Groomed, attractive and approachable

[Wisenotboring]

Just that really. Lost my way a bit three children down the line and am the wrong side of 40. Don't feel I should throw in the towel yet with my appearance!

Help me find my way back after 3 children, 40th birthday!

I'm not the person to ask about it

One thing I have found good, that only happened in the last few years, was finding some clothing shapes that really suit me. Eg, I am quite slim, with good legs, but with small boobs and a biggish stomach, and I've found that flared-skirt dresses with slightly high waists (sitting on my narrowest point) are really good on me, so now I try to buy them when I see them.

As for grooming - no, I will never have the patients.

I think a bit of fake tan really makes a difference even the dove moisturiser make giving a bit of a glow and a nice hair cut and colour. Eyebrows done and some mascara helps too

Fake tan
Fill in your eyebrows
Haircuts and dyes - book your next appointment as you are leaving
Spend some money on proper good clothes if you can. Expensive jeans, good boots and quality coat are a great start if you can afford it.

Thanks so much. Will book in for my eyebrows and ponder on which bits of my body are best. My baby is only 5 months so it is hard to be patient whilst I try to lose the final new pounds and tone up!

Try to work out what your body shape is and what clothing shapes suit you best. You could take loads of different styles into the changing room and try to see what works for you, or you could book an appointment with a stylist at your local department store; there is no obligation to buy and you might find it really helpful.

I think it is really important to Stay Fashionable. Post-DC is a bit of a fork in the road where people start to encourage you to dress in particular colours or whatever.

Don’t do it! Keep reading the fashion press. Try unfinished mum jeans with platform skater trainers etc. It will give you confidence.

It's not as much about fashion it's what suits you . Some people look Ridiculous following silly fashion trends for teenagers

Yes, I think fork in the road really explains it. Although I don't want to be shallow, it just seem that lots of my peers have just given up, or are in the same joules type rut. Although some days I cant be bothered and I certainly have a few joules items lurking in a wardrobe, surely I can still dress with a bit of an edge? I want to project look that has a bit of something up to date/attractive but is still realistic for my overweight body and child/baby based lifestyle.

I think it helps to plan a child free day and dress for that. Then see what works. It might surprise you. There is no need to dress in leggings and t-shirts/tunics etc. just because you have children.
If you need to, go shopping, to all your old favourites before children.
But go child-free. It might take a few trips to fully get into the swing of things. Get a haircut, buy new make up, new boots, start with the things that make the most impact.