Sexually unattractive when naked

[DrOfSarcasm]

I'm very unattractive naked.

In life I can wear clothes to hide things, as well as make up to look prettier facially. During sex I can't do that so well. My stomach is horrid - while I am a size 10 I have horrible rolls and a muffin top. I've had these since my teens and can't get rid. Stretch marks on my boobs and thighs. I look like Jabba the hut.

I don't have sex much but can't shake this feeling, especially as my husband has remarked on my stomach etc in past. But even without his remarks I would still feel the same as I felt like that before anyway.

What is the answer other than cosmetic surgery? Never looking in the mirror and sex in the dark? How do people with less than perfect bodies feel good in their own skin because I can't imagine ever feeling so, I don't even like looking at myself in the bath

Get a nicer husband!

Check out Mel Wells on Instagram. She really helps with body confidence and relationships too.

Really sorry to hear you’re feeling the way you are, I hope you begin to feel more confident soon x

Nobody has a perfect body. Most men really don't care about stretch marks. I have eds and I'm covered in them. Exercise helps you to appreciate your body and feel better about yourself I think, or it helps me. There is always lingerie, but the husband sounds bad.

Get a new husband. What a dick.

At a size 10 there is no way you look that bad. I'm between a 12-14 at the moment and I look fab at a 12(I really do). Look up Danae Mercer on insta, great body confidence, she looks like a model in her "posed" pics but a normal woman otherwise

I don't know about the pages suggested and I'm sure those are helpful but I'd also say be cautious with Instagram in general. I don't usually use it but ended up spending time on there one day looking at random pics of celebrities and came away absolutely hating myself! I had to go through like a mental list reminding myself of things like posture, lighting, make up, filters, and cosmetic surgery to talk myself back down to reality! I am probably a slightly ott but have long struggled with body image issues and it was definitely not good for me.

I'm assuming your husband is the perfect specimen of a man?
Honestly op in the kindest way you sound really insecure - at my smallest when I was about 19 and a size 8 doing lots of sports and very toned I still had rolls when sat down or was in certain positions. It's a completely natural part of your body, I'm now a size 10/12 post 2 DCs with looser skin and stretch marks galore unlike some of my friends who didn't get a single one during their pregnancies and I don't think or feel the way you do.
And my DP has never in a million years commented on my body that way even when I went up to a large size 14.
The only thing he ever said was that it's completely normal and doesn't bother him in the slightest bit when I used to have initial wobbles about my postpartum body and that I shouldn't worry about it one little bit.

Why are you so unkind to yourself and liking yourself to jabba the hut?

Don't know that it is fair to instantly condemn the husband - OP has clearly had an awful image of herself for a long time. Often when that's the case we nudge and push our partners to comment, or we say horrid things about ourselves, then almost any response we get back is taken as condemnation/ confirmation.

He may be a dick saying lots of mean, unnecessary things, but we don't know that.

OP, I agree with other posters about building your confidence. On a practical level though, you could explore some sexy underwear, which covered your tummy, which you seem most worried about, but which is crotch less, so you can do the deed in! I like those!

Body confidence and sex appeal comes from within OP.

I’m 3 stone overweight and a size 18, and I am an Amazonian Goddess. That’s how I feel anyway.

My DH does a lot of phys for his job and he is proper buff. And gorgeous. And funny. And kind. And makes me feel like a million dollars.

I think you have a DH problem, not a weight/size/shape problem.

You ant fix what your (very normal) skin looks like, an you're not overweight. You have a self esteem problem and a DH problem if he's finding flaws with your stomach.

*can't

1. Your husband is a dick.

2. There’s a reason even Adam and Eve are depicted with fig leaves on.

@DrOfSarcasm this is very sad.
Your self esteem is rock bottom.
Your husband should be building your sense of attractive-ness, not hindering it. If he knew you were conscious of your stomach, why mention it?
No one has a perfect body, it doesn't exist
I'm not sure how old you are, I know women always care about their looks, but some perspective does need to be had as well. In the great scheme of life, it does not define you.

Your husband is being unhlepful. I am a size 16 with many saggy bits and have got naked with my fair share of men both in and outside relationships. No man has EVER commented on my body in a negative way and all of them seemed fairly pleased with the whole thing even some REALLY hot ones.
You are beautiful and you are just great as you are. Don't let any one else or yourself tell you otherwise!

Sorry can’t help you. I’m absolutely disgusting to look at even with clothes on. No sex for over 5 years. I’m just too vile. And I’m married. And I twice the weight I was in my wedding day. Yeuch

@FreeKitties you are my new favourite person

I would walk over hot coals to be a size 10 OP.

I find naked bodies a bit odd (maybe that is just me?!) so I would really recommend investing in a decent fashionable underwear that fits really well, it will do wonders for your confidence.

You also need a kinder husband. Commenting on your hang ups is like cold water on any embers of sexual fire in a LTR.

Even the models in magazines don't have perfect bodies.

The Insta models don't either.

Because they don't actually exist.

But there are women of all ages, shapes and sizes who feel horrific about how they look and others who feel amazing.

I'd say this problem could be fixed with a man who knew how to give you multiple orgasms! Men who can do that know how to make women feel relaxed and good, before they blow their minds with feeling how amazing it is to be in their own skin.

Shirt if that, forget the mirror, completely. Get used to how your body feels. What it can do. Because it's so much more than what it looks like at any moment in time.

I can recommend running. Start slowly, something like Couch25k and work up. It’s great for your mood and slimming for tummy, thighs and backside.

And get a new DH.

You definitely have a DH problem OP. I'm a size 22-24, and the biggest I have ever been. However, my DH makes me feel like the sexiest woman alive, even naked with all my fat on show! Also, following body positive bloggers on Instagram has really helped with the way I view my body.

especially as my husband has remarked on my stomach etc in past

Were they unprompted comments, OP, or did you say something and he agreed?

If they were unprompted, he is a dickhead.

Divorce. Now.