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Mother's day meal and covid what would you do?

35 replies

lindyloo57 · 25/03/2022 18:21

so table is booked for 12 people, the thing is my GS has just court covid, so he's not coming, my DS and DD in law still wants the meal to go ahead, but we are not so sure my DH is soon to be 70 I'm 61 and we just don't want to take the risk, I'm gutted as we haven't got all the family together for a long time, would you take the risk?

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Wouldntitbenicetobeinyourshoes · 25/03/2022 18:25

Nope & I’d judge them for thinking it acceptable to put everyone else at risk tbh.

Although you have posted in style & beauty so may need to ask MN to move it elsewhere for more responses.

BeHappy91818 · 25/03/2022 18:27

Personally I would.

We are going for a meal on Sunday too. Myself, my mother & my father went to see my great nan on Tuesday in her care home. We were told she had Covid on thur (but she is fine). So far we have all tested negative but we have all said we are still going regardless which includes my mum who has just this week finished breast cancer treatment.

My partner is also working with someone who tested + on Wednesday.

We will still be enjoying Mother’s Day regardless if any of us tests +.

Life’s too short to keep cancelling things.

sweetzy · 25/03/2022 18:31

@BeHappy91818

Personally I would.

We are going for a meal on Sunday too. Myself, my mother & my father went to see my great nan on Tuesday in her care home. We were told she had Covid on thur (but she is fine). So far we have all tested negative but we have all said we are still going regardless which includes my mum who has just this week finished breast cancer treatment.

My partner is also working with someone who tested + on Wednesday.

We will still be enjoying Mother’s Day regardless if any of us tests +.

Life’s too short to keep cancelling things.

What about the other people in the venue that aren't choosing to socialise with people with covid.

More fool them for trusting other people won't be selfish arseholes eh.

BeHappy91818 · 25/03/2022 18:35

@sweetzy if people are that bothered then they can stay at home. It’s their problem and They are being very naive if they think people won’t now go out with Covid.

The rules are clear.. we don’t need to isolate anymore.

Blueroses99 · 25/03/2022 18:37

Is the Covid positive GS intending to still come to the meal? If yes, I wouldn’t risk it personally. I had Covid recently but i really don’t want to knowingly put myself in a situation where I might catch it again.

If the meal is going ahead without the positive family member but including other members of the household, I might go but suggest rescheduling for a week or two.

kimchichichi · 25/03/2022 18:38

The household with covid in it should all miss the meal.

ReadyToMoveIt · 25/03/2022 18:39

What about the other people in the venue that aren't choosing to socialise with people with covid

The grandson with Covid isn’t going.

sweetzy · 25/03/2022 18:40

[quote BeHappy91818]@sweetzy if people are that bothered then they can stay at home. It’s their problem and They are being very naive if they think people won’t now go out with Covid.

The rules are clear.. we don’t need to isolate anymore.[/quote]
The guidance is very clear that we should.

If someone was saying they had to go to work or they couldn't pay their rent or buy food then that's totally shit for them and I wouldn't blame them but out for lunch is different and it makes you an absolute shit.

sweetzy · 25/03/2022 18:40

@ReadyToMoveIt

What about the other people in the venue that aren't choosing to socialise with people with covid

The grandson with Covid isn’t going.

The message I quoted said they'd all go out for lunch, positive or not.
vickyc90 · 25/03/2022 18:42

I would go, come next week you wouldn't know he was positive. Life to short to worry about COVID now

rainbowandglitter · 25/03/2022 18:42

We had this exact same issue. We were booked for 14 people. 2 households have now tested positive so we've cancelled. Didn't even consider going out to a full restaurant with covid.

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lindyloo57 · 25/03/2022 18:43

Gs is not coming, but speaking to my DS tonight from same household, he now said he feel like he has a cold coming, so I think it could be a cold or it could be covid, so we will reschedule.

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dementedpixie · 25/03/2022 18:44

So is the GS going or not?

dementedpixie · 25/03/2022 18:44

Sorry, xpost

Cockerdileteeth · 25/03/2022 18:46

My DS tested positive for covid on Wednesday morning. I now have it too. The incubation period can be pretty short with the current variant so your DS and DIL might conceivably have tested positive by Sunday themselves, or at least be starting to be infectious. I would postpone, in your shoes.

Dogsandbabies · 25/03/2022 18:46

In our case my DD had covid last week. She didn't isolate from us at all. And none of us caught it. So if they test negative on the day why not go ahead.

BeHappy91818 · 25/03/2022 18:48

@sweetzy lucky I don’t give a crap what you think then isn’t it.

Life is for living and unless anyone is unwell then we will now carry on living it.

Januarypip · 25/03/2022 18:52

[quote BeHappy91818]@sweetzy if people are that bothered then they can stay at home. It’s their problem and They are being very naive if they think people won’t now go out with Covid.

The rules are clear.. we don’t need to isolate anymore.[/quote]
I agree @BeHappy91818 the rules are very clear they clearly state you should isolate if positive. It's just not legal anymore.

No one has said you shouldn't isolate if positive

irregularegular · 25/03/2022 18:56

Personally I'd be happy for them to come provided they are testing negative and don't have symptoms. I think it's important to get together unless you believe you are particularly high risk. I'm assuming you are fully vaccinated.

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lindyloo57 · 25/03/2022 18:57

It was Wednesday this week when he became ill, tested positive on Thursday, as I said DS now feels he is coming down with a cold, so it could be the start of it.

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BeHappy91818 · 25/03/2022 18:59

@Januarypip the rules are clear… legally no one has to stay in and that’s what matters.

It says you should try to stay at home. Il stay at home if I don’t have any plans. If I have plans then I will be doing them 👍🏻

DaisyDozyDee · 25/03/2022 19:00

@kimchichichi

The household with covid in it should all miss the meal.
This seems absolutely obvious to me. I find it mind-boggling that anyone would disagree.
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lindyloo57 · 25/03/2022 19:03

we both are fully vaccinated, its just my DH has a couple of health problems and we don't think it's worth the risk, there will be plenty of other times that we can go out for meals.

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MerryMarigold · 25/03/2022 19:08

Who cares? In another week it'll cost about 17.00 to test a family of 5. My kids seemed to test negative for ages before a positive (and one needed a PCR) plus I've tested so many colds/ coughs/sore throats without ever having a positive. I won't be continuing to do that at the price of tests.

All things considered, I think most people won't know if they have Covid or not, and can't isolate or fork out for tests for every virus symptom.

Lifeispassingby · 25/03/2022 19:08

Same position as pre covid times- there are those ppl who don’t care if they are ill and couldn’t care less who they spread it to and then there are those who do care and will follow advice (to isolate). Once again happy to follow NHS advice on somethings but not something that might inconvenience them- otherwise known as selfish twats