Why can't Hairdresser's do anything different.

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I am at a loss. I think maybe what I am asking for is too difficult. I ask the hairdresser to give me a haircut like the first image. And I always end up with pretty much same dark brown and a bob which curls in around my face. When I want it to be choppy as U see in the pic. Is it not possible. Is my base just too dark. Or is it that the hairdressser just knows how to do a bob in the same way always. Do I need to find a different hairdresser?....

I'd say your hair is too fine to have that thick choppy look you are after

I agree, the look you're after has much thicker hair.

I have fine hair, but loads of it. My hair is blunt - cut in a bob (but collar bone length). If I just dry it and straighten, it lies close to my head and smooth like yours, but if I use product and dry it differently I can get it looking much more like the photo you are after. My hairdresser tells me that the key with fine hair (especially with quite a lot being used in the fringe) is a long layers (if any) and a blunt cut. Yours looks a little more graduated around the front too - but I am terrible at these kind of things; I throw myself at the mercy of a hairdresser in whom I trust and who, crucially, is not afraid to tell me what he will or will not be able to achieve with my hair type.

I like your hair cut though OP; even if it's not what you were after.

Your hair has a totally different texture to the picture.

You might have better luck curling second day old hair & using texturising products. It might get it a bit closer to what you are looking for.

I think the cut suits your hair type though.

My hair is actually quite thick. But I suppose the straighteners lose the thickness.
Maybe I should have less of a fringe at the side and grow that out a bit.
The reason it starts so far back is that I lost and am still losing hair since baby born 10 months ago.
I agree regards graduation. It looks like it's graduated. I didn't ask for that but it is.
I'll maybe give the hairdryer and texturising products a go and see what I can achieve.

What about the colour. Is that achievable. What would it be called.
I suppose I'd like the hairdresser to say. You won't get that look because your hair is to thin etc.

Thanks for comments. I think it's ok. It's just I always come out with basically the same cut! Even when I want something different! 😂

You could try a different hair dresser perhaps. One who is more willing to be honest with you about what works with your hair.

Ask for a blunt cut.

The photo has been styled to curl outward as well, yours either naturally or has been straightened to wards your face - use a curler or straighter to curl away from - search ‘beachy waves’ on YouTube for a tutorial!

The colour is very ashy, and you look like you have warm tones to your hair & skin.

Semi perm toner could get you there, but you’d be fighting the warm tones.

Do you want that nice sharp 90 degree angle where your fringe ends? Right now that area is sort of blended into the rest of the cut. I think the key to getting the look you want (if I understand correctly) is disconnecting your fringe from the rest of the cut, not blending it. Explain you're after a sharper corner at your temple.
Blunt isn't quite the right word to clarify what you want, if what you want is a sharp corner on your fringe. If you ask for a choppy cut, that's less blunt.
No idea if any of that makes any sense to anyone but me!
Also looks like your fringe would look more crisp if it was a tiny bit shorter.

I’d also go to a different hairdresser. My friend tried a new one after 20 years with the old one and he made her look like a new woman. Took about 10 years off her with a far more flattering hairstyle.

Definitely looks like your hair has been tapered in at the bottom rather than free and choppy - I do think hairstylists get used to default “one size fits all” cuts (in my experience!)

Yes yes to asking for a blunt cut! That was the turning point for me. I have a note in my phone as a reference point for me to tell hairdressers what to do or not do. Ie no point cutting , feathering etc ( I have fine hair).

Also beware of false loyalties and do not hesitate to switch up hairdressers. I am convinced that many switch off after a while and just do what they automatically do!