Is this a normal thing??

[CrazyMama10]

So I’m 30 tomorrow 😭😩

I have a husband, gorgeous 18 month old, house of my dreams and a job I love. It’s not a career but that’s okay I love it!

I always thought by the time I’m 30 I’d be confident, sure of myself and know the person I am. But I’ve lost who I am. I don’t where she’s gone. I’m so sure of so many things and it’s so confusing. I don’t feel happy, confident or love me.

As a family we’ve had a very difficult 2 years which has led to depression and anxiety - I’m on medication and go to counselling. I know that will be affecting the way I am but I also know it’s not the whole contributing factor.

How do I find me again? Is this normal??

It's incredibly easy to lose yourself when you have a child and I haven't found the solution to this yet but wanted you to know you're not alone.

Happy birthday (yes I know it’s too early, but…).

I think when you’ve had to deal with difficult times you’re so busy with just surviving that you can feel a little lost after things get better. Also you mention that you have a 18 month old, becoming a mum for the first time also can cause a sort of identity crisis. That’s what happened to me too.

I think for now you should focus on doing things that make you feel good. In true Marie Kondo style : what sparks joy in your life?
Pick up a new or an old hobby, go out by yourself if you have the opportunity and do something you love. And accept that it’s normal that as our life changes, so do we.
It’s okay to find new friendships, hobbies, styles, foods we like etc. Go on a journey to find out what you like.

Have a wonderful day tomorrow