Anyone got any tips for managing DD's hair?

[MrsGulDukat]

My DD has got awkward hair.

It's wavy/curly but it grows weirdly and there is no form to it. She's loads of hair up top and it gets a trim every 12 weeks.

I switched to Sulphate free shampoo which has improved it a bit, but its just so dry and frizzy.

It wasnt an issue as much when it was shorter and it didnt bother her, but she's 13 now and its getting longer (as she wants it) and it's just so lifeless.

Anyone else had unmanageable hair that you've tamed?

Leave in conditioner. I was advised to use it by a hairdresser same type of hair by the sounds of it

I've got a good one. How many times would be best to use it.

Just realised I forgot to add a pic.

I’m similar to this, only more curly/wild when wet. Garnier hair food banana mask is amazing for adding some life back, and can be left maybe as a leave in over night. Superdrug do a good avacado and manuka leave in treatment spray too.
It might be worth getting tips for a blow dry too. I know its not always great for hair, but would give it more shape. I actually find it helps my hair a bit as it forms the shape- sort of trains it iyswim. And might only need it once a week or so.

I would also look at food choices and supplements so that it is nourished from within.

I would use Davines all in one spray on it, and blow dry it properly every few days so it has a nice shape - or go full curly girl method although I suspect her hair is quite short at the moment for her hair to fall in a way she likes if you encourage the curl.

My DD's hair is super curly when wet.

I've just got the hair food mask and her hair isnt so wild this morning.

Hair drying doesnt really do anything for her hair and any shape we do manage to get into the hair just disappears quickly.

Unfortunately poor DD was cursed with her dad's wild hair.

If your daughters hair is curly when wet you need to treat it as curly hair. So no brushing it.....it ruins the curls. (Very occasionally I brush mine to get out the old hairs).
The garner banana shampoo works for me, as does a solid bar of shampoo. No conditioner....it relaxes my curls and makes it frizzy.

You can look up curly girl method....but it's a lot of investment in time I believe.

Dry with a diffuser if you really need to (is the proper advice....I find leaving it to dry naturally is best or if in a rush I put product on....a gel for curls....tip my head upside down and scrunch dry it with the hairdryer).

My dd had wild hair. Very thick and curly. I could never get a brush through it.
I embraced the curl. Stopped drying it. I would wash it, apply a leave in conditioner and curl reviver. Comb it through with a large tooth comb and leave it.
It would look good for days.

Aussie 3 Minute Miracle conditioner works for me.

What’s it like if she doesn’t brush it?

Definitely embrace the curl. A good mask to nourish it once a week

A good leave in conditioner and a curl cream. Maybe some serum or oil but that might weight down the curls.

Stop brushing it. Brush with a wide comb when wet only.

Look up curly girl method, I probably wouldnt bother going full out curly girl as that takes ages but if she looks at curly girl videos on youtube there will be loads of tips and tricks on dealing with curly hair. It might be trial and error at first, see what works for her. Id also make sure youe going to a hairdresser that is good with curly hair. They can offer tips as well.

Also, she can do bits of the curly girl routine. I don’t personally love the super over defined ‘shiny’ curls that come with all the casts and plopping etc. But just washing her hair with a conditioner and not combing till it’s dry would be interesting.

Silicone free conditioner! L’Oréal clay one might be a good place to start.

What’s it like if she doesn’t brush it?

Curly but messy. I got her a wide toothed comb as I thought it would be better to keep the curls but to make it neater.

I'll try a few different suggestions with DD and see what works for her hair.

Spritz hair with water daily (just enough to make it damp. Not too wet).

Mango Butter - It's very light, stops frizz and conditions hair well. You can buy online)

Leave-in conditioner daily (Aussie Miracle Moisture Boost is good. As are Argan Oil leave-ins)

Zero sulphate and parabens shampoo

I have very thick, curly hair and the above actually makes it manageable.

Also Tangle Teezer Thick N Curly Hairbrush (around £10 on Amazon). I can't live without mine.

I have the exact same texture as your daughter. When I was little it was perfect ringlets but they became looser waves over time.

Go online and search for a shampoo called Shea moisture. It’s sulfate free blah blah blah but it’s the best thing I’ve ever done for my hair. It’s pricier than supermarket brands but so worth the quality. I think you can get it in boots too. I have the Jamaican Castor oil shampoo which promotes hair growth (because curly/wavy hair is far more prone to breakage) and their detangling conditioner. Also get an Afro comb (is that what they’re still called?) and have her gently brush out the knots from the bottom up and then leave it to dry naturally - literally 90% less knots and twice as many curls as normal. Give her six weeks and the hair will be unrecognisable I swear.

Agree- get some Shea moisture. I use the Jamaican black castor oil leave in then only curls gel on top and twist small sections round my finger into coils. (Then scrunch +++ or plop/plunk into an old T-shirt) Together with the sulphate free shampoo/conditioner, should be totally manageable.

Mine's similar - I find a Mason Pearson hairbrush helps (albeit expensive - 25% until Friday here www.escentual.com/mason-pearson-brushes/)

OK, it's a curly regime she needs.

Only comb when wet. Put through curl creme (will take some experimenting to find the right one and the right amount) and diffuse dry on the gentlest setting.

I like the shrub curl creme for the softest curls. Some leave the hair crunchy and you have to scrunch out the crunch. She could sleep in a silk cap to help with day 2 hair.

Stop brushing it when dry, that's what makes it frizzy. Curly and messy is fine. I have hair like that. You can't treat it the same as straight hair. Try experimenting with a form of the curly girl method. You can also try to comb and wash it (in that order) in the evening before bed and look how it looks in the morning. Mine looks better that way. Experimenting might best be done in the weekends at that age. Never wash without conditioner, curly hair is dry and needs lots of nourishment.

It's expensive but a little bit of Sebastiens molding mud scrunched into my hair does help shape my hair a lot better than cheaper products.

My friend at school had hair like this. It didn't sit well when short or shoulder length. She grew it long and the weight made all the difference. It went from the bane of her life,to her crowning glory. She embraced the curl.

I think either embrace the curl or go straight.

Try the full on curly girl method, don't use a brush etc.

Or but some ghds and straighten it.

Sorry, but you need to change your own attitude, as it is very negative. You should be looking for the positives in your DD's hair and embracing it and encouraging her to be proud of it.

I wouldn't advise her or you to use any heat at all.

The only time my hair has been blow dried in 28 years is when I visit the hairdressers.

Curly/wavy hair is supposed to be messy and/or wild and I don't understand why so many people think of that as a negative.