Wedding outfit for DH!

[playthatviolin]

We have a wedding to go to in the spring - it's not a massively formal do but DH has two modes, his work suit or jeans!

Where to start? He has no idea and would happily put on his "obviously a work suit" but would also happily buy something new if I suggested it. What's acceptable/vaguely stylish for a middle aged man to wear to a wedding these days? I'm not much of a fashion icon myself either which is why I'm a bit clueless.

My DH is slim (but lockdowns have made us both less slim…) and gets slim fit 3 piece suits. He has his “best” for weddings and formal events, “good” for interviews, big meetings) and “everyday” for work.
He likes a 3 piece as he can wear the suit in so many ways. I like the 3piece as he looks quite sexy when the evening has gone on and he’s in the waistcoat with shirtsleeves rolled up.

Hm...my DH is tall but chunky, not sure he would get away with a slim fit suit but might be worth trying some on. His work ones are typical grey middle aged man office suits!

Unless the wedding was extremely informal, or on a beach, DH would always wear a suit to a wedding. He would take his jacket and often tie off in the evening if hot though. As a minimum, I'd say he needs smart trousers (not jeans), smart shoes and a shirt. Or, smart trousers like chinos, nice shoes and a well fitting, smart jacket.

Blue has been the colour of choice for several years now. I'm also starting to see brown suits making a come back. Mostly with a subtle check pattern. Grey is also ok. I agree about wearing a 3 piece suit, looks much better.
Avoid a black suit with a white shirt at all costs, very dated.
Only wear a crisp white shirt if you chose a coloured suit ( such as lighter blue), otherwise a pastel coloured shirt such as pink, lavender, blue is far more fashionable.
As far as ties go, and he really should wear a tie, chose a coloured possible slightly patterned tie.
Shoes- recent trends have been for makes to wear tan leather shoes.
My ds wore a light brown checked suit with white shirt and salmon tie and tan leather shoes. He is young and slim. He also has a blue suit.
Make sure he wears plain socks too. Younger men can get away with the no sock look, older men maybe not but do not wear silly, patterned socks, I've seen this an untrained the entire outfit.

@playthatviolin
Look at GQ. They did a great article in 2019. Still relevant now. Not a waistcoat in sight except on the formal morning suit example.

It’s cut and quality of fabric that matters. I like the navy check suits about now. DH (68 and grey) has one. Perfect for weddings with a light blue shirt and classy tie. Get sharp non flappy trousers and it’s an easy look to pull off.

I think grey is ok but charcoal is a bit too work suit. My DH also has a mid blue suit. It’s not navy. It’s lighter. It’s pretty smart and perfect for spring. Very well tailored double breasted is back (Lewis Hamilton getting knighted - wow!) AMQ of course but those suits are now making a come back.

[quote TizerorFizz]@playthatviolin
Look at GQ. They did a great article in 2019. Still relevant now. Not a waistcoat in sight except on the formal morning suit example.

It’s cut and quality of fabric that matters. I like the navy check suits about now. DH (68 and grey) has one. Perfect for weddings with a light blue shirt and classy tie. Get sharp non flappy trousers and it’s an easy look to pull off.

I think grey is ok but charcoal is a bit too work suit. My DH also has a mid blue suit. It’s not navy. It’s lighter. It’s pretty smart and perfect for spring. Very well tailored double breasted is back (Lewis Hamilton getting knighted - wow!) AMQ of course but those suits are now making a come back.[/quote]
I think it's his flappy trousers that make it obviously a ten year old work suit!

DH went on an exercise regime and the flappy trousers had to go! M&S do slim fit and they are much better. I think better cut trousers give men confidence and looking good never did anyone any harm. There are lots of other options at places like John Lewis but I tend to find M&S a good place ro start.

Only wear a crisp white shirt if you chose a coloured suit

Does Mumsnet have some sort of autocorrect where if someone types "white shirt" it adds "crisp"?

Yes. I’ve wondered that. I launder all shirts so they look good. I’m not sure what a coloured suit is either. Grey, blue, navy, charcoal, beige are all colours.

We have had about a million weddings so far this year. DP always gets a suit from M & S, waistcoat if it’s winter or really formal as he hates being too warm. The quality is usually great and I usually have a sparks card discount for him to use. Blue or grey is normally what he goes for and matches the tie to whatever I am wearing.

@Laufeythejust
It’s only just Feb. Winter weddings must be popular in your world. DH finds the fit M&S use work for him. Sometimes slim can be too slim but tailored works too. Just never regular. The Jaeger ones are more money but fabric and cut are great. All will last really well. If you buy a good quality lighter weight wool, it’s wearable all year round. You might go racing or to a smarter restaurant where you need better trousers even if you don’t need the jacket.

@TizerorFizz We are still catching up from the covid backlog I think. 5 in the last 4 months and mine is next month. If it’s not a wedding it’s a Christening!

Sounds like fun though. Really great couples can finally marry! Expensive for guests though!

We were at a wedding recently.DH(in his 60s) wore a slim fit navy suit with a very subtle self check ,pale blue shirt with a cutaway collar, blue tie with a bit of pale pink in the pattern,and tan brogue shoes.I must admit I thought he looked very smart.

Define "not massively formal do" ?

But a new shirt for his work suit.

My DH wears a kilt! But we were at a wedding recently (agree with the pps, can't move for wedding invites at the moment!) and I saw a lot of blue suits, narrow legs. Either with a plain shirt and tie, or I saw a couple of guys in quite loud patterned shirts that were tieless and looked great.

I bought DS's suit from Next and they had a really great range of different colours and cuts of jacket/trousers, quite a bit of pattern too to elevate things from 'boring office'.

The kids are going sockless though. I do not recommend that.

Sockless and skin tight trousers is the ultimate yuk look! I’m truly blessed that I don’t personally know any young men who would dress like this but I see them at race meetings all the time.

@Pinkginlover
Yes. That’s DHs look too. Definitely a modern classic look that suits lots of occasions/events.

Not overly formal just means not morning suits. Wear a suit and tie but take the tie off later if you want. It just means women need bigger bags!