Injector rude or over sensitive

[Anothergreatday]

I’m not sure if this is the right place to post but wanted perspective
So I went to get a consult on some ‘possible ‘ Botox for frown lines and chin area
I have had it once before , a very small amount and liked the results but since moved so wanted to consult before deciding again
Anyway , I choose a place with good reviews , I meet the injector and she explains the process for frown lines then gets to chin and says what she can do and says she can add fillers to side to soften the edge between chin and jowl , which was fine .
I then explained yes I’ve had that all my life ( the area that goes in a little ) and she says ‘ well we can’t help how we are born ‘ then adds that she can’t make my skin snap back to when I was 20 just soften it
Which of course I never expected it to be like I was 20
I came out feeling shit , tbh . Is that normal and I’m just over sensitive . I mean I know I went there for advice but she went above and beyond
Anyone else had this

Where do you think the rules are about what is rude, and how sensitive we should be? Who decides, for you, what you ought to be sensitive about?

She's rude. And insensitive. I wouldn't trust an insensitive person near my face for a sensitive procedure (or at all).

How has she been rude? She's warning you against unreasonable expectations.

And delivering free insults in the process.

@madisonbridges

How has she been rude? She's warning you against unreasonable expectations.

The expectations thing was the part I was most surprised about it was the ‘ we can’t help how we are born ‘ comment I thought was odd

That was rude. Find someone else more professional. Our local NHS hospital do it as a private service, which seems a good idea.

Thanks everyone , helps to get some perspective and opinions

She was rude. The whole point of these services is tweaking what you were born with.

I don't think she was rude, that wouldn't have bothered me at all

If you use aesthetic medicine services because you are unsatisfied with what you were born with, why would you be offended by someone commiserating with that opinion?

@Kudupoo

If you use aesthetic medicine services because you are unsatisfied with what you were born with, why would you be offended by someone commiserating with that opinion?

no I’m happy with the bits I was born with , she was the one raising that as an area to be ‘ fixed ‘ I was consulting on age related changes :)

Rather blunt, can’t imagine she has too many customers with such a lack of diplomacy.

I should clarify I was simply asking about relaxing chin that can get tight with age , she raised Jowls which never really bothered me as I have had that shaped face all my life
The chin bunching you though has created a deep crease that can get red and sore … it sounds horrible lol
Wasn’t really looking for commiseration just to see if my chin could be relaxed a little from the age related tightening
I do appreciate peoples opinions and hearing how it would bother some and not others
I sometimes find it hard to know whether I’m over sensitive e due to a history of pretty bad bullying

I don’t think the we can’t help the way we were born comment was rude. I would have (internally) rolled my eyes at the 20 years comment, because duh… but I’d have laughed it off.

I am also very sensitive!

I think the question should be ‘and why are you here today, what is bothering you?’ and treatment suggestions then address that. You will pretty quickly find out if your expectations were unreasonable.

I don't think she was rude.

I have a Russian beautician who delivers advice in the bluntest of manners. I'm sure some people find her rude but I'd rather hear it straight. I'm paying to have my face improved not my sensitivities pampered. She's brilliant as an injector and very well trained. That's what matters to me.

I don't think she was being deliberately rude, just cautious. A lot of people go in for Botox/fillers with unrealistic expectations of what they can achieve, and are then unhappy with the result because it's not as good as they thought it would be. And yes, some will think it'll make them look 20 again. So she has to be careful to stress that there is only so much the treatments can do to protect herself against claims from dissatisfied customers. As you are a new prospective client, she doesn't know if you fall into that category. Maybe she's had her fingers burned and is making sure it doesn't happen again.

That's not rude, it's managing expectations. Some people do think they're going to look years younger.