I'm not really talking about plastic surgery or genetics here obviously people will always have different genetics and looks but what about the other things, the products, treatments and tweeks?
Take two women both 45, both have decent genes but one has had access to good skincare all her life, facials, baby botox not to mention good quality food, respite from stress hairdressers etc. The other has muddled by with what she can afford from superdrug or savers, no facials or tweekments, dox hair dye, perhaps not having access to info on sunscreen or retin a.
The chances are the first woman is going to look a bit better, have less lines and look fresher (younger).
I know it shouldn't matter but it does still to some extent. I am very much in the second catagory as I never had the money for good skincare or access to things like retin a. I have always tried to look after my skin, I wasn't out caining it in my 20's but I feel like i look bad, my face isn't my own anymore and my confidence and happiness has taken a direct hit as a result where other better off people can continue to look young and vibrent into their late 40's and 50's, they feel better about themselves, potientially have better oppertunities, are precieved more positively in the work place and in society at large.
I feel like I am already being disregarded based on my looks and my mental health has taken a huge hit in recent years coupled with perimenopause.
Its not just about me its about all the women and men who are getting put on the scrap heap in their 40's because they can't keep up with how your supposed to age! I know we should just accept it and age gracefully but its not easy to be graceful when the reality is that looking old means you get passed over for oppertunities and when that happens then life does feel over.
I don't mind my age, but I do mind my face racing ahead of me and not being able to do anything about it.