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To Botox or not to Botox

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SuzanneSays · 12/12/2019 20:05

Am turning 40 soon and have been pregnant or breastfeeding for nearly five years. Baby finally off boob, and I just look tired and my 11s are getting really strong. Am tempted to get Botox but could only really afford to do it once a year - is it worth it? Would have to do it secretly too as dh would think I’m a knob (grin)
Should I just do it?

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Chippitychops · 12/12/2019 20:20

Do it! I’ve had it twice and love it. Also do it in secret and DH hasn’t noticed which makes me think either he pays zero attention or the Botox isn’t as good as I thought!!

Wynona · 12/12/2019 20:25

Your body, your choice. I would never put it in mine. There is so many other ways to look amazing for example by buying clothes with colour that suite you.

Celebritydave · 12/12/2019 20:29

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Beachcomber · 12/12/2019 20:31

I'm 46 and it's all going downwards..
It's age, it's natural. I say embrace it. Self love and all that.
Women are fab and beautiful at all ages.
Plus maybe give your body some time to recover from children and breastfeeding...
It will maybe surprise you.

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SuzanneSays · 12/12/2019 20:33

Oh I don’t know! I’m really low maintenance day to day- happy to do school run in no make up and messy hair, but just feel like I look sooo tired no matter what I do.
Don’t like the sound of Botox face! Just want a tiny bit between my eyebrows as I have bitchy resting face and frown a lot ha

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MyHairNeedsASnip · 12/12/2019 20:36

I had it, it was bloody marvelous! I also didn't tell DH as he would probably have something to say about it. The change was probably slight to everyone else but it made me feel better not having the 11's. I just look less disgruntled than I did.

jamdhanihash · 12/12/2019 20:37

Got mine done secretly, DP hasn't noticed. It's fab. Do it.

TheNinkiestNonk · 12/12/2019 20:38

Do it if you think it will make you feel better! A little bit will not give you Botox face. Do your research, find a good practitioner. Most good clinics these days are all about achieving a refreshed less tired-er look than a completely frozen one.

stealingchristmascake · 12/12/2019 20:47

Sorry to jump on the thread, but how exactly do you research it? How can you tell if reviews etc are genuine?

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SuzanneSays · 12/12/2019 20:56

stealingchristmascake this is my worry too- I live abroad and have found a plastic surgery clinic that also offer Botox so M hoping they will know what they’re doing- but part of me worries they will go full ‘Botox face’ on me!

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SuzanneSays · 12/12/2019 20:58

I think I will try it once and see how I feel.
In a way I hate that I want to do this, but in another way I think why not- I colour my hair, wear make up (sometimes)...

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SuzanneSays · 12/12/2019 20:59

Also, what about only bro g able to afford the ‘upkeep’ once a year?

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Wynona · 12/12/2019 21:00

The colour that you wear will have more of a profound noticeable difference than botox.

JoJoSM2 · 12/12/2019 21:00

Botox face takes a lot more than a bit of Botox. I’d say go for it. Once a year is good for slowing things down and you definitely won’t overdo it.

BennyTheBall · 12/12/2019 21:03

Believe me, 'wearing clothes in a colour that suits you' will not help your resting bitch face.

It will stop you looking tired and cross and will do wonders. It is the best thing ever, when done by someone good.

followthestardis · 12/12/2019 21:07

i find looking tired and cross keeps people at a tolerable distance :)

pigdogridesagain · 12/12/2019 21:08

I have it every 12-16 weeks and I absolutely love it. I most definitely don't have a " frozen " face.

Thedot90 · 12/12/2019 21:09

Do it - it just makes me look less tired, no one in my family noticed (had it before my brothers wedding) but they did ask if I had had my hair done/general positive comments about my appearance, but were shocked when I said it was botox (waited a day to see if anyone spotted it). Just had a top up and it makes me feel just a bit fresher, no frozen forehead here. Go for it.

OxfordCat · 12/12/2019 21:24

Just get the tiniest amount they'll do at first. It looks ever so slightly weird for the first 7-10 days and then it settles and is fantastic. I don't think women should be made to feel guilty about this stuff. As you say, it's no different from dying your hair or wearing make up in terms of morals. It's not the same as taking a scalpel to your face imo. (And even then, your body your choice). It leaves your body entirely and you could choose to never have it done again if you didn't like it. After your years of child raising you deserve a boost.

I'd start with looking at Skn clinics.

JemimaPyjamas · 12/12/2019 21:32

I have had it, also secretly, and love it. It is mixed to the strength you want so if you start off with it very weak, just taking the edge off, you won't end up with a botox face. I too was concerned about this but I basically now have less of a frown in my 11's, softer crows feet and a slightly smoother forehead. Nothing dramatic at all but certainly worth it - I have had it done twice and each time lasted about 4 months. I also like that it is slowing down the ageing process on my face

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SuzanneSays · 12/12/2019 21:44

Thanks to everyone for your replies-will try to book an appointment between now and Xmas...unless I chicken out ha

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user1471449295 · 12/12/2019 21:48

If you haven’t had botox before it’ll need topping up before the 12 months is up. You will eventually only need a top up roughly once a year, however the first couple will wear off more quickly

Tinyandpetite · 12/12/2019 23:23

I have it every 14 weeks, I don’t think I look ridiculous! It’s helped so much!

To Botox or not to Botox
followthestardis · 13/12/2019 02:38

fuck botox. fuck the idea that living past procreational age is something to be ashamed of. wear both your smile and resting-bitch-face as a badge of honour.

NightsOfCabiria · 13/12/2019 02:53

I think it looks lovely in repose; animated, not so much. I also think a glass like forehead over 40 looks weird, when your eyes, neck and hands are ‘worn.’