Hair help - desperate

[Parmaviolet1719]

Hi everyone, I hope this is ok to post in here. Back in December I was diagnosed with leukaemia. The drug i am taking has caused my hair to thin dramatically over the last 6ish weeks. I already had thin hair anyway, so before long I was struggling to cover bald patches with the messy bun I always wear. Last week I got it cut into a bob out of desperation, but… I hate it. I feel like I look utterly hideous and I can’t find a way to style it that doesn’t look horrendous. I think it’s causing all my feelings of sadness about my diagnosis to come to the surface because I haven’t been able to stop crying ever since, I don’t want to leave the house etc… and I am not usually a very vain person. I’m not even sure what I’m looking for here… advice on how to style thin, limp hair that just reaches my shoulders? I am devastated at the thought that I may never have decent hair again. Please be kind in your responses, I realise it’s just hair and people have bigger problems, but I’m having a really rough time in most areas of my life and I think this has tipped me over the edge.

Hi, I'm really sorry to read about your diagnosis & the struggles you're having with your hair as well as with your general health. I recently got a patch of alopecia & I know how upsetting hair loss can be.

If you're on facebook there's a good group called Alopecia UK (Group) and another called Alopecia UK Products & Services group chat - where you will see info about wigs. I am not at the wig stage myself, but the ladies who are showing their wigs look incredibly natural. It's not for everyone but just something to think about.
Apart from wigs, you can get 'toppers' even from natural hair, which kind of supplement what you have. If my condition gets any worse, that's my plan.

I’m sorry OP, this sounds very upsetting for you.

Have you looked into clip in extensions? I have thin hair so use them daily, you could bunch up the top into a bun, or just pull it back into a clip, to cover any bald patches, and then clip in a hair piece.

Have a Google of Lullabellz, they are reasonably priced, and come in all different lengths. I use them, as my hair is very thin, and I also have a bald patch right on my crown (thankfully its growing back now) also be careful when tying hair up, it was wearing a bun everyday that caused my bald patch.

Bless you, its not just hair, it's your identity so you are entitled to be sad. I'm so sorry about your diagnosis, could you wear a headscarf or hair band? Or, take a friend to a better hair salon who have a proper consultant that you can talk to?