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My straight hair has turned curly and I don’t know what to do with it

25 replies

Fiddlersgreen · 06/06/2020 23:48

Just that really.
I’m 36 and I used be able to just blow dry my hair with my head upside down, not sectioning it etc, just running my hands through it and it would be silky and smooth and pretty much dead straight. Even when I didn’t blow dry it would dry very straight.

The last year or so when I blow dry the same way my hair ends up look huge and very frizzy. When I let it dry naturally it’s really curly but also very frizzy! I’ve never had curls before, never been able to curl my hair on purpose and now suddenly I have this hair I have no idea what to do with!

Any tips on how to handle my hair now it’s so different? How do I stop it becoming so frizzy? Thanks I’m advance

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Fiddlersgreen · 06/06/2020 23:50

Just want to add that because of this frizz I’ve taken to straightening my hair every day as it’s the only way it looks smooth and I really want to stop doing that

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ThatLibraryMiss · 06/06/2020 23:51

Mine did exactly the same, but when I was in my late 50s! Look up Curly Girl and embrace what you've got.

CountessFrog · 06/06/2020 23:53

Mine did this (well, it became wavy).

I think there’s a lot to be said for a good product and change of hairdryer.

I use Wella Reflections oil and a Dyson, I think it’s a good combination.

goose1964 · 06/06/2020 23:54

TBH it's going to be trial and error. The best effect I had was using some curly girl friendly product but it was too expensive so I'm now using a cheap shampoo, elvive's dream length conditioner and superdrug's curl enhancing cream which works for me.

Comfycomfyslippers · 06/06/2020 23:56

I have curly hair and use a small amount of coconut oil on my hair followed by anti-frizz serum. I found the brand or cost of to the serum makes no difference.

I am 45 and still can't handle my hair. I am waiting to hear the advice of others. It is a constant battle to look socially acceptable let alone groomed in my case!

But just to give you some hope, occasionally in the past I was given some compliments on this ol' mess. Once by a stranger on the street! I try to remember that day (20 years ago) when my hair is refusing to behave.

AbsolutePleasure · 06/06/2020 23:57

Mine did this because I had absolutely trashed it.

I got a salon conditioning treatment and shortish cut. I stopped drying it and stopped the highlights, found the right SLS-free products and stopped washing it every day.

It's better, but never really got it back properly.

PickAChew · 07/06/2020 00:03

Curly girl doesn't have to be expensive. Alberto balsam is a ourlt a pound a nottke and dies the trick (OK, the shampoo contains sulphates but doesn't inhibit curls on wavy hair and is good for clarifying). Garner hair food is pretty amazing. A lot of curlies have success with supermarket own brand gel costing pennies

Fiddlersgreen · 07/06/2020 00:04

@ThatLibraryMiss it’s so weird! I never knew this could happen.
I have always envied people with lovely curls but mine are anything but lovely Grin

Thank you everyone, I will look into the products mentioned. I hadn’t thought about using a serum. I never really used much product on my hair before

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AbsolutePleasure · 07/06/2020 00:06

Check your diet too. I take a multivitamin for a number reasons, but I'm sure it helps too.

CountessFrog · 07/06/2020 00:06

I find my hair changes and I need to use different products. I used Paul Mitchell serum and super sculpt religiously for about 20 years, but then my hairdresser used Wella Reflections Oil abd I tried that and never looked back.

PickAChew · 07/06/2020 00:07

Someone whose hair went curly at times, trying curly girl method.
www.reddit.com/r/CurlyHairUK/comments/gwp0h2/12_weeks_progress_i_thought_my_hair_was_straight/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share

oohnicevase · 07/06/2020 07:35

I've had curly hair all my life , you need some curl creme and a diffuser . It will frizz without something to encourage the curl ( well mine does) .. I don't do curly girl as it makes my hair feel dirty !!

lockdownalli · 07/06/2020 09:34

John Frieda Frizz Ease Dream Curls shampoo and conditioner.

When it's wet, brush through, then add John Frieda Frizz Ease Dream Curls Daily Styling Spray.

