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Teenage girl grey hair!

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daisymay133 · 26/05/2020 20:25

Hi can anyone help

Dd is 14 and has thick dark brown hair and it’s very healthy but she has so many greys!!! It’s getting hard to hide and I’m reluctant to have her dye it as she seems too young to me

She’s not massively stressed - normal teen stuff, eats well and is very olive and tans easily so I don’t think it’s a melanin issue

Any ideas? Thank you

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Cheeeeislifenow · 26/05/2020 20:26

Whqt about brunette shampoos?

I found one lurker grey in my six year olds hair!

RyanBergarasTeeth · 26/05/2020 20:27

Some people go grey very early its genetic. Dye or go grey are the only 2 options. Look into natural dyes maybe? My sister went grey at 13 as did our fathers side of the family whereas im going grey at 28. Just some peoples genetic make up.

IHateCoronavirus · 26/05/2020 20:28

My friend was much the same, then it stayed stable for a few years. As a young adult she started using colour.

Is DD bothered by it?

You could always try wash in wash out colour? If she is it might blend it without damaging the hair?

Mrsjayy · 26/05/2020 20:28

I had grey from 15 not an awful lot I got highlights to start with. I don't think 14 is young to start dying hair for fun.

CatBatCat · 26/05/2020 20:29

Sometimes it just happens at that age. I had greys at around 16. I dyed it to cover it up for a while but stopped around mid 20s. I'm totally grey now at 35 and it doesn't bother me anymore.

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daisymay133 · 26/05/2020 20:32

It doesn’t bother her yet but it’s gotten a little worse so it won’t be long

It’s a lovely chocolate colour so I don’t really want her to have highlights

I suppose firstly we couldn try the brunette shampoo but I thought that just keep dye in -not actually change the colour🤔

I guess it’s more common than I thought!

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IHateCoronavirus · 26/05/2020 20:35

There is one on amazon called Marion that is 4-8 shampoos so very temporary. It seems to have good ratings. It looks like the sachets we used to use on teen sleepovers. Inexpensive so might be worth a try if she becomes worried about it.

APeakyBlinder · 26/05/2020 20:38

How about a semi permanent a few shades lighter than her natural colour? It would cover the greys without changing her natural colour and make the greys just look like highlights

Matildatoldsuchdreadfullies · 26/05/2020 20:40

I had clear grey streaks behind my ears at 14 (first grey hairs at 9). Never bothered me - I actually quite liked them. Oddly though, by the time I was 19, I had no grey hairs at all. And I don’t have that many now (aged 47).

I did find out that pregnancy tended to clear up stray grey hairs for me. Though a box of home dye would probably have been easier.

UncleFoster · 26/05/2020 20:46

If starys bothering her at 14 Id just dye it, Id get highlights from the hairdresser

Its all very well to say its a lovely chocolate colour, but its her hair and if she starts to get self concious about it then its not worth keeping it a lovely chocolate coliurjust because you like it.

Panpig · 26/05/2020 20:49

Premature greying can be caused by iron deficiency anaemia, so just a thought incase she needs some iron supplements. It might help stop more going grey

InspectorAlleyn · 26/05/2020 20:52

I started going grey at 15. I used to use the colour sachets and then moved on to semi-permanent dyes.

Lynda07 · 26/05/2020 20:59

I knew a girl in Wales who went completely grey as a teenager, apparently it was a familial trait, she was quite healthy. Her hair was quite thick, long, wavy and silver. Lucky for her she was very attractive but undoubtedly it was ageing, at the same time very striking. I'm sure, as she got old, she wouldn't have looked particularly old. She had a daughter, I wonder if the trait has continued in her but the little girl was biracial and maybe favoured her father more.

SquashedSpring · 27/05/2020 02:11

I had a friend at uni who was almost totally grey at 20, she loved her hair, never tried to hide it and she looked amazing.

It seems very sad to me that some people on here are advising that a 14 year old girl's hair is wrong and she should invest her time and money in covering it up for the rest of her life.

LellyMcKelly · 27/05/2020 07:57

Ask her what she wants to do if she is worried about it. I’m finding my daughter has a very different, and much healthier, view of her looks than I did when I was 14. She’s more interested in fitness and skin care and eating healthily - and embracing who you are rather than relying on looking ‘pretty’ to make yourself more attractive for the sake of it - make up, perms, etc. This point I’m trying to make is that it might not bother your daughter at all. Grey is very fashionable and it’s ‘who she is’. It’s nothing to be ashamed of and there’s nothing wrong with it - and she might rock it! Grey hair with a young face can be absolutely stunning.

