Where do I even begin?!

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I have completely lost all sense of style. I'm nearly 32 with 2 little boys (3 and 18 months). SAHM, gave up working in an office (relaxed business clothing) after my first DS was born. I've always been quite happy in skinny jeans, boots, Bretons, padded jackets etc, but I really feel like I've lost my way style wise.

We've recently moved house and now live rurally. We love it, but it means clothing and footwear need to be practical. I can do practical, but I just feel so frumpy and have completely lost all sense of way looks vaguely nice.

I've recently been through a bit of a mental healthy blip. The stress of the house move triggered anxiety and whilst I've got that under control now (thanks sertraline!) I'm now a good stone overweight, probably 2 stone really. Hair is shit - thick, frizzy and wavy, looks ok if I straighten it but in no time it's back to frizzy mess. I wear minimal make up but it seems to just disappear. Nails are none existent because I bite them (think that might be the anxiety).

I'm 5ft 5 and a size 14. I need to be a size 12 to look less like a blob. I'm smaller on top, big bum and thighs. I used to be quite streamlined, but since having babies I'm just wobbly and lumpy.

Where do I begin. My diet needs a complete overhaul. I always used to drink loads of water but I seem to have stopped since we moved. I don't really drink alcohol but I do drink lots of tea.

My skin is alright. The boys still wake in the night, so sore is broken, but I do go to bed really early. I have time to exercise, but I'm knackered then for the rest of the day.

I basically have no clothes because we had so little storage in our old house. I'd never really noticed it before and just wore things on repeat, but now I've got a wall of wardrobes and I can see how little I have.

I don't really know why I'm posting. I just don't know where to begin. I used to love clothes and beauty products. I was quite well put together, polished in fact, and definitely had a personal sense of style. I know what I liked, I was confident it in and even if others didn't like it, I wore it well. Now, I just don't have a clue and feel conscious of how I look all the time but with no motivation to do anything about it. On my wedding day 4 years ago, I was a size 8/10, wardrobe full of great clothes, on the beach in a bikini on my honeymoon. I look at photos of me then and wonder who that person is.

Anyone felt the same or have any advice??!!

I could have written your post! Except my hair is fine and lifeless. But everything else, same!

For me the first thing is weight. I've joined slimming world online. I feel frumpy no matter what I wear at this weight.

Hi @whatsoccuringnow. I think I'm the same. I've done Slimming Workd a couple of times and lost lots of weight (3 stone plus) but it always goes back on. I'm tempted to go back now groups are back on and then just try to come up with a way of keeping the weight off when I'm slimmer.

Thing is, I have been confident and stylist as bigger sizes. I just seem to have lost my way.

I would think about small things you can do that would give you a happy boost.

From when my son was 4 months old, I spent 15 mins every night having a nice skincare routine. I cleansed, added serum, moisiser - then every morning I never looked as tired as I felt! People said my skin was glowing when I felt like crap.

How about a couple of nice jumpers - let's be honest with two kids in the country you aren't going to need ball gowns and stilettos. With a decent pair of jeans, a nice cool jumper, some nice boots and a flash of lipstick you can look really nice!

How about treating yourself to nice underwear.... Maternity bras are really not the ones to make you feel sexy or attractive!

I'm in a similar position - gone from having a job I enjoyed to a SAHM, body shape different after two babies and reduced time and budget for clothes and grooming.

I'm not in any position to give advice - but I'm making a conscious effort to look at what other people are wearing when I'm out and about, even just at parks, children's activities etc etc and noticing what looks good on them. I think well fitting jeans, 'cool' shoes and a good coat make the biggest difference to people's outfits, so that's what I've treated myself to.

I've recently got a pair of straight leg jeans, a pair of dr martens Chelsea boots and a coat which l love. I doubt any of these things are remotely cool, or even noticeable to other people, but I feel loads better.

I'm also putting a bit of makeup on every day - tinted moisturiser, mascara and blusher - it takes 2 minutes and makes me feel like I've made an effort. If your makeup is disappearing (and you enjoy wearing it) then maybe treat yourself do a couple of nice new things?