Have my boobs gone forever?!

[dillyanddally]

Wasn't sure what topic to post this under, perhaps it should be in postnatal but never mind..

Since finishing breastfeeding last year my boobs have all but disappeared, and although I've found some info that says it's fairly common, I can't find an answer as to whether they're likely to go back to normal or if this is me now! They're smaller than before I had (3) kids so I feel totally cheated - if anything I thought they'd be bigger post kids!

Has similar happened to anyone else and did they ever come back?! (Looking for reassurance to take me away from googling boob jobs, somewhat drastic action!)

Mine did come back and also seemed to gain a bit of much needed perkiness!!
It took a year or so after I finished breast feeding.

Mine never regained the volume again in the top half. I don’t think they are any smaller, but definitely less perky. Good underwear helps though.

I'm at least 1 cup size smaller than pre kids cos I've been measured, but it feels like more than that. @Happydays321 had you lost your baby weight? I've lost mine and wonder whether gaining weight would help, but knowing my luck it would go everywhere but my chest!!

Mine never came back I'm afraid they improved slightly but IM now a b cup and pre kids I was a D

Well, one of mine certainly has but then I've had a mastectomy! Seriously, they're just boobs they don't define you or your beauty. Tbh, appearance wise, I look better now than I did pre op. I just made a decision to maximise the rest of me and got into diet, exercise and fitness to make the best of the body I have. It really worked. I look and feel much better.

mine have always been v small but they've come back to the size and perkiness of pre-kids. My kids are secondary age now but I do remember a period when they were v young (i.e. just post breastfeeding) when boobs seemed to disappear altogether. So, in my experience, they do improve a bit over time and actually I like mine much more than I did pre-kids but maybe that's just mellowing with age.

@dillyanddally yes I was losing weight the whole year and got back down to a size 10.

@hihellohihello I couldn't agree more and if I'm really honest, I used to think of boob jobs as shallow (although I know a few women who've had them and never thought of them as shallow funnily enough!) I suppose im surprised at how much it's knocked my confidence.

Four kids, mine just got smaller and never came back. I did look at breast enlargement five years ago, and then life happened but I'm determined to go ahead with it this year now I've had my last child. It's not for vanity, but just to feel comfortable in my own body again. On the bright side die to them being smaller an uplift isn't needed which would have been alot more.

I stopped feeding 6 months ago and while I was never plentifully blessed - only a B at the best of times - they're now down to less than an A cup Got a horrible fright in a changing room last month, basically now just two nipples on tiny flaps of stretched skin. My clothes hang totally differently, it's really getting me down.

I hope not or I have little hope 😖

Still bf 18m old but hoping to stop soonish, slowly phasing it out. But since cutting down I've noticed a lot less perk and bounce and sometimes they look downright empty.

I've never had big boobs (except when pregnant and BF) so maybe that will help but I hope to god they don't go smaller and flatter than before. I'm sure I've read something that indicates the collagen/density or something else starts to rebuild after a while.

Mine did come back but I think it took a couple of years.

Mine vanished and never came back; a combination of breastfeeding and weight loss. They look awful now and I'd consider surgery if I could afford it.
I also used to think surgery was vain, but that was before I saw how bfing could completely ruin my figure.

Took me two plus years but they did go back to normal I considered it quite a miracle

[quote dillyanddally]@hihellohihello I couldn't agree more and if I'm really honest, I used to think of boob jobs as shallow (although I know a few women who've had them and never thought of them as shallow funnily enough!) I suppose im surprised at how much it's knocked my confidence. [/quote]
That's ok and things will occasionally knock your confidence. However, it doesn't mean these things have to knock your confidence forever. It can be just a moment in time which you can move on from. My tactic was to find something else to build confidence in order to balance it all out.

Mine have become slightly less empty looking over time and a good bra helps. Mine were always small though so I’ve never had boobs to mourn the loss of really. I do sometimes get boob envy but then I shrug and whack the padded bra back on and get on with it. Unless you have a boob job there’s nothing you can do, so work on feeling happy that you fed your babies with them and they’ve done the job that they were always there for.

Sorry, honey, but your boobs are over.

I had three children and breastfed them all. My poor tits were once bloody marvellous. They are now sad, deflated and saggy. I miss them - they used to be gorgeous. Every breastfeeding advocate told us they'd "bounce back" but they really didn't.

Mine came back! After breastfeeding two kids I was also googling boob jobs, was absolutely gutted at the state of them. Three years later and they are back to normal!

Mine were very sad and deflated looking after my milk supply went but they did fill back out over time and now look exactly the same as they did pre pregnancy. I only have one child though and also I've always had small boobs.

Hmm, a mixed bag. I'm trying to hold onto the comments that pp did fill out again.....although I'm fearing I'll identify more with those who never recovered- I've had similar 'horror in the changing room' moments

Bigger problems in the world I know...!

I was a small but perky 34B before kids but mine deflated terribly after breastfeeding and have never come back. They are now a combination of small but saggy and I can't bear to look at them! I wear very padded bras so my clothes look OK on me.

Mine came back after my first, but it took a year - they seem to be currently in the process of doing the same again. It was actually a very pleasant surprise when they came back after I stopped breastfeeding DS1 - I had no idea that was a thing so assumed that how they were immediately after stopping feeding was how they would be henceforth, and had resigned myself to this sad reality!

Mine never came back. My understanding is that pregnancy causes the major changes eg increased size, and while you're breastfeeding they stay more full for a while. But when you finish breastfeeding you see the delayed effect that pregnancy caused.
They don't usually come back. Weight loss affects breast volume even more, for many women. I was 34D before kids, had a large family, long term breastfeeding for most of 15 years. After kids, once I'd lost the baby weight (2 stone), they were a very deflated 34B on a good day, basically empty. I developed my pectoral muscles but that only gave me a slightly rounded profile above my deflated breasts. I'd got the rest of my body back into shape and felt really fit and well, but still missed my boobs. Eventually I got breast implants; I asked the surgeon to make them as close to my pre-children shape as possible. It was a major undertaking but I researched very carefully beforehand, and it's worked out very well for me. They feel completely normal to me now.

My boobs disappeared after breastfeeding however 1 year later they reappeared back to their normal cup size, but definitely different in shape/ volume i.e. flatter on top.

Nb my youngest was 10 when I had the boob job, so I did try waiting to see if they'd recover!! Honestly I think weight loss just finished them off. It was definitely worth it though; losing that 2 stone has made an amazing difference to how well I feel every day.