Help a girl out!

[weddinghelp1]

Hi ladies,

I'm hoping you can help, I've had a rough year or so and completely and utterly let myself go.

I'm only 23 and around 5'4. I was always teeny tiny and loved the gym. I always took such pride in my appearance and absolutely LOVED shopping however this last year I had 4 pregnancy loss's and got diagnosed with a condition which will make it hard for me to have a family.

I'm not trying to make myself feel back to me, although I know I never will fully be back to me after what I've been through.

I want a new me! Soo I've gained loads of weight, I've got a moon hairy face due to steroids, my hair is long and thick but with absolutely no shape. I have big boobs now and I just DONT know how dress them. I've gone from a size 6-8 to a size 10-12.

I have a very round belly now and big hips, wide waist.. and well I JUST DONT KNOW HOW TO DRESS anymore.

My friends are so beautiful they all have tiny frames but my body has changed so so so much since these losses. I'm also only tiny so I know a size 10-12 isn't big but for my frame it really is.

People have commented on how scruffy I look and how I'm " lazy now" but the truth is I don't know how to dress!

How can I make myself look like me again!

I still do the following:

Eye brows threaded
Eyebrows tinted
Nails are done

However:
My hair is horrendous! I don't know what to do with it with cheeks like a chipmunk
I'm very pale for me
I look tired, I have bags under my eyes,

And this belly & boobs! I CANT DRESS IT!

Please help a girl out!

Sorry! I'm not 5'4 I am 5'1!!! My big fat thumb!!

Do things which make you happy don't feel like you need to dress or change your appearance because of what people may say. You have clearly had a difficult year and I'm so sorry to hear what you've been going through. It's nice to hear you want to look after yourself and do things that will make you happy as long as that's why you are doing them!!

I think with weight gain the most important thing to remember is your body has changed so things which you used to wear don't seem to look right anymore as you said your boobs have got bigger etc.. embrace it! You need to be confident in your own skin and happy in yourself forget about what other people think/ say! X

Hi @weddinghelp1 please don't take this to be offensive but do you think this could be a confidence and emotional issue. You have been through a tough and traumatic time and need to give you and your body chance. Have you spoke it through with anyone how your feeling. I agree with demi, do things to make you feel happy, treat yourself how you deserve to be treated and don't be so hard on yourself.

Aww, I really feel for you. I was hoping for some useful replies to your actual questions as I'm in a similar boat! Quite a bit older and taller, but after miscarriages followed by chronic illness/pain I've gone from hourglass to looking like a potato, so nothing fits and I have no clue what to replace anything with to suit my new 'shape'! Best of luck with getting back to feeling comfortable with yourself. Perhaps lose the people who call you lazy?! Although if you're unlucky like me it could be people you don't want to lose, such as DM!!