I'm a mess

[Funtcase95]

Just found this topic and realised I'm a total mess and need help.

DH has always said he prefers me in jeans & t shirt and likes my absolutely shit hair as it is. Turns out whilst I've been nursing and caring for our 13 week old DD as well as the house and dog, he's been checking out various other women and from what I can see, they are the polar opposite of myself.

I am not asking for this help for him or to change myself to the kind of woman he's been ogling after, because he can fuck off, but for my own self esteem.

For reference, I'm 5"5/6, size 14, really long (badly coloured) plain side parted hair with no fringe. I usually wear skinny jeans, a t shirt and vans or converse and makeup wise generally just simple foundation & mascara.

Please help me glam up a little!!

Just adding my thoughts: you're so young and have excellent hair! Fuck him.

Honestly though, your hair isn't the issue: at a time of vulnerability in your life your husband is spending his spare time checking out other local women he spends time doing a hobby with.

I'm really sorry that he's a shit husband.

Ugh, sounds like your husband is still making it all about him. What a creep.

If you've got pictures of how your hair used to be and you'd like to get back to it, take those pictures to a decent hairdresser. Your hair is an accessory you wear every day, it's worth a bit of investment!

If it hasn't already, you'll probably notice the start of the dreaded post partum hair loss soon. It's only shedding the extra hair you've had during pregnancy but it can look quite alarming to see handfuls of it coming out and it'll feel thinner than you'll have been used to, so a decent colour and cut might make you feel better about this. My son is 9 months old now and my hair is just about getting back to normal.

Congratulations on your baby