Statement hat and gloves for 4 year old girl

[Tootired1]

I bought my 4 yr old daughter a navy coat from John Lewis for school. It’s a nice, warm, practical coat but tbh a bit boring. I’d love to get her a nice hat and gloves set to wear with it but I just haven’t found anything that I like. Please tell me if you’ve seen any great hats and gloves for a 4 yr old to wear with a navy coat, TIA

[NoFucksImAQueen]

why do people have to be so horrible. poor kid? are you fucking kidding! nothing about this question screams poor kid.

[MustardScreams]

Blimey, can’t even ask a question about a hat without getting jumped on now.

It’s quite obvious op just means bright or interesting hat and gloves as her coat is plain. I’m sure she’s not forcing her daughter to parade around in statement necklaces and earrings to satisfy her whims. Shall we try and be a little less ridiculous?

[user1480880826]

A 4 year old doesn’t need to make a statement about their appearance. Just get her something nice that you don’t mind losing very quickly.

[OrchidInTheSun]

I tell you what's ridiculous @MustardScreams. Treating a 4 year old like a fashion doll.

[MustardScreams]

So children can only wear very dull, muted colours with no thought going into their appearance AT ALL. In case someone thinks they’re being used as a fashion item.

Honestly, give your heads a wobble.

[MustardScreams]

Ffs if op had said ‘bright and colourful’ hat and gloves no one would have mentioned anything. Everyone is bonkers today.

[lunar1]

I'd go for peppa pig, it makes the statement that she's 4.

[LeekMunchingSheepShagger]

Fuck me are there actual grown up people who care what scarf and gloves their 4 year old wears?! Poor kid probably wants a peppa pig one like her friends.

[cultkid]

@MustardScreams I am so with you. People have issues these days, or maybe a lack of them so they need to find issue with something trivial like a colourful set of gloves to go with a plain coat 😱😱😱
Their kids must be in a potato sack!

On a separate note when my mum used to buy me lovely beautiful or bright things I felt so treasured and special. I felt proud of how I looked. Also same with having my hair blow dried, nice body creams etc. You can be presented in nice clothes or smelling nice and still be a child who is of substance and a child who has compassion and a heart. You can be clever. You can come from a loving family. You can know that it's just stuff.
A dressed up child and a good or a happy child are not mutually exclusive.

[sheshootssheimplores]

Mini boden always has massively cute winter stuff for kids.

[EmmiJay]

What @Cultkid said! Nicely put

[Doyoureallyneedtoask]

Cultkud Well said. I will go one further and tell you that I never had cute or special clothes. I didn’t go without but having an older sister I rarely got new clothes and what I did get was practical and hardwearing. I remember being VERY envious of my little friends who had nice clothes.

[minipie]

Why not let her look at H&m or john lewis or next websites and pick her own?

[twosoups1972]

What a bitchy thread!

@MustardScreams I agree with you. I don't believe for one second that all these virtuous posters who think it's 'ridiculous' have never enjoyed buying nice clothes for their dc.

OP, I agree hot pink would look lovely. Or hello/orange print?

As for things getting lost - yes sometimes but it's not as bad as posters make out! My 3 dds went through primary school hardly ever losing things. As long as everything is clearly named you should be fine.

[twosoups1972]

*yellow/orange

[Tootired1]

Oh wow! Seriously shocked at the furore my post has caused. Firstly, I don’t really post that frequently on Mumsnet so I’ve clearly posted in the wrong section. Sorry, I’m still learning to navigate this huge site. Secondly, I don’t dress my child up like a doll or accessory, I was merely looking for suggestions on a nice hat and gloves set somebody may have seen to brighten up the plain navy school coat I’ve bought my daughter. I accept that my wording of ‘statement’ probably wasn’t the best choice of word but I hadn’t considered how some might interpret it. Thank you so much to all the posters who have understood my intention when posting and tried to support me and also for some of the links that have been posted too. Genuinely shocked at how unkind and hurtful some people can be with their posts. It really doesn’t bother me but does make me wonder if some people consider the effect their post might have on someone who wasn’t in a good place mentally. I respect the point some posters were trying to make but would just ask that people consider how they word things. I’ll certainly be more careful about how I word things in the future and where I post. Just to clarify, I also spend time trying to find nice clothes and accessories for my son too. I love both my children more than words can express and they both roll down muddy hills, splash through puddles, go rock climbing etc

[Letthemysterybe]

Blimey OP, what a load of over reactions you received. I know a lot of feminist parents, who dress their kids in organic gender neutral clothes and reject girly, pink and ‘mini mummy’ clothes etc, but still take pleasure in buying their kids, boys and girls a cute brightly coloured woolly hat. Personally I’m now I’m love with the foxy one posted earlier. So my 4 year old will be wearing
That one!