SIL’s hen party

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My future SIL will be having her hen party soon and I am really dreading being invited. Here we go…

Since she started seeing my brother, she has never once invited me out on an evening with her friends. I should add that she is a career copper and most of her inner circle are also coppers. So while she is friendly and visits with my brother, that’s the extent of her contact with me.

So I am really really hoping she does something extravagant like going to New York so that I can legitimately decline because I couldn’t afford it and I don’t want to be invited to socialise with people I’m likely only be allowed to meet on this one occasion.

Did you mean to put this on "Style & Beauty"?

She's either just inviting you to be polite and therefore won't mind if you decline or she genuinely thinks it might be nice to get to know you better and so it seems a good opportunity to do so.
Not really sure what her profession has to do with your post though?

You don’t want to go? Don’t go.

It’s a tradition, it’s a nice way to meet other people in her life but it sounds like you don’t like her very much.

If she’s not made the effort to forge a friendship and you’re not a bridesmaid, I’d get an excuse in quick so you can move on.

Maybe your brother got her invite you?

How long have you been seeing her brother though ?

This is normal? Why would she invite her fiancé sister to random nights out? Normally usual to ask to hen so you get to meet more people going to wedding

Why would you expect to be invited no nights out with someone just because your brother is is dating them? Where's your relationship with her? Have you made the effort into getting to know her either?

TBH if she's Job drunk, as many coppers are, then a night out with a bunch of off-duty coppers is probably boring as they tend to talk shop 😂 Or we did when I was still there 7yrs ago.

Who should your brother's fiancée invite you out with her and her friends?
Do you invite her out with your friends?

I'm good friends with my SIL (we are married to brothers) and I don't expect her to invite me out with her friends!

Re the hen do, if you are invited, you can decline! It's not a demand!

I think its weird you expect to be invited out with her friends! Do you invite her ? Do you ever invite her to spend some 1:1 time with you ?

Are you dreading being invited purely because you don't know her very well? If you don't know her well enough to that even the thought of being invited fills you with dread then I'd advise maybe getting to know her better. She is going to be your SIL after all. Could always message her privately seeing how the wedding plans are going? Good ice breaker.