This is not HODIL

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I think that since my mother passed away a few months ago, I've aged a lot. I haven't been sleeping. I cry a lot at random times. Just heaving sobs, at the oddest reminder. Today was walking around Tesco looking at Christmas sweets.
Someone sniggered at me "getting old now" and cackled. This really hurt for lots of reasons. Although she doesn't know me very well and so doesn't know about my mother's passing. But it made me realise that I do look very tired. This isn't "how old do I look", I'm 52. It's just how do I look better?

I’m sorry for your loss 💐

You are very beautiful indeed, you look a little tired as you would through your grief this is to be expected I think.

If you really do want to perk yourself up a bit looks wise then perhaps a trim and treatment for that glorious hair. That and brow tidy would make you feel better about yourself I reckon.

More than anything, sleep and plenty of good food and water.

That sniggering person probably wasn’t laughing about you looking old, but they sound a dick anyway, who cares for their thoughts?

Grief shows up in the eyes, a downcast face and posture and it’s perfectly ok to be sad about your mum of course. You might feel a bit more control of your life with a bit of pampering, a massage maybe? Nail appointment? More to treat yourself nicely than anything else.

I am not saying this to be nice, I don't think you look 52
On the picture I don't see wrinkles or frown lines, you have great bone structure.
I agree you look a little tired, but that's the grief, and no amount of lipstick or hair cut is going to make that grief go away, I don't know if lighter eye make up may just lighten your eyes a little and help you feel more youthful?

Just be kind on yourself and that will shine through far more and make you look young.

You look fine, just tired. You’re a year older than me but you look younger, I’ve got more lines! If you’re crying a lot make sure you’re drinking plenty.

I’m sorry about your mum. The person is Tesco is awful.

OP, you are very beautiful. I lost my mum a few years ago and I aged overnight - it is grief. I know this might not be what you want to hear, but after 2 - 3 years, even though the grief is still there, there is less of it on your face.

If you want to look less tired, you could try botox (it worked for me after mum died). But otherwise, honestly, you don't have anything to worry about in the looks department - just be kind to yourself.

You are a very beautiful woman and you don’t look 52 but as people have said, your face shows your sorrow.

There are all sorts of superficial things you could do to look fresher and brighter, maybe a hair trim, eyebrow reshape, make up revamp and even some botox as someone else mentioned but to be honest I don’t think you need to. If it makes you feel better then do it but don’t feel you have to. You really are beautiful and it’s your grief that’s bringing you down and you can’t rush that grieving process.

You don't look 50s at all!! And you have lovely hair. I don't think there's anything you need to do to look better? But to feel better about your looks you could treat yourself to a facial or a manicure, or new clothes, whatever makes you feel ok.

Whoever said you're getting old is very mean & there may even be some jealousy there; whatever don't listen to them.

It's normal to look sad when you're grieving, & totally understandable as anyone would be the same.
I'm really sorry to hear that you have lost your mum best wishes xx

Sorry about your mum I lost my dad at the end of last year and pretty much didn’t sleep or eat for weeks and looked absolutely haggard. It’s a shitty thing, grief.

I think it permanently aged me a few years I have to admit.

However you are stunning, genuinely, and I can only think that person was jealous and/or a bitch.

And when you start sleeping again you’ll look and feel less tired (stating the obvious here). And drink more water. But seriously, go easy on yourself.

I think you are very beautiful.

[Flowers] sorry for loss.

When I was grieving my mother, eating lots of foods with beta carotene in them (squash, sweet potatoes, carrots) gave my skin back a bit of a glow. It was just by accident, but it was noticeable.

Oh and do tell me who was so nasty. I will go and find them and bite them if you like.

You are beautiful and you look very elegant. You do look tired and you can see your sorrow. I can see my own grief on my face, particularly when compared to pictures of a few years ago. I also don't sleep .

I think drinking lots of water helps, plus good skin care. Also a good hair cut always makes me feel better in myself.

Oh and a good quality fish oil helps lots of things

You are naturally a truly beautiful woman and look like you’re going to be one of those women who ages well.

I think you should focus on anything that nurtures you and makes you feel good - exercise in the fresh air, long hot baths, pampering yourself as much as money allows (facial, massage etc) - and particularly anything that aids sleep. I really don’t worry too much about anything fussy around your looks while you go through this initial grieving stage, as you don’t look haggard or ‘old’, just sad and a little tired.

You are gorgeous! Skin, bone structure, glorious mane of hair. Look after yourself .

I am very sorry for your loss and I don't think you look old, just sad. Be kind to yourself.

You are beautiful and look much younger than your age.

You look much younger than 52! I think a little subtle peach/pink blush always makes me look younger/fresher

Seriously you are beautiful.

Person in Tesco needs a good slap.

for you.

Those of you saying OP doesn't look in her 50s - that's what 52 can look like. Women can be very attractive - like the OP - in their 50s and beyond!

That woman probably thought you were looking in your 40's - or whatever 'old' is to her. You're beautiful. You genuinely don't look the age I would imagine I will look when I'm in my 50's. I don't think you need a thing, except to be kind to yourself.

You are a very beautiful woman and the person who said that mean thing to you is horrible. Grief catches you unaware in so many different ways. Just try and be kind to yourself, all the basics like try and have a calming bedtime routine, drink lots of water, try and eat well, try and do some exercise every day (yoga might be good: <a class="break-all" href="https://www.google.com/url?sa=t&source=web&rct=j&url=m.youtube.com/watch%3Fv%3DiEVn59U2_LY&ved=2ahUKEwj897n2lvnkAhVpRxUIHdR4CFkQwqsBMAB6BAgFEAU&usg=AOvVaw3QbQN2eCcNQanxLdHazmX0" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">Yoga for Grief). If you care for yourself that will make the biggest difference to you inside and that will show on the outside. As far as the cosmetic stuff goes do what gives you pleasure and don't worry about the rest.

You are very beautiful and don't need to do anything at all - you have a lovely face, please don't have anything injected into it.
It doesn't matter how old you look - you have beautiful bone structure and lovely colouring, you have the kind of face that will still look strikingly beautiful when you are 80!

Sorry for your loss

In what context was it said? Seems like a very peculiar thing to randomly walk up to someone and just say.