How to stop being throttled by necklaces

[Londonmummy66]

May be an odd idea but has anyone ever come across a way to wear a long necklace wrapped round their neck more than once and not end up being throttled by one round pulling up tight around their neck?

I want to buy DD pearls for her 18th and feel a long strand that could be worn several ways would be the most useful. However I wondered if anyone had ever come across a gadget or clip that holds multiple strand in place.

This sort of thing?
www.pearljewelleryonline.com/pearl-necklace-shortener-sterling-silver-813-p.asp?gclid=Cj0KCQjw78yFBhCZARIsAOxgSx1CKu7PwHE82RCBK12NEZmlGbD1iytC8KNwstsUst9km-eB7LV4yHwaAiPZEALw_wcB

I have no idea but your thread made me laugh. I was young in the 80's when this was also a popular thing to do and I remember the constant readjusting!

It’s more common now to layer several necklaces than to double up a very long one.

Your present sounds lovely if DD is into pearls.

I'd get two necklaces, one a 20" and one much longer. That way, your DD can decide to wear one or the other or both. The way you're suggesting, she will always have to wear the really long necklace and won't have the options.

Look at Chanel! You wear them long! Is she into pearls? My DDs would not have wanted pearls at 18. Older DD wears pearl earrings occasionally for work (barrister) but it’s not a look younger people go for much. Unless it’s Chanel maybe? A long row of decent pearls is quite a lot of money.

I was thinking the same but afraid to say. I was given a pearl set for my 18th and it’s never come out the box. Feels too old and fuddy duddy even at mid 40s.

Does your DD want pearls for her 18th birthday? I was given a set for my 21st and I have never once worn them. I was also too embarrassed to tell people I had received them at that age, given the awful slang connotations and the fact that they are such an old fashioned gift. I feel bad as I know they cost a lot of money.

She's been eyeing up her sisters ever since she got them so yes definitely wants them. Also as a family we do have to attend various formal events from time to time so she will need them.

They won't be her only present either.

My thinking is that she would have more options with one long strand she can double or triple as well as wear long - more so than with two shorter ones. I don't think that the clip above would work but now knowing what to google I've found some figure of eight ones - there was a suggestion a silicone clip would do less damage to the pearls so I will see if I can find one.

My DD attends numerous formal events without a pearl in sight. What century are you in? The big sets of choker pearls are rarely seen at Royal Ascot now and the only pearls you see on younger people are Chanel. Have you given her options regarding jewellery? Are these real pearls or faux ones? Even I don’t wear my pearls much these days and I’m in my 60s!

I'm talking about very formal evening events when serious jewellery is worn - it may not be very modern but it is what we have to do. Her sisters were a family heirloom and she indicated she would like some too. I am talking about real and not faux and would like her to have something versatile if at all possible.

Sorry we are a bit of a throwback but have little choice in the matter.

My DD goes to very formal events with her job. Pearls, even if heirlooms, are not worn. It’s that simple. Chanel (real pearls) are the only ones younger people wear. Are you in the uk?

Pearls are really fashionable for the young’uns now. I think it is a lovely gift. Are pearls her birthstone?

@Londonmummy66

I think pearls are a lovely idea but I do think having a long strand and trying to make it look like an e.g. 3 strand shorter necklace won't ever work properly. & agree with @LookItsMeAgain - fewer options.

For the amount of times she will want a really long strand I would buy three shorter ones in varying lengths so she can wear one or three and she can just join them together for the flapper experience as and when she needs it.

It must be your choice but I would go with 3 carefully graduated ( in length not necessarily the size of pearls ) ones which she can join together as and when rather than one long strand. So she gets to wear one strand - or 3 or put them together.

Lovely to hear her sisters were a family heirloom - I know a typo but made me giggle.

Yes I am in the UK and as I am also attending these events I know that pearls are frequently worn by those like my DDs who don't have something more serious to wear. (Not that I would wish some of that stuff on my worst enemy!). I'm not a great fan of the Chanel pearls - they feel a bit tacky tbh.

I love the idea of three strands basilisk - why didn't I think of that? I think what I might do is buy one long strand so they are nicely matched and then get it split into 3 with similar clasps so they can be joined or not as she wishes.

I knew the collective wisdom of MN would have the answer even though it wasn't what I thought it would be.

BTW if her sister was an heirloom I think she'd decline the inheritance......

Most of the world realises that Chanel pearls are coveted have great resale value. Tacky is not a description I have ever heard about Chanel. You must be in an alternative world.