MIL invited to go wedding dress shopping?

[mdinbc]

I'm not sure this is the right spot for this post, but opinions please...

My son is engaged to a lovely young lady, and they will be getting married next year 2023. Yesterday they were over and she invited me to go along for to a larger city to go wedding dress shopping with her mum, sister and grandmother, and I assume maid of honour. She said she would also invite my DD. This won't be until the fall and because of distance would mean a flight and hotel.

While this is lovely, I certainly wasn't expecting to be involved. My DD was married 7 years ago, and it was just her and I plus maid of honour that went shopping with her.

Is bringing an entourage dress shopping a thing now?

If I go with DD, is it a chance for a fun ladies weekend away and chance to bond with her and her family?
Or do I gracefully decline and let it be a more intimate moment with her mother and GM? Do you think her mum might be put off if I am included?

I would definitely smile and nod and not be opinionated.

thoughts?

You sound entirely sane, and your future DIL sounds lovely to include you. Enjoy!

Oh I would go. I invited my MIL and wanted her to come.
If you're worried about her mum just ask are you sure your mum would be happy with us coming. You may cause offence not going and it could be a fun weekend go!

If you want to go then do, I think it's lovely. Also bare in mind she could well do more than one shop visit I went to at least five different shops over a period of a few months, so she may well also do a trip with just her mum. It's a lot of fun, and you all get to focus on something happy.

I took my mother and mother in law. It's a great way for them to get to know one another, and I wanted my mil to feel involved.

Sometimes the MIL can be a help (if she is sane and you sound like you are!). My friend had real issues with her mother pushing a particular type of dress on her, basically her mother didnt get the wedding she wanted when she got married so had always dreamed of giving my friend the "fairy tale". Except that friend is more a jeans and docs kind of girl than Cinderella ball-gowns! Her MIL was very diplomatic and said, when friend was getting pissed off with her mum in the shop, that the best dress on anyone is the one they feel most comfortable in. Mum was forced to agree and friend got the dress she wanted!