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What to do? Hair down there

14 replies

blisstwins · 04/04/2021 08:58

I am sooo embarrassed, but I am in my 50s and have always been natural between my legs except for shaving bits that would show when wearing a bath suit. I am now divorced and am about to date and have no idea what to do. Is it all supposed to come off? Any advice so I don’t embarrass myself would be appreciated.

OP posts:

Strangekindofwoman · 04/04/2021 09:00

You are not supposed to do anything. There are no rules.

lurch3r · 04/04/2021 09:26

The days of foofing about with our extremities to please a man are well and truly over at 50, IMO. Have fun dating and never apologise.

Bagelsandbrie · 04/04/2021 09:28

No rules at all, there never were really but it’s even less so now! Do whatever you like!

Gerla · 04/04/2021 09:31

I don't know why you would be embarrassed. Do whatever you like! Personally I would do nothing.

jessstan2 · 04/04/2021 09:32

There are no rules, bliss.

Just keep it tidy which, from what you say, you already do. We were designed to have pubic hair. Many people like it too, I've heard it said that 'the bush' should have a come back (or was it a back comb :-).

You'll be fine, good luck.

LegendDairy · 04/04/2021 09:33

You do what you want, not what anyone else wants.

Lamentations · 04/04/2021 10:07

I do mine how I think it looks and feels nicest to me. This is the best way to feel confident about it. Any new man is unlikely to care to be honest.

ferretface · 04/04/2021 10:30

If anyone's getting to see it, topiary shouldn't be one of their considerations!

At 35 I just remove anything that would show in swimwear.

Grimble69 · 04/04/2021 11:05

Perhaps use a bikini trimmer just to keep it short and neat, but still there?

GertrudeTheGreat · 04/04/2021 11:15

Ah leave it alone! It's there for a reason . Sometimes I used to get mine all waxed off and it's less comfortable tbh. Plus, thrush and ingrown hairs are more likely if you remove your pubic hair.

If you feel like it, maybe trimming it as you already do, but I honestly wouldn't do any more than that.

Good luck dating ! Hope it's really fun. If it is stressful and embarrassing and not fun, ask what value it is adding to your life and move on if the answer is 'none'.

withlotsoflove · 04/04/2021 17:37

I’ve got lots of brothers in their 20’s sons too ( unusual set up) but handy for your question.
We were talking about this at Christmas actually... and none of them cared if a woman was shaved or not. Just tidy apparently.
This is the age group that are ‘ supposed’ to prefer skinned parts - so l thought that encouraging.
my husband on the other hand... >

Alsohuman · 04/04/2021 17:56

I’d have thought men the age you’ll be dating would expect a bush. I waxed completely once and hated it, I could feel every thread of my knickers! Do what you want, any man who’s lucky enough to discover whether or not you’ve waxed should be delighted with whatever he finds.

MazekeenSmith · 04/04/2021 17:58

Wear it how you like
BUT in my extensive experience it's much much nicer to remove the hair underneath for the purpose of receiving oral sex. It is a commitment though if you're going to have regular sex as the stubble stage isn't much fun

Coffeepot72 · 04/04/2021 18:08

I’m the same age as you OP, I’ve had a Brazilian (landing strip) for years, so it’s still there but minimal and neat/tidy.

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