Winter colouring - how to do blonder hair?

[WhatColoursNow]

Name changed as I've asked a couple of friends about this IRL.

My natural colouring is very much in the winter palette: very pale skin, never tans, blue eyes which occasionally look grey and brunette hair (which on closer inspection has some red/auburn tones).

I started going grey a couple of years ago and initially used a semi permanent ashy brown. however I had silver regrowth after a 4 weeks and over time, the colour started to feel too dark.

Hairdresser suggested highlights, so had them, and my hair on its own looks good, however it just doesn't go with any of my winter palette clothes. All of my navys, whites, greys, cerise pinks, purples, burgundies, greens etc look odd with this lighter hair. Has anyone with winter colouring successfully made the transition from brunette to blonde and been able to work out which colours look good on them?

I’m in the exact same boat! Being a Winter with emerging greys is such a struggle—I tried the blonde highlights too and just felt so 'washed out' in my favorite navy coat.
I actually spent last night down a rabbit hole looking for a solution and stumbled across this site: colorseason. It’s got a really clear breakdown on how to tweak your palette when your hair starts fading/changing contrast, which was a lightbulb moment for me. Might be worth a look if you're trying to figure out if you're drifting into 'Summer' territory like I am!