Glamourous mumsnetters, share your secrets

[Baggingarea]

Its probably coming out of lockdown but I am so sick of feeling scruffy and badly put together.

For once in my life I'd love for someone to call me 'glamourous'.

So glam ladies of mn, please please tell me how you do it.

You em tired exercise doesn't work - I can tell you science means exercise works for everyone!

You either aren't trying hard enough in your workouts, doing it consistently enough or doing the right types - and from what you've said if you're doing all the other things people have suggested this is probably the key missing component.

I say this because yes it will improve your appearance but more importantly will make you feel better about yourself x

@Baggingarea

So I'm slim, blonde and tall with a fair complexion. Eat healthily, do skincare shebang, paint my nails, hair treatments and styling on the reg, light make up but matched to my skin tone, nice jewellery. And yet I look at myself in the mirror and think bleurgh!!

Re body type I'm a bit knock knee-ed, tall and have always had a sticky out tummy (exercise doesn't affect). I have a flat chest which I always think makes me look a bit boxy so opt for shirts a lot.

Maybe it's time for fillers, I despair.

What is it that you don’t like when you look in the mirror, @Baggingarea? Because you sound gorgeous - tall, slim and blonde!

With the stomach, have you thought about yoga/Pilates? My first thought was it might be around posture and core strength.

Being flat chested - you just need to make it work for you. I’m small framed with small boobs and have learned to make it work for me, I can wear things that friends with bigger boobs struggle with - strappy tops without a bra, higher necks etc. Maybe it’s about working out how to dress for your shape.

Truly looking glamorous is a lot of time and effort and some, if not always a lot, of money

Disagree with the money aspect. My mother was a master of the art of understated glamour. She was born at the end of the war and grew up with rationing, in a northern industrial city. Despite having plenty of money for the second half of her life, she was never comfortable with splashing out and loved a bargain. She scoured charity shops and cheap high street stores for gems. She kept a close eye on fashion, and knew what suited her and what to avoid. She had wealthy friends who complained (affectionately) that they never looked as good as she did, despite the fact they shopped in Harvey Nics.

What was her secret?

1. Exercise and healthy eating. She spent hours at the gym and held back on the cake (total opposite of me ).
2. Keeping things simple. No fussy details or patterns. Keeping up with the latest ‘shapes’ of clothes but avoiding anything gimmicky.
3. She never left the house without makeup, styled hair and painted nails.

@enoughforme Hmm I don't have any issues with my figure - happy with my body and how it looks. I've always had a bit of a tum bulge even when I was very very slim and toned in my 20s. It's just my body shape. Gym and diet pretty spot on and wouldn't want to get neurotic about it.

@VenusClapTrap I think my issue is that I leave the house looking ok and then catch myself out and about and hair is messy, make up doesn't look as nice. Perhaps I just need to avoid mirrors or touch up more??

@Salanda I totally agree! I think I need to get back in some changing rooms and try things out.

Glamour and being glamorous means different things to different people. Many wrongly think that being glamorous is being dressed up to the nines, fully made up and adorned with flashy jewellery.

I think it's something undefinable, like a kind of aura or glow that sets them apart. Being well-dressed and groomed can amplify it, but there are some who look glamorous in a simple pair of jeans and zero make-up.

My mother was glamorous and many have commented that I am too. However, my sister, is not. We, my sister and I (that is) have tried to pick this apart and have concluded that for some, glamour is just innate. Not helpful OP, but I will add that good skin, good teeth and 'expensive' hair will be excellent foundations.