Ratonastick · 27/05/2020 08:57

I started going seriously grey at about 15. It was horrible and my Mum wouldn’t let me dye it. She went on and on about me being too young and that I’d ruin my hair and should just accept it. I hated it and Was absolutely miserable about it. In the end I dyed myself while everyone was out with a cheap, shitty box dye. It looked crap and did no end of chemical damage. Also led to a lot of rows with Mum yelling that I should have listened to her. It was an absolutely shitty part of my teens and could have caused a serious rift, though fortunately my Dad stepped in. I wish my Mum had listened to me and how it made me feel and helped me dye or highlight it properly at the hairdresser.

CeeceeBloomingdale · 27/05/2020 09:01

I started showing greys from age 11, I'm in my 40s now with completely white hair after being a slave to dye since my teens. Superdrug make a great dry shampoo which is brown and covers up a few greys if it bothers her but if it doesn't I'd stop drawing attention to it. It's not a medical condition and not a sign she is ill.

Rangoon · 27/05/2020 09:09

I started greying as a teenager and had very dark hair. I dyed it. Wash in washout colour is totally useless at hiding grey - especially in very dark hair. Streaks in very dark hair look exactly like somebody hiding grey hair. When it bothers her, start using a semi-permanent. By the time I was at university I was using permanent dyes. Contrary to popular belief my hair did not break off and I have loads of it. Hairdressers rave about the condition of it. When she gets a bit older it will probably be more flattering to go a shade lighter and when she gets to my age she can be a blonde. I was beyond upset at the time but I can honestly say that it never affected my life other than spending a lot of time and money on keeping it coloured. Don't listen to people who tell you it might stop - it won't. Hair that greys young, generally greys fast. Also, forget natural dyes - the reason that they fell out of favour was that they weren't much good and didn't have the consistency of modern dyes. Some of them are also powerful allergens.

bsc · 27/05/2020 09:16

I started going grey at 16. There was no way I could have afforded to dye it! Even a home box every eight weeks would have bankrupted me at that age.
Luckily it was mostly at the temples, so changing my parting his it for years (blonde, so hard to see unless up close).
It didn't become noticeable until I had my children in my 30s, when my hair changed colour.

Do look into the deficiency mentioned above- it could be very relevant in a teenager that perhaps is a picky eater or is dabbling in veganism. B12 deficiency is a cause of grey hair (probably what kicked mine off), linked to pernicious anaemia.

bsc · 27/05/2020 09:18

Not sure about it all going grey- I'm still only about 15-20% grey now, and I'm 46!

GreyHare · 27/05/2020 09:18

Surely if she is not bothered by it then you leave it be, I stopped colouring my hair in my early 30's because I was so grey, I wish I had stopped earlier but people get so judgemental over it, we all go grey early in my family my brother was pure white by 25.

ScrapThatThen · 27/05/2020 09:23

Let her lead, if she is blissfully unaware don't make it an issue. If she asks to dye it, say you'll look into options with her and don't stress about it being young to start dyeing - she doesn't have to dye it forever. A few highlights would probably blend better. Or with her shade of hair she might be able to get away with a henna.

LockedInMadness · 27/05/2020 09:34

Premature greying can be caused by iron deficiency anaemia

Interesting. My DD(18) found a grey hair the other day and I didn't think anything of it. But she has become vegetarian in the last couple of years, so that could be a definite possibility.

MabelMoo23 · 27/05/2020 09:39

I was going grey at 18 and I hated it. I’m 40 now and my hair comes through completely silver white and I despise it. I’m now completely blonde

If she’s not bothered then that’s ok, but if it starts bothering her, you should listen. Not keep it a chocolate brown colour because you like it, because in the nicest possible way it’s not your hair

My grey hair really really upset me so don’t underestimate it

User56781234 · 27/05/2020 09:51

I thought this was going to be a post about how many teenage girls dye their hair grey! I'm incredulous at how many teenage girls there are out there with 'statement' grey hair. I'm constantly joking with them that we could swap and they can have my middle aged grey hair for free!

My hair salon's receptionist / assistant is late teens and her waist length hair is dyed grey and she looks absolutely amazing. If your daughter has olive skin and chocolate brown hair any greys could look stunning. If she has no health issues and it isn't bothering her then she could style it out, I'm sure.

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