Then dry it upside down with hairdrier.

NEVER EVER brush it when it is dry.

You will learn to love your curls Grin

Aisforharlot · 07/06/2020 09:47

Same, and at the same age! Figured out it was because I had the mirena inserted. It's out now, hair remains curly/wavy.
I have not figured it out, but brushing doesn't help.

ThatLibraryMiss · 07/06/2020 21:15

Fiddlersgreen, I too always wanted wavy hair so I was charmed and delighted when I realised I had it! I read, replied and ran last night but I realised you might be a bit bewildered with all the Curly Girl stuff so here’s a starter version of Curly Girl for well under £10, just to see how you get on with it. You can tweak it with more expensive products later if you decide it’s for you.

Curly hair tends to be dry and CG is all about getting moisture into it and keeping it there.

You will need:
• A clarifying shampoo. This is a shampoo containing SLS, sodium laureth/lauryl sulphate. It will clean your hair of any build-up but it’s too drying to use all the time. Almost any shampoo will do. You can almost certainly use the one you’re already using.
• A cleanser. You can use CG-approved conditioner or a product marketed as a co-wash, or if you prefer bubbles you can use shampoo that doesn’t contain sulfates. Johnson’s baby top-to-toe bath is readily available and cheap or if you prefer a real shampoo the Happy Naturals range is £2.50 from Sainsbury’s.
• A conditioner that does not contain silicones. Check the label: you’re looking for one without anything ending in -one. XHC Ginger conditioner is OK and costs £1 from Poundland and B&M, or the Happy Naturals range from Sainsburys is £2.50.
• Boots curl cream, £1.99 from Boots
• Boots Essentials Extra Firm Hold Gel, 99p from Boots
• A t-shirt or microfibre towel
• A diffuser on your hair dryer

Wash your hair with the clarifying shampoo to get rid of the build-up of silicones from the products you’ve been using. Rinse well, then work in loads of conditioner – see YouTube videos for “squish to condish”. Rinse, but you don’t have to be too thorough.

Squeeze most of the water out of your hair using your hands then, while it’s still very wet, take a small pea-sized amount of curl cream and rub it between your palms. It’ll go white. Distribute it through your hair, squeezing and squishing using the water in your hair to help distribute it. Your hair should form thick strands. Now do the same with the hair gel, using quite a lot of it.

At this stage you need to get rid of some of the water. Squeeze with either a t-shirt or a microfibre towel – don’t use a terry towel. If you want to have a go at plopping (YouTube) it’ll help partly-dry your hair and keep it out of the way while you moisturise/dry the rest of you/get dressed.

Now, dry your hair using a diffuser. I lean my head sideways and drop my hair into the bowl of the diffuser, then bring it up towards my head before switching it on. You’re not supposed to use more than medium setting or medium heat but I use high, and hot for the first few seconds, because I have no patience for faffing around with my hair. Keep the diffuser in the same place for 45 – 60 seconds, then switch the dryer off and move it away. You should have damp curls. Don’t worry that they’re all stuck together in snakey ropes. Move to a different part of your head and repeat, then go back to the beginning until it’s all mostly dry.

Leave it for an hour or so, to finish drying, then “scrunch out the crunch” by repeating the squishing motion but with dry hands, breaking up the snakes into soft curls or waves. That’s it.

Only use the clarifying shampoo occasionally. I use it once a month. The rest of the time use either silicone-free conditioner or co-wash. As I Am coconut co-wash from Superdrug is nice. Conditioner or co-wash clean surprisingly well, but you do need to rub your scalp well with the pads of your fingers to get rid of sweat, sebum and dead skin cells.

After your monthly clarifying wash it’s a good idea to deep-conditioner your hair. I like Garnier Almond Milk & Agave Sap Normal Hair Yoghurt Mask, £3 from Amazon or more from Boots. Slather it on, comb it through using a wide-toothed comb, put on a plastic shower cap to keep it all moist and leave it for as long as you like.

If your hair is fine and wavy rather than curly you might find that gel’s too heavy for your hair and mousse suits it better. Try Cake The Curl Whip Whipped Curl Mousse, £5.99 from Boots, or Pantene Pro-V Defined Curls Mousse Level 05 is good but looks like it’s out of stock at Boots so may be being discontinued. You’ll also probably find products with coconut oil and shea butter are too heavy. Palmer’s and Cantu are great for real curlies but give me oily frizz.

It’s important not to brush or comb your dry hair or it’ll go frizzy. To prevent it knotting at night, use an elastic to hold it on top of your head in a loose ponytail. In the morning, let it down and give it a few minutes to settle. Then, if you need to, you can refresh it by spraying it with a mister or just using wet hands, squishing it and drying it again. If it seems dry, a few drops of conditioner in your wet hands, rubbed together then squished in, will help. You can use a bit of gel or mousse in the same way.

If you decide you like CG the thing I’d add is some sort of curl clumping product. I use Uncle Funky’s Daughter Curly Magic and it’s very good but it was a gift and I’m not sure I’d have paid that for it. Ecoslay Orange Marmalade is similar, as is Kinky Curly Curling Custard or home-made flaxseed gel. They go on wet hair before or instead of the curl cream. Naturalistic Products is good for CG products in the UK.

Check out the Curly Hair UK Reddit for more information and product ideas.

Sparklfairy · 07/06/2020 21:43

Figured out it was because I had the mirena inserted.

Interesting @Aisforharlot, mine did the exact same when I changed contraception too!

Mousecheese · 07/06/2020 21:56

I was going to post the same problem this morning. I am 38 now but it started at 36 and just seems to be getting worse. The underneath is now completely curly but the top is fairly straight with a bit or a kink so the curly girl wouldn't work for me. Also I have to wash it every day as I have very oily skin so couldn't be arsed with all the plop and diffuser faff. Hope you find a solution.

Thistles24 · 07/06/2020 23:47

I have the same problem. Tried the curly girl method, and my hair does go pretty curly, but gets sooooo tangled, and I know you’re not supposed to brush it! Do you spray with water until it’s soaked through so you can comb it? And then start all the styling again each morning?

SingingInTheShithouse · 07/06/2020 23:56

Mine did this too & darkened, a lot 😐

I switch between embracing the curls, or using Purplex hair treatment & blow drying it straight & the treatment lasts for a few weeks & helps it stay straight between washes

SingingInTheShithouse · 08/06/2020 00:00

If your hair is long, I can recommend one of these for drying & straightening it in one go. This & the Purplex works for me...

Hot Air Brush, CIYOYO One Step Hair Dryer Brush and Volumizer 4 in 1 Hair Drying Styler Brush Women Negative Ionic Straightener Curler Comb for Hair Styling https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B07Y81MSX3/ref=cmswwrcpptau_Yex3EbT37ZJ76

AdalindMeisner · 08/06/2020 00:04

I'm tempted by the curly girl method BUT only the back of my hair is curly/frizzy/wavy and the front poker straight! (The back underneath is also ginger and front and top blonde...)

BumblePan · 08/06/2020 08:55

@ThatLibraryMiss
Fantastic post on CG.

MrsVeryTired · 08/06/2020 09:43

Mine used to be very straight too and is now wavy. I usually let mine dry naturally to embrace the waves (in a kind of beachy waves way).

Fiddlersgreen · 08/06/2020 10:34

Thank you everyone for your replies.

@ThatLibraryMiss wow thank you so much! Lots of info there. Sounds like you’ve really embraced your new curls!

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flabbyflabbyflabguts · 08/06/2020 22:33

For years I thought my hair was just badly behaved, I used straighteners etc and would always end up with frizzy hair after an hour or so.
After my son was born, and he couldn't stand the sound of hairdryers, I started to just leave it, and lack of time meant I stopped using my GhDs
I called my hair annoyingly kinky at this point, until. A hairdresser pointed out to me that my hair was wavy from the root.
It's possible your hair has always been wavy, you've just not realised it.

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