

@Lottapianos

'and can I add that when someone compliments you that you say 'thank you' rather than go on about how cheap it was, it's an old rag, you're fat, blah blah blah.'

Yes! This! As part of a wider strategy to stop putting yourself down and apologising for yourself

I agree with this. And it almost seems a bit ungracious. I tend to say 'you've made my day' because they have.

I did this yesterday. I'm just starting Tretinoin (for anti-aging) and have immersed myself in all things skincare in prep. Went to pick up a takeaway yesterday and the lady on the other side of the counter had the most gorgeous, glowing skin. I told her I thought her skin was incredible. She actually beamed - I think I made her day. Made me feel good.

@5128gap

I love these radom compliments from other women. They're worth a thousand from men. And yes, I do the same.

They really are worth a thousand from men.

I love to compliment other women and love to receive nice comments too.
Recently I walked by a woman with stunning short silver hair (natural colour) and a purple scarf, the colour combination looked amazing.
I couldn't not say something to her as I passed. She literally beamed and so did her husband.

A woman recently complimented me saying I looked so tall and elegant (wearing wide legged trousers, denim jacket and white trainers) but it was so much appreciated as my teens/20s were spent being self-conscious about my height as I always felt hefty and huge compared to others (I'm not - am 5ft10 and a 12/14 - I know that now in my late 40s, but back then, not so much).
Her comment put all of that old insecurity firmly in its place!

I do it a lot. Not just that colours look fabulous on them but about their hair and their perfume. When it happens to me, it gives me such a great feeling. And you can see how much it means to others and it gives pleasure to say it. Nothing better than us both walking off with a smile on our faces. 🙂

I do. Recently complimented on the colour of my cardigan. Strangers tend to compliment clothes rather than the person, at least I've found.

Though I'm late 30s and I've received a few 'you look younger/good for your age' type comments and for some reason they make me feel old and uncomfortable. If that's not strange and ungrateful?

I like giving compliments to random women. They’re almost always well-received. They’re never badly received but occasionally people are a bit bemused by then. Lacking confidence perhaps. I can’t remember the last time I had a compliment from a stranger but then I’m a bit of a mess so fair enough 😂

I always try to do this. I vividly remember being on the bus once, heading for work and feeling horribly guilty because toddler DS2 was really poorly and had screamed for me when I was leaving, when a lady leaned forward and told me my hair looked fabulous and asked where I'd got my beautiful hair clip. It absolutely turned my day around, and I got off the bus smiling.

I like to try and pay that feeling forward.

I also compliment parents on their child, if appropriate. It might live on as a memory for the parent that someone said their child was cute or charming or had lovely hair or whatever

Years ago when gypsy skirts were in style, a woman ran down the street to compliment me and ask me where mine was from. Nearly 20 years later I have never forgotten how much of a boost that gave me. And I always kept the skirt in the vain hope that it would A) come back in fashion (it didn't) and B) that I might one day fit into it again (I didn't and don't)

I do this, not just in changing rooms. If I come across someone whilst out and I like their coat/bag/shoes/hair, I tell them! We need to support each other, not tear each other down.