Mummy makeover?

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Maybe the wrong board to post but I'm not sure where else to put it!

Considering a "mummy makeover" (tummy tuck/boob job/lipo) as an all in one package.

I've had 2 children very close together (and 2 c secs to get them out!) as well as 2 older children and my body has become irrecoverable. It's affecting my mental state as I can't seem to come to terms with it.

So, have you had one? Or any similar procedures? Are you pleased you did it? Did it make you happy/happier? How did you go about finding a clinic/surgeon?

Husband is on board as long as it's what I really want.

My feeling is, don't put your body through three unnecessary surgeries. Your body is marvellous and has carried you this far through your life and carried your children.

Definitely spend some time, energy and money on yourself but perhaps on activities, experiences, treats not quite brutal invasive surgery to make your body live up to some made up, unrealistic ideal.

You're perfect how you are.

Am interested to see what replies you get. I have two young DC and my body has changed so much. I’ve lost all my baby weight plus quite a bit more and have been working out a lot, so when I’m dressed, I look in good shape.

Underneath it’s a different story I have a lot of loose, wrinkled skin on my stomach that seems to get worse the slimmer I get, and my breasts are like two deflated balloons.

I also live in a hot country so spend a lot of time in a bikini and socially, plastic surgery is very acceptable and actually the norm for a lot of women.

The things that are putting me off are

a) the cost
b) the risk and the recovery
c) just the fact that I am uncomfortable with the concept of taking such drastic action for something so superficial

For now I’ve decided to spend a bit of time and effort focusing on my skin and hair. I’m hoping that directing my energy there, I’ll feel better about myself and that will be enough!

I have no experience but I've heard a tummy tuck is a major operation. And I know someone who had lipo and who couldn't sleep for years on the area that they had performed lipo on because it remained painful there for a long time after the surgery.

What I mean is don't think too lightly about it and educate yourself on impact and risks.

Thank you for your replies!

I think you're all absolutely right. I'm chasing a standard that isn't attainable anymore. My body won't be the same.

The recovery from my c sections was absolutely brutal. It'd be insane to put myself through that again.

Added to that, my eldest children are daughters. I can't teach them body positivity if I'm considering unnecessary surgery to permanently alter it.

I'll always lust after my previous body, but it's gone now. My husband loves it as it is, it's myself that needs to learn to love it too.

Thank you all.

I love your last post OP. You've really hit the nail on the head about setting and example to your daughters as well. Good for you