Best friend is my hairdresser but it's not working out!

[DogMum3107]

Hey!

So my best friend has opened up his own hair salon, so being a best friend I will always support his business choices ...

But ...

Since going to him the past 2 years my hair is just ruined and NEVER the way I want it!

The first time I went to him I had brown hair and wanted to go blonde (I have had this done before so knew the time it takes). I did not want platinum blonde, just a nice dark blonde for the summer....after the first go he made my hair platinum by using extra strong products. This made my hair absolutely awful and not what I asked for.

So the next time I went to him I wanted to go dark brown but because I hated my hair after what he had done....he said ok but then put extra blonde in because he thought I looked better blonde....I paid him £80 for the privilege.

Again I hated it ... so I had a word with him and said I needed him to lauren about what I want as i am the one paying for it. After him finally agreeing, he finally done my hair dark brown, I asked for a trim and not a lot off as I was growing back hair long, even know it is pretty long ... he then got the comb and done a blunt cut with the razors, and because it was not straight it was shorter and shorter....I ended up with my hair shoulder length (when I went in it was past my bra line) again because I am not one for upsetting someone I paid him the £80 as requested.

So I made the mistake again of going back to him, now my hair was dark what more can go wrong? I asked him to do the same colour as last time, he said ok.....little did I know he stripped my hair and made it light brown!!!! Not what I wanted at all!

I have had enough of him not doing what I want. Again he is my best friend but getting my hair done is a treat for me as I don't have alot of money and I work hard for the expense that I do have and it's just getting wasted!

As we have the same friend circle. a lot of my friends have said the exact same as me, they are just not happy.

How do I tell him that I need to go back to my old hairdresser without hurting his feelings and falling out?

I need advice as I am due to have my hair done again and just can not have it ruined anymore 😩😩

Don’t tell him. Just do it and when he sees you make up a small fib and say oh yeah my mum/sister/dh surprised me with a new do. Then do not elaborate.

You should have dealt with it head on but you haven’t so it’s just awkward AF now.

She can’t make up an excuse for every future haircut though. OP I think you just need to be honest, but tactful and tell him, you’ve not really been happy with how your hair has been lately so you’re going to go back to your old hairdresser who was used to doing your hair, and you hope there’s no hard feelings.

You don't have to tell him.
Just go somewhere else
If/when he mentions it you be honest! You never did my hair the way I wanted and I've had enough.

It's really difficult, but what the hell is he thinking? He needs to do what the client wants. I wouldn't give him any more chances, though. I'd get it done exactly how you want it and when he asks, say, "This is what I asked you to do and you didn't do it."

Tell the truth. Say you tried but to be complete frank he never quite did what you wanted. Sorry. Then move on.
You’re not responsible for his feelings so stop protecting them now.

Go back to your old hairdresser. When/If he comments be truthful - I wanted this particular colour/style and I know they are really good at that so I went there. Don't criticise his work just really praise them. Then hope he doesn't take it personally.

So awkward OP. I think you will need to bite the bullet and tell him that you want to try a different hairdresser for a while. He's not going to keep many clients if he doesn't listen to them.

It's actually my bugbear with hairdressers, they don't listen to what you actually request. It's like they have a vision in their head about what they think would look good on you, and just go with that. So frustrating.

You could tell him you got a voucher for a different place, and then kept going there because you really liked the result.

I’d just go to the other place and if he has the cheek to ask why you can tel him that when you ask for brown they don’t make it blonde!!

My friend is also now my hairdresser, but a couple of times things haven’t worked out exactly as I asked so I’ll send her a photo and point out what I wanted it to look like and she fixes it. She certainly wouldn’t expect me to pay her if I wasn’t happy.

Also if he made you platinum blonde in one sitting he is categorically NOT a good hairdresser so don’t feel bad for going elsewhere. He will ruin your hair - not just a bad style or colour, but actually snapping off and you ending up bald! So quit now before he goes too far.

Don't tell him before you do it. You might feel guilted into giving him another chance. Get your hair sorted first and deal with the consequences after.

Are you sure he likes you OP and isn't purposefully sabotaging you ? I can't believe he'd not listen to you that many times. Is he one of them people who think they know better and go off on their own tangent